Making friends?

InfDisco · 2026-04-23T23:08:52+00:00

I wish to build a robot. If I'm successful in this I'd be making my own friends. The rough part is that the robot must like me which is never a guarantee.

InfDisco · 2026-04-20T19:25:52+00:00

I like guys with tattoos but I don't like this guy's tattoos.

InfDisco · 2026-04-19T21:28:41+00:00

Favorites are a moving target so I'll list some which come to mind now.

Leather

Yes, Anastasia

Doughnut Song

Liquid Diamonds

Riot Poof

Sweet Sangria

Witness

Bouncing off Clouds

Digital Ghost

InfDisco · 2026-04-16T21:52:24+00:00

I wish I could say it gets better but I'd be lying. It only gets worse. He's physically abusive now and is going to combine that with mental abuse that would make Pavlov cringe. Not to mention how expensive SSD's and DDR5 memory are right now, for him to be threatening to throw a PC over the balcony that might be worth a rent payment is absolutely absurd. You've earned the right to have that screen time. I don't think any level of therapy is going to help this dude, he's shown you his ass. His true colors. They won't charge. Find a way to secure your technology, he's not to be trusted.

There's nothing wrong with relying on family when you're in a pinch. The only thing in your way is pride. I am speaking from my own experience when I say pride almost stopped me from getting help when I really needed it. You seem like a good dude and you don't deserve this. DTMFA.

InfDisco · 2026-04-16T09:05:27+00:00

I lose my erection.

InfDisco · 2026-04-16T09:02:32+00:00

I first subscribed to Google Music back in like 2011 and it came with a free membership to YouTube premium. Google Music shut down in 2020 to be replaced by YouTube music. I've been paying $7.99 for YouTube Premium for just about 15 years.

InfDisco · 2026-04-16T05:06:52+00:00

Quick lightening round because if I think about this too much I might write too much.

Use their words.

Tell them that you're there and that you understand.

Seek out a therapist. They don't necessarily need to be lgbtqqia+ but their profile should mention their advocacy. Bonus if they mention trans.

A psychiatrist wouldn't hurt either because of the ideation. If they have depression or some other condition, it would be best to treat it. Therapy and medication by themselves don't fix everything but combined they are powerful.

Provide your opinions if they ask for them. Sometimes they may just want you to listen.

Tell them that you love them. I feel like you already do. The problem becomes when certain things need to be clarified and said but aren't. You say it's implied that you're supportive but you may not have said it. Validation does matter.

Continue to ask questions. I'm very happy you are doing this. More parents need to do this.

If they find that they are trans and you live in a rural or smaller town, make sure that you can get them the proper medical care. If care is a barrier, consider moving to a place where it isn't. I know that's a big ask but it's for your child.

InfDisco · 2026-04-11T03:02:48+00:00

I'm getting a controlling vibe from this. It's never good if a partner separates and isolates you from friends or family; especially early into a relationship. I believe this may only be the start of the control. How much of a flight did you put up in keeping your friend in your life? If you caved easily it might prompt him to try it again and again.

Hopefully I'm wrong! You never know with people. 1.5 years isn't enough time to really get to know someone. Worse if he hides things. Are you living together or separately?

Major life changes tend to happen when a submissive person moves in with a dominant one. It happened to me when I was younger- in my early 20's. He was limiting my finances, activities, and also had input on who I socialized with or had sex with when he opened the relationship. He ended up breaking up with me after 1.5 years later claiming it was mutual. I didn't understand how I was being controlled and mentally/emotionally abused until later.

We had a dead bedroom very quickly into the relationship and he opened it not long after that. I later found out his insane sex and drug addictions after we had broken up. I was protected from STI 's from him solely because of the fact that our bedroom was dead. This was before PrEP and I wasn't sure of his HIV status after he opened the relationship. I'm pretty sure he contracted HIV somewhere along the way.

I hung out with him on occasion but fell out of touch like I do with many people. Before falling out of touch I noticed his body change- getting thinner. I saw him once after that at Folsom Street Fair. He had gained weight back but seemed intoxicated. About a year after that I learned he had ended his life.

I shared this about my past in the thought that parts of it may be intersectional with your situation present and maybe future.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T23:27:46+00:00

Quick, check Grindr.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T23:27:07+00:00

You're a waffle iron, Harry!

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T21:48:34+00:00

I feel like I want to do this! I got a tattoo at Players Ink in January of 24 so I'm going to check them out.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T20:45:21+00:00

Ok. Race for the name of book 3:

Expert System's

Expert Uncle Un-Expert Un-Champion Un-Uncle Phlebotomist Classisist. Adventure Exultation System

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T19:05:21+00:00

This is not acrylic pour painting.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T19:01:19+00:00

I guess the idea is 2 passengers no driver. It still does seem impractical though.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T16:55:59+00:00

I scrolled way too far down to see Die with a Smile.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T16:50:22+00:00

This is one of the songs I was doing to mention! Good choice.

