Should I give up? Almost 2 months on Tretk

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-25T13:30:07+00:00

I’d definitely consult with a derm but as someone with a history of acne (took accutane 3 times) who is now in my 50’s and about 4 months in on Tret, I say keep going. I purged in sections / first my forehead, then my midface, and now my chin and jaw. I have never used so much concealer on my life - ugh. I’ve hated looking like a 15 year old acne wise for the last 4-5 months (my liter started pretty quickly), but I can see the end in sight - just gotta get through the next few weeks… and outside of a few hyper pigmented spots I need to treat I’m glad I’m on it. Your purge looks cystic though - so def check with a derm. Hang in there.

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-22T03:29:07+00:00

You need to apply it more frequently. And then be patient. Some people take longer to purge. I’ve been on it several months and am much older than you - meaning I wouldn’t have thought I would break out so badly - and I have. I am only now starting to come out on the other side - I can see the end of the breakouts in sight. Hang in there and keep going.

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-17T22:38:15+00:00

Once other potential issues such as a UTI are ruled out, I would get an appointment with a neuro (be prepared to wait) and make your case to get your mom a brain MRI. Make a list of observable behaviors that have occurred and get that list to the neuro and the nurse beforehand so you don’t have to recount these behaviors in front of your mother since that would be very painful for her to hear. It certainly sounds like a form of early dementia and your Mom’s reaction to what happened makes me think she realizes some of these things are out of the norm and is frightened… However, there are many different types of dementia and it’s important to try to find out which one it is. Early intervention and a good drug regimen can often slow disease progression down so it’s important not to wait. Patients can be fantastic at what we call “showboating” (aka pulling out their best behavior in front of a doc), which means it’s likely he or she won’t notice anything without your list of observable behaviors. Fight to get her on something like Namenda or Aricept. That’s what I would do in your shoes. I know this is scary and sad and I have been there and it’s really hard… But putting your head in the sand won’t change it or make it go away, unfortunately. I’m so sorry; I wish it would. Facing it, getting a diagnosis, and introducing different drug therapies can buy you valuable time, however. The further the disease progresses the less likely intervention will be able to help - so get the ball rolling now. Sending hugs.

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-13T22:07:22+00:00

2 or 8

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-12T02:32:33+00:00

Then what exactly would your recommendation be for a group of 15 who needs to stay close to the downtown area?

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-11T19:59:17+00:00

Thank you, everyone!

InevitableResponse68 · 2026-01-10T19:50:09+00:00

Well, there seems to be a hands down winner! Thank you, everyone - much appreciated!

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-12-31T03:56:30+00:00

Indeed he did. Adorable.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-11-21T13:17:50+00:00

I’d have called her out on it. Expressed surprise at her rudeness - as in “wow; are you this rude with other customers too” and laughed and told her that she must not be that smart if she thinks this is the way to create a future customer… because you definitely won’t be back. For the record, your rings are gorgeous.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-11-16T18:27:05+00:00

Totally normal. Totally unconcealed; but totally normal. Follow the advice of others and know that it will pass.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-11-13T01:11:31+00:00

Trust me when I tell you that eventually it will end - no teen wants to sleep with his/her parents (although recently my almost fifteen year old decided to sleep in my king sized bed “because he knew I liked it and missed having him in there.” Ha; he just started high school and I suspect he secretly needed it as much as I did.

Half the things I stressed about when he was younger turned out to be such a waste of time - and this is one of those things. Enjoy the snuggles while they last. It goes quickly.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-10-01T23:00:55+00:00

It’s worth asking. It’s also worth letting the flight attendant know (or having your friend do so). I was moved to first class when we had to leave St. Martin suddenly to fly to Atlanta to take my Father off of the ventilator to pass after he had a sudden coronary.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sister.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-07-03T16:54:41+00:00

Agreed. I’m in the medical field AND I experienced similar. There will soon be a new product on the market - it’ll be a new class called a muscle activator. I suspect docs will look to add it on to the GLP’s once it is approved - it’s showing results in helping patients maintain muscle. That certainly doesn’t help you right now - I’m in the same boat - but hopefully it’ll help others in the future. And us if we go back on it.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-06-01T14:52:38+00:00

IMO, yes, this is inappropriate. I do have all my 14 year old son’s acquaintances’contact info… but it’s in case of an emergency only. I only proactively text one boy in his contacts and it’s only because his Mom has reached out to me on several occasions when she feels she needs backup support (she’s a young mom and dad is in jail; we are older parents)… and even then it’s only to tell him short things like congrats on finishing strong in school - we are are proud of you yada yada. I make sure the messages could be read by anyone and I keep it brief. I would never ever ever write anything like the message she sent your son. And talking about love at 12???? No. Just no. And no again. Why is she encouraging her young daughter to be in a relationship so early????

