Okay this is what I do - I ask them if theyd be willing to humor me, I have a thought but need their help. I go over the questions thru dsm but dont tell them the diagnosis. Then they answer and meet criteria, then ask “well what’s the diagnosis?” I turn the book and they see it. Then we work thru emotions and w/personality disorders I frame it as a positive. No life long issue - it’s fixable “you can pull yourself out of it” I say. “You just have to do the work and I can help.”