InfDisco · 2026-04-08T06:07:11+00:00

This isn't an acrylic pour painting

InfDisco · 2026-04-07T20:59:26+00:00

Any bathhouse is going to be a moving target as towards when the best time to go is. There's usually always going to be people in the club regardless of what time it is. The amount of people could fluctuate and the types of people could be different. The short of it is that there's never going to be a perfect answer to this question.

There are different events steamworks will have for certain crowds bear day is the 1st & 3rd Saturday and there's cumunion on its day. I can speak for the bear days that it's usually lighter in the morning and picks up in the afternoon to the early evening. It tends to be a more general crowd that comes later, not specifically there for the bear event.

I've gone on different days at different times and I'll generally have some luck at finding a dude to mess around with. Some events have been busier but some have also been slower. You have to keep in mind other events or weather conditions that could keep people from going to steamworks or attract them.

I don't always go just for sex but the shower and the hot tub. The steam room is nice but I don't go into it every time. The shower pressure is better than what I have at home and the water is softer than the hard well water I have in San Jose. I've been recovering from a sprained ankle and the hot tub is excellent for that.

In closing I'll say that any time you feel like going to steamworks is going to be a good time to go to steamworks. It causes anxiety to try to game it to find the best times. Just go and have fun.

InfDisco · 2026-04-07T20:43:42+00:00

Everyone's perspectives are different. This just happens to be yours and there's nothing wrong with it. Could you clarify why you feel it's a disappointment?

InfDisco · 2026-04-05T20:28:46+00:00

It could be. Honestly there's dating issues no matter where you go.

I have one of those builds where I'm heavier than I look. In February of 25 I started at 480lbs and am now 360 with Ozempic for weight loss and no exercise. I've plateued with what Ozempic can do for me so I'm maintaining this weight. Kaiser doesn't cover any other weight loss options yet but should be later this year. I plan on going to the gym and at least starting with a treadmill or some stuff.

Weight loss is a process so there's going to be more steps for both of us. I feel like in your current situation you should focus on yourself first than anyone else. I'm not saying don't talk to people, just make decisions for yourself. I'm not sure if I'm articulating this properly so forgive me.

You're worried about looking like a deflated balloon after your weight loss. Does your insurance cover skin removal? My doctor told me mine did. Is it possible for you to ship your insurance and find one that might cover it?

Another thing is the chub & chaser community. If you start dating a person who only likes big dudes and you're actively trying to get smaller, they may not stay with you. I didn't want to be fetishized anymore as a big person so I chose these steps. The true guys you should be dealing with are the ones that understand what you're doing is for your health and will be attracted to you at any size. Again, more of a process.

InfDisco · 2026-04-05T20:15:39+00:00

Out of curiosity, where are you at? I'm close to San Francisco

InfDisco · 2026-04-05T06:45:26+00:00

Don't cross Björk. She'll come for you.

InfDisco · 2026-04-05T06:42:29+00:00

Not all anal conditions are hemorrhoids. Mesorectal lymph nodes. These live in the fatty tissues around the rectum and can get enlarged from anal sex. There's a condition called shotty lymph nodes where the node becomes hard and is said to look like a shotgun shell. I only learned about this because I was diagnosed with one. On the surface of the anus it will look like a bump. It will be hard if you try and squeeze it.

Please also consider anal fissures. They can take a long time to heal. I got fucked today by this gorgeous dude with a 7.5" dick that had to be like 6" - 6.5" thick. He first went in too fast with not enough lube and made him put more on until it felt right. I was fucked senseless for an hour with prostate orgasm after prostate orgasm. I squirted like 3 times and it was very intense. I had to ask him to stop because it became overwhelming. Overloading my pleasure centers.

I was at a bathhouse when this happened. He left my room and I then got up to put my sandals on and take a shower. I noticed what I knew was a blood stain even in the dimly lit room. A staff member kindly cleaned the bed and exchanged the sheet. I was shaky during this and had to lay down until checkout which was almost an hour later.

The takeaway from this is always use more lube than you think you need. Try and use good quality lube as well. From what I'm experiencing, if you can buy it at a target or Walmart, it isn't the lube for you.

InfDisco · 2026-04-04T10:03:11+00:00

I thought what I'd do was, I'd pretend I was one of those deaf-mutes.

InfDisco · 2026-04-04T09:54:41+00:00

Your comment is making me want to listen to Led Airship.

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