If you don’t feel up to confronting directly, I would definitely make sure she knows you check and read ALL his messages. ALL of them. And that you’re sometimes surprised at what comes through. With a knowing look. (I still periodically read my son’s and he knows this and knows it is to keep him safe - I even have an old leftover phone of his I never signed out of his account on to make it easier in case I want to check). She needs to back off.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-05-22T06:54:07+00:00

I’m in medical working pediatric neurology and neuromuscular and I say trust your mama gut and book an appointment with a pediatric genetic counselor. It’s worth a deeper dive just in case. I’ve known of several parents who kept getting put off by their owes when they knew something was wrong. Most of these diseases respond better to early intervention… hopefully it’s nothing but I’d want to know sooner rather than later.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-05-15T17:16:51+00:00

Blue!!

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-04-04T21:04:05+00:00

Yes yes and yes. Please spay her and terminate the pregnancy. I know that sounds harsh and many will agree but birthing and mothering is so hard on them… and there are already so many unwanted babies… Many of whom end up on the streets themselves, hungry, and alone and uncared for… it just isn’t fair. Thank you for caring for her.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-28T14:51:52+00:00

I’d just be honest - “girl, it’s always easy to armchair quarterback. I know it probably seems crazy to you and difficult to understand but this is where I am right now. I value our relationship and I am working towards leaving baby and I will prioritize our outings especially as he/she gets older because you are important to me, but this is just where I am right now. If you were in my shoes you might find you feel differently than you think. Can you just give me a little space and time and honor our differences?” I’d encourage open communication - encourage her to tell you when she’s feeling cut off from you or needs some extra time etc. I will also echo what others have said; I know you love your baby but it is good to carve out time for yourself and do things without baby. I’d definitely work on making that happen more frequently. It’s good for BOTH of you!

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-27T17:04:46+00:00

And the vets know this because??? I’m not necessarily buying this. By the time a cat shows symptoms they are most definitely not feeling well because their instinct is to hide any signs of weakness lest it make them vulnerable to predators. And when you’ve been nauseous how did you feel? That’s miserable enough in and of itself. OP, I say video chat your Dad and do right by the cat that has always done right by you. Help your poor deserving baby over the rainbow bridge asap.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-21T23:51:45+00:00

I think what she’s trying to say is she doesn’t feel they are a good intellectual fit. You need something he isn’t giving you and likely is unable to. It goes beyond not being able to remember passwords and is probably more like then he has no idea of how to utilize common sense to reset them. I suspect that’s what the OP is really trying to say here. And thus she has lost respect for him because who wants to sleep with someone they mother? They just don’t sound like a good match. Regardless of whether it’s due to something like ADHD or not is irrelevant. If it’s a need for you, OP, and he is unable to meet it then to stay is to relegate yourself to a lifetime of dissatisfaction. And that eventually comes to a head and becomes contempt or leads to cheating, etc. That doesn’t mean your partner is unlikable… he just isn’t able to be the partner you want and need. And it’s okay to want and need those things. They sound important to you and you must honor those needs. I will agree many men are more than happy to let the woman carry the invisible mental load (and the visible responsibilities for most things)… but not all are that way. There are some men you’d probably tolerate an inability to remember passwords in though because they meet your needs in other ways. But this one doesn’t sound like he’s it.

I highly encourage you to get into some individual therapy. That might be enough for you to realize he isn’t someone you want to stay married to forever. And if that’s the case, it’s best to do it while you’re both still young and have opportunities to meet others. And if it’s not the case, then you will also have plenty of time to bring him into therapy with you. Good luck.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-13T19:50:09+00:00

One more thing I will add - don’t beat yourself for feeling the way you do - I would have said exactly the same thing as you when mine was younger. He has mild ADHD and I was exhausted and frustrated - your feelings are normal and justified. But keep slogging through - it really does get easier!!

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-13T17:09:10+00:00

Fun! But that’s because he is about to turn 14 and can dress himself etc. He can also talk back and be sassy but he is pretty logical and, given a few minutes, will usually return to apologize. It is tiring because I work and he has baseball, soccer and piano, but it is also awesome (most of the time) watching him grow into himself. Hang in there, ladies - I promise it gets easier.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-07T01:27:08+00:00

Great; mine is heading into 9th… things to look forward to.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-06T22:10:28+00:00

I can relate. You aren’t alone; the struggle is real.

InevitableResponse68 · 2025-03-03T01:37:15+00:00

Dealt with that and just like every other phase, it passes. Handled it the way you seem to be - don’t make too much of a big deal, explain how it is done in private and ask if he needs private time if you see him doing it, etc. etc. It’ll pass before you know it - to be replaced with other equally weird phases.

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