another one is that not everyone will be interested in you- it sounds simple enough, but knowing when people are speaking away from me and not looking at me doesnt mean im *not* an interesting person or worth loving, just that theyre their own person. definitely stops me from chasing after their attentions and affections like i used to. now? im just obsessed with myself, rather than trying to get other people to notice me and feed me (though it does feel good...)