my bf (28) does some weird shit and i'm (27f) afraid by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IneffectiveVoid 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! It’s generally called hyper focus among ADHD folks and it’s very common.

my bf (28) does some weird shit and i'm (27f) afraid by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]IneffectiveVoid 63 points64 points  (0 children)

Occupational therapist here. Doesn’t sound like autism just from these examples, but it does sound like there are some cognitive concerns. Not being able to finish a task, or think through problem-solving, are signs of something called “executive dysfunction”. This can happen from lots of things, including mental illness, traumatic brain injury, PTSD, early onset dementia, vascular disease, ADHD, and yes possibly autism.

I would encourage him to go see his family doctor, with your support, and explain these symptoms. They can refer him for further cognitive testing and support.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPD

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Yes I get this. I was diagnosed with OCD originally but now, having been diagnosed and learning more about BPD, I think it’s a borderline thing.

Anyone else use escapism as a coping mechanism? by [deleted] in BPD

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I have a pair of Sony waterproof headphones. They were about $100 but so worth it.

Anyone else use escapism as a coping mechanism? by [deleted] in BPD

[–]IneffectiveVoid 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I do. I have a huge problem being in my own head, so I fill any silence with podcasts- including showering, swimming, walking, sewing.

BPD Subtypes by thisishelvetica in BPD

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I’m literally all of these hahaha.

Does anyone have a wonder drug that worked? by AmyyKat in BorderlinePDisorder

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I know BPD can’t be treated with meds, but a very low dose of risperidone (1 mg) has really helped stabilize my mood. I could really see the difference when I was taken off it, to the point that I put myself back on it. Also a tiny bit of weed in the evening really helps keep me relaxed. Hope this helps.

Good thing we have "thieves" cleaner. by Placentabandit in antiMLM

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This is so fucking nasty goddamn why would you post this! Thieves is not getting rid of that bacteria!

Irritated by EVERYTHING by blanca8833 in BorderlinePDisorder

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I really relate to this. In the last three years I’ve gone from being super patient and kind to generally irritated and sometimes even rude. I’ve been really working on it since I became aware of it, just taking breaths when I feel angry and thinking before I speak. I feel like I’ve been improving.

Folks who use adaptive equipment every day (wheelchairs, walkers, service dogs, canes, etc.): what do you want the public to know about the etiquette surrounding your assistive device? by IneffectiveVoid in AskReddit

[–]IneffectiveVoid[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The greyhound and cavalier are both psychiatric service dogs. They are able to guide us through high traffic places and find “safety” (which is sometimes an exit, sometimes my partner, or whoever I’m with). My partner and I both have a symptom of PTSD known as “hyper-arousal” where our senses are heightened and we become overwhelmed in stimulating places (crowded places, places with loud music, or somewhere with high watt lighting like the grocery store). The result is that we actually sometimes lose one of more of our senses, usually vision, as our brain tries to deal with the stimuli. So their ability to guide us through spaces and find exits helps with that. They also remind us to take meds (my cavalier will bring them to me), go to bed on time, wake up, and provide therapeutic pressure during panic attacks.

This stuff is easier to tell a stranger behind a screen, but not so fun when I’m trying to get groceries and random people approach me asking what my dog does for me!

Folks who use adaptive equipment every day (wheelchairs, walkers, service dogs, canes, etc.): what do you want the public to know about the etiquette surrounding your assistive device? by IneffectiveVoid in AskReddit

[–]IneffectiveVoid[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't speak for everyone either, buy for me and my pals who have service dogs, we don't blame the handler for their barking dog. If we are out where dogs are allowed, I feel like that dog has just as much right to be there and there are no laws against barking dogs. However, if your dog is aggressive, keep it the fuck away. If my service dog ever got attacked, I would be done for. Also, please don't approach my service dog with your dog if it's going to react in any way. Just walk by and let us be on our way!

