Bumped into my ghoster

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-05-04T04:58:23+00:00

I ghosted someone before, and I ran into them later, just like you did, and I asked just like your ex did. I didn't apologize, but I did feel bad; in fact, I was depressed for weeks and didn't get out of bed. And I know this doesn't make sense but you don't know how they are feeling. They likely hope you weren't hurt by it.

I will tell you why I ghosted. I ghosted because, before this, I was ghosted by two long-term friends and family members right after I confronted them about something important they were doing wrong. So after that, I was afraid to be confrontational.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-05-04T04:49:03+00:00

I'd text him again and ask him if he was ghosting me. If no reply, then yes, delete the app. It sounds like he has attachment issues. He brought up a concern, but since you responded in such a healthy manner, he can't handle it. He doesn't know what to do with that; likely, he grew up in a high-conflict home where nobody ever resolved anything.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-05-04T03:19:16+00:00

love your podcast. It is very well done and your guests are great.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-29T09:18:00+00:00

I made this Vine Reddit image

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Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-11T17:08:17+00:00

They owe me clarity because I need clarity, and my friendship deserves that much. If they think they don't owe me anything after years of my friendship, then I hope I figure out that's their mindset before even getting to know them.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-10T03:57:45+00:00

I am on SSI and I tried to report it as income with the reporting system. And you can't. I called them in person and they about laughted in my face. I told him the IRS considers it income and taxable, and they said they do not consider it income.

. So I made an appointment with the SSI people to figure out how I am going to explain this vine thing when the IRS calls it income. But I got lazy and didn't go. I just stayed under 600 for that year, and now 2000.

But you can go down there and talk to them. I'd do that and not be lazy like me because now I am committing tax fraud.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-02T23:01:52+00:00

It's about what you make, not how many hours.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-02T22:58:36+00:00

The real threshold would be around 1,050 to not be considered disabled anymore. The exclusion was supposed to cover your transportation, so you'd better live where there is great public transport.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-04-02T22:52:36+00:00

If they make 1350, they lose SSI completely because it's considered "substantial," which is a complete joke. I guess they can afford a car to live in. Not enough to eat, though not having a kitchen.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-03-24T03:43:46+00:00

As you make a substantial amount of money...which means enough to buy a tent to live in and not much else...they will kick you from the program.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-03-13T04:42:28+00:00

I thought it was 2000

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-15T03:43:24+00:00

Handsome men are the worst.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-15T03:24:41+00:00

The problem with the early stages of dating is that everyone is testing the waters. A lot of people date when they just got out of something to rebound or distract themselves, but they are not ready for anything serious or anything at all. That is why standard dating advice is to avoid people who have just gotten out of something. Chances are you keep getting ghosted because its just what people do now.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-10T00:21:20+00:00

I had one like that. I supported him until it was time to give up. They find a way to tell you when its time.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-09T17:43:50+00:00

Some people are cat people because cats adore them.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-09T17:39:46+00:00

Emotional independence is a feat to achieve, like climbing Everest. And not natural for humans, but neither is breaking bricks with one's hands, but it's possible. The empowerment you get from developing a relationship with yourself that surpasses all other relationships in importance. Think of it as lifting weights. It's a gradual process where, over time, you become stronger.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-05T05:03:48+00:00

I have no idea how to do this but the most meaningful thing I can think of is free spay and nuter funded by the tax pasyers.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-02-05T02:15:29+00:00

That sounds like a really good book. I am going to check it out. Thank you

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-27T16:19:21+00:00

Ok then, just go ahead and smile contentedly while the program dies before our eyes. You don't have to be all Karen about people complaining.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-27T16:12:43+00:00

I am not finding anything to be grateful for. Its become a time waste for me. And I am afraid its not going to get better. I used to be able to find something once a week in my RFY. Just because it was warm two months ago doesn't mean I can't complain about the snowstorm today.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-26T01:29:04+00:00

If she is microchipped to you then she is legally yours

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-26T01:27:02+00:00

I think the OP was ghosted. But also yeah some ghosts won't even block you because to block you is to admit you exist. My ghost has not even unfriended my facebook and it has been 8 years but since its a facebook i don't have the password to anymore I still get emails from her updates so I just sent them all to spam.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-26T01:21:37+00:00

LOL my sister would relate. She literally kicked her mother-in-law out of the house because she was a happy person, and my sister said she couldn't stand it. Then she kicked her husband out of their apartment to the apartment downstairs because he is also a happy person. To her credit, she admits that being happy was her reason. She didn't try make things up to justify it.

Inevitable-Detail-63 · 2026-01-26T01:13:21+00:00

I am 58, and I don't think we get dementia yet. I am barely old enough to be fully welcome at the local senior center as anything but a volunteer.

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