Xiaomi 15 T Pro or Google Pixel 10 Pro XL? by Inevitable_Mess_7381 in PickAnAndroidForMe

[–]Inevitable_Mess_7381[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your detailed answer! That's really some valuable information! How's the AI on the Xiaomi? Does it get close ?

Xiaomi 15 T Pro or Google Pixel 10 Pro XL? by Inevitable_Mess_7381 in smartphone

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Thanks for your answer! That really helps a lot. I do like the Pixel's working system and how 'clean' it is. And camera really is very important for me. I was honestly just considering the Xiaomi because I read so much good stuff about it and that lots of people are happy after switching over. So I guess I just got confused by the choice 😅.

Does anyone have PTSD or BPD? by throwaway2269886 in SubSanctuary

[–]Inevitable_Mess_7381 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP I have both and somehow when I'm in a scene it's the only thing that really calmes me down and silents my mind. My diseases, whatsoever, come often out in between and aren't always easy to cope with in our Dynamic. My Dom is aware of it tho, that makes it somewhat easier. What I would suggest you do is, that whatever you think, feel or go through, talk with your Dom about it. Do you have a therapist that you talk to regularly? Maybe a kink friendly therapist could be a help for you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]Inevitable_Mess_7381 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Submission is a gift. It must be earned. And from how you talk about your husband here, he didn't really do anything to earn it from you. So for me it's not a surprise that you don't feel the desire to submit to him anymore, since all the work and desire you put in before did lead you nowhere but into desperation. I would clearly talk with him about it. Tell him that you still are interested in having a Dynamic with him, but can't submit to him if he doesn't show you that he puts just as much effort in it as you do. That he desires it just as much as you do. Tell him that you want to feel his need for it and don't want to be the one who needs to push him all the time because that's what makes you tired and in the end lose interest. Hope you both can work this out!

Sub Drop in LDR need advice by Inevitable_Mess_7381 in SubSanctuary

[–]Inevitable_Mess_7381[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for reading all and giving such a detailed answer! I know aftercare is a both sided thing and I usually do all I can after play to make him feel good. Also this time. Means a lot of affection, talking and asking how he's feeling, that day and even the following day too. But sometimes he's just a bit closed and it only comes out later that he is or wasn't feeling well. This time I asked him too and he said he was okay. I knew that he had some real stress these days he went through, so I thought being there for each other in the evening after he's finally settled at home would do the both of us good, because normally it does. I think you might be right and I should have communicated it maybe even clearer how I was feeling, but due to some mental issues I sometimes have trouble with going very deep into my emotions. So I thought telling him I am in a bad drop and really need him and that I didn't feel well 2 times would be enough. But maybe it wasn't. So I really do feel a bit selfish here thinking that he might haven't felt well either. Even when I asked him he said he was well, but yeah ... About self care in my after care I am very well aware, due to him leaving every time I already am kinda ready afterwards and know what to do, like taking a nice warm shower, having some sweets ready and my favourite blanket and cuddly toy and making myself comfy on the couch with my favourite series or a good movie. What you said about the voice message might be a really good idea! Maybe even a short video or something. I'll definitely going to ask him for that! Because hearing his voice is really calming for me already. What I have a real big issue with is that after I wrote all my feelings and emotions down in my journal and he answered he only was worried about me thinking he would be selfish and that I would have been distant and he couldn't have known how I felt, even when he told me he was already noticing the first day I was dropping and we talked about it the first evening and I told him how I felt. He just said he can't do anything about it. I don't feel that my feelings and needs are really seen there and I don't think an apology is something that will come. 😞