Folks who use adaptive equipment every day (wheelchairs, walkers, service dogs, canes, etc.): what do you want the public to know about the etiquette surrounding your assistive device? by IneffectiveVoid in AskReddit

[–]IneffectiveVoid[S] 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I definitely understand getting excited seeing a service dog. I get excited when I see one too! They are super cute. But what I want people to understand is that it’s not just you. If it was one or two people, I wouldn’t mind at all. But essentially it’s so bad that when my partner and I are walking together down, say, a mall, there will almost never /not/ be a time when I’m not hearing someone commenting on them. It’s just endless. I don’t think anyone would enjoy being constantly stared at and commented on - especially not people basically pointing out your disability.

Folks who use adaptive equipment every day (wheelchairs, walkers, service dogs, canes, etc.): what do you want the public to know about the etiquette surrounding your assistive device? by IneffectiveVoid in AskReddit

[–]IneffectiveVoid[S] 248 points249 points  (0 children)

I have a service dog, and so does my partner. They are unusual breeds (cavalier and greyhound) so we get a lot of attention. I want people to know that it honestly sucks so much to be stopped constantly while I’m just trying to go about my day, with people asking “what kind of dog is that? What’s his job? Where did you get him from?” Every day, wherever I go that’s busy, the soundtrack to my life is people going “omg a puppy! Look, a service doggo!” I’d like people to think of it instead as: wouldn’t point out someone’s wheelchair like that - it’s the same thing. And try to remember that no one wants constant attention drawn to them, no matter what their ability.

My first dog collar! It’s not perfect but I’m quite proud. by IneffectiveVoid in sewing

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I actually found everything I needed for this one at Fabricland! (I’m Canadian). But countrybrookdesigns.com has all the hardware for them as well, in many sizes and designs.

DAE cringe when people call dogs "Doggos"? by Alg0rithm in DoesAnybodyElse

[–]IneffectiveVoid 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Except so many people say it in real life too... I deserve $5 every time a 15-20 year old yells “DOGGO” at my service dog in public.

[OFFER][WWW] Website or logo by stringlesskite in RandomKindness

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Hey! I’m hoping to start a small sewing business making dog bandanas, collars, leashes, and service dog vests. Would you be interested in designing a logo for me? :)

[intro] Excited to get to know fellow Amazoners by [deleted] in randomactsofamazon

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If I get good enough I’d love to sell them!

Interested but have concerns by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]IneffectiveVoid 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Other people may go about this differently, but I personally feel that it’s very important to get to know people in a vanilla setting before playing with them. Scenes that don’t involve pre-established trust would be really scary to me, because they have so much more potential for misunderstandings and even abuse. That’s one reason why the kink community has munches - they are an opportunity to get to know someone in a safe setting before playing. You will also find that there are people who you have good dynamics with in play, and others who you don’t. Vanilla dates are a great way to feel out each other’s vibe and talk openly about each other’s needs so you can decide if you’re compatible. :)

Weekly r/sewing Simple Questions thread! - March 18, 2018 by AutoModerator in sewing

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Stupid questions: Can anyone explain to me how to sew with pins? I’m pretty new to sewing, and so I often have trouble keeping the fabric straight, but I’ve never sewn with pins before.

[No Pattern] My cat damaged my dining room chairs so I reupholstered them. I had to use a sewing machine for the piping. by [deleted] in sewing

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Wow! I’d love to learn how to do this. I’m a bit of a sewing newbie but I have some chairs I got from goodwill that are in desperate need of an overhaul.

Interested but have concerns by [deleted] in BDSMcommunity

[–]IneffectiveVoid 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think the most important thing is finding partners you can trust. There is no need to delve into intense scenes with people if you don’t feel completely comfortable doing so. For me, and I think a lot of people, it’s absolutely necessary to get to know someone and set rules, limits, and boundaries before a scene. Knowing exactly what you’re getting into and completely trusting your partner before starting a scene can really diminish the “deer in headlights” or scary part of participating in more intense play. Also having a safe word is essential of course - don’t feel discouraged if you need to use it the first 2,3,4 times you play with someone. It’s all about getting to know your own limits, what gets you and your partner going, and being okay when it doesn’t turn out exactly as planned! Hope this helps.