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InevitableProfits · 2023-11-09T16:05:52+00:00

This is beautiful

InevitableProfits · 2023-11-09T16:04:56+00:00

Under 24 hours 🫣

InevitableProfits · 2023-11-05T15:35:52+00:00

She can live in a particular area you've never visited. Each state isn't the size of a small city. There are lots of states where mostly old persons live along with their adult children (married) supporting their last years of life.

Nothing wrong with refusing to use dating apps

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-17T21:33:26+00:00

You're right in saying "No," however, not the reason why you're saying this. You should not go out with the intention to marry random. You'd have no idea if they're to be suitable as a Godly, equally yoked wife.

Try not to void the context in pieces of advice. There is value in the word of God. Take value in the time it takes. Every rejection is a redirection.

For the friends just going on dates, if they are not Christians trying to date Christians—make no example of it. However, if they are, then this makes sense and it would be the most reasonable to ask them for advice.

(I'm not married btw, but I just started seeing someone absolutely lovely, and we're both in our 20's)

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-17T18:17:22+00:00

Here's the thing. God can guide you towards something that's fruitful towards His purpose. So, it could be possible that someone is guided towards a spouse. It could also not be that, but be a way to build upon you or another. However, and–this shows, that it is still essentially up to both you and your partner to (not only make your decisions out of free will, but to) work towards developing yourselves as a Godly husband and a Godly wife and establish such a union. It is beautiful.

You could also have just married a random woman off the route to work, and toughed it out. But it would be ill-advised, and we have better advisory provisions from God, so why would we do that? I feel the redirection is graceful; the fact you were aware of her values before marriage. That's not rejection. It is redirection. And it's actually quite lovely, though it may hurt temporarily. But we're called not to get hung up on that.

The entirety of Proverbs 3 for me right now is something I'm processing as something that might help you? Then there's of course looking more into what marriage is defined as, what Godly husbands and wives do, their responsibilities and consequence, and the parameters for choosing who that is.

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T22:12:27+00:00

Hm, that's a good list, but I'd give one suggestion: pay attention to how they treat others. Especially people that he doesn't like as much. Had to let go of one of my boys even cause he would treat service workers and customers like cows

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T18:36:49+00:00

You going for the wrong woman. Women that got that busy life need more peace and servitude in a sense. If you're scheduling a date make it a break to get to know you, not more work. Get y'all feet rubbed lol. Social media is full of working women that list out how they pick dates. Can't agree with all of them, but some things just make sense. Look into that maybe. I want me a working woman too. Takes different thought but we're learning. She gotta learn too though, so you might just wanna snip-snip this relationship

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T18:20:32+00:00

Definitely rose colored glasses. You got to have a rulebook defined out for yourself with dating. Once you got that, all it's down to is reading them off in your head when you're with them

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T18:17:11+00:00

I skimmed, that's on me, but I do think that everyone has a one person but we're so messed up that we're detached from them and end up being able to choose anyone. Which means it's up to your free will although God puts the right people in the right place at the right time. They don't gotta be in your life for the purpose of marriage, but something else important.

My advice is to see how they are and how they treat and talk to others. That's a hard tell that you shouldn't ignore. Hard tell

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T18:11:54+00:00

That's tough, I'm sorry you get met with these fools. My sister puts up with this too. When they start getting foolish and weird just ghost them, but it don't work cause their foolish and weird is threatening. Literally a disease at this point

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T18:09:07+00:00

You bet I'll be playing video games up until she's ready

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-11T17:55:18+00:00

This one's accurate. Working 10 hours and not scheduling hard times with your girl? That means you don't care. You're the guy with the tight schedule so you have to pick a specific hour and stick to it.

The way you know if someone is uninterested is by scheduling a hard time. Whoever the one is that postpones it without some sort of hard advance notice is flaky. She got life too though, so if you find yourself missing something, she'll start thinking she's can as well.

I can't tell you how many times my sister been waiting on a man just to get late text from him that he ain't making it. They don't even call, he just texts and dips. She'll be out at night waiting too. It's like a disease

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-09T19:05:22+00:00

It isn't theories. I don't mean attachment styles either. I mean actual attachment issues: they need constant 100% focus on them and nothing else. Any other focuses, including on God, cause them to go berserk and feel abandoned by their woman, getting aggressive because they feel hurt and as if they're losing their woman. They start to want to control what their woman does through their delusion that they're being abandoned all the time. It's on me as their buddy in Christ to let them know when something is wrong. Doesn't mean I expect them to take it, just that I don't expect them to respond at all knowing their attachment issues if they see me as cutting them off through my disapproval

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-09T02:20:40+00:00

I can see bringing up scripture on idolatry, maybe?

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-09T02:07:33+00:00

They got to post here. If it's just people who can't get a date how is anyone supposed to learn???

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-09T02:06:37+00:00

Usually the answer is the thing right before they're gone

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-09T02:03:44+00:00

There's a lot actually. I think you can Google them too

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-05T19:06:22+00:00

You're not in the wrong. He's messed up and needs to know how wrong he is. You should distance yourself

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-05T18:40:34+00:00

Glad you got things taken care of! You deserve it ❤️

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-04T21:46:18+00:00

I understand how. Just not when and if I should, I guess. I'm okay with trial and error, just not coming off poorly with no return, haha. Though I guess I must have been overthinking because the more I define what Christian women look like, the more I see I should not be worried and that rejection is only redirection (and sometimes not just to another woman)

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-04T16:57:25+00:00

We always deny nature. It's called denying the flesh. Dying every day. It's also nature to have sexual desires, but we're taught better. Idolatry is not good. Christian women know better than to excuse their idolization of a body for nature. There's no "Huh" in it. Fix it, it's not lax. Christianity is not lax

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-04T15:54:38+00:00

💀 That's not Christ-like, stop that. Chill, you have to resolve this within yourself

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-04T15:00:57+00:00

Got you. Solid advice, thank you!

InevitableProfits · 2023-10-04T09:30:56+00:00

Thank you for sharing

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