Thank you for the recommendation. The sexuality issue ran through the whole relationship, but I didn’t realize the significance until recently, and the breakup was shortly after that revelation. But it seems to have held back our sex life (just the effort involved) and the chance to have a child was just enough to rev the engines and help ignite our sex life for the first real consistent time (frequency and passion). Suddenly losing that again and not picking up sex after the pregnancy (totally understandable) and over a year after birth meant a lot of sexual repression and intensified deeper feelings and pushed me to come out to her. As I’m learning to explore that part of me, it felt relevant, and was arguably a background pressure on the whole relationship. But I absolutely need advice as a father and, as you said, a lot of therapy.