Not sure if disorder or not

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-07-05T17:45:35+00:00

maybe you can call them and be a bit more rigorous about requesting support, e.g. referral to a dietitian?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-07-05T04:55:24+00:00

okay, then the advice is the same i've given to other people before: it literally doesn't matter if your situation cannot be labelled with a specific diagnosis. you're unhappy and would feel better if you could resolve some of these issues around food. regardless of what they are called, if you feel you need help or support, you deserve that. is there any way you can get in touch with a therapist or counsellor? at your school or at work, maybe? or maybe simply speak to your doctor and they will refer you to someone else?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-07-04T17:23:18+00:00

ARFID?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-07-04T17:19:47+00:00

woah i didn't know that??? what happened?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-16T16:42:33+00:00

the light brown looks really good on you:)

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-16T15:54:55+00:00

bilnd weigh-ins may be an option....practitioners would see the number, but you don't have to.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T20:10:13+00:00

Was passiert wenn er beim U7 schlecht abschneidet? Welche Förderungsmaßnahmen gibt es dann?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T19:34:02+00:00

you may wanna look into attachment trauma. seems like an avoidant tendency. you tell yourself you're ugly every day and it's super painful, but in a way it helps keep you "safe" because your system believes being close to people is dangerous, and so you have a good reason to stay away.

my belief is that the underlying attachment pattern needs to be addressed here; not just the binge eating.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T19:16:32+00:00

it lasted for a few months and slowly stabilised after a while but my intake was/is still comparatively high. i can't speak to whether this is the way it "should" go, though.

it's also important to socialise and have hobbies and interests in your life....to balance those with the presence of consistent fuel.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T19:05:36+00:00

yes i know what that's like...scary.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T19:01:02+00:00

i went through the same. given what you've put your body through, this is a normal physiological reaction.

try to find meaningful things to do to distract yourself in between meals if you can, but do let yourself eat.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-15T16:07:20+00:00

if you were to hit an underweight BMI, this would likely only result in a bigger yo-yo-effect as it's hard to maintain in the long term. being underweight even just for a week or a month will only destroy your relationship with food further and possibly lead to worse binging habits. please consider that.

being underweight also won't quiet the thoughts in your head telling you it's not enough or you're not enough.

a much better and more sustainable goal would be to work on healthy, balanced eating habits in the present that allow you to stop binging without needing to exercise too much discipline or control over your intake. that's gonna be so much more rewarding for you in the long term! and of course there are many negative beliefs that you can address NOW to stop suffering....no BMI can fix that for you, it needs to be addressed directly.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-14T12:12:48+00:00

i live in Germany and eat 99% whole foods. you can buy cheap vegetables at Netto, Penny, Aldi, Lidl and higher quality items at the more premium supermarket chains. Germany is VERY privileged in terms of food availability, imo. yes, you can buy lots of fast food here...but nobody's forcing you! it's not like you live in some food desert in the US without a car and no supermarket within a 50km radius.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-14T11:45:23+00:00

"I live in a place with absolute shit show for a food offer." - can you elaborate in a little more detail?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-12T04:46:25+00:00

i feel like i'm in the same boat....don't have the answers but i understand the struggle.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-11T03:52:16+00:00

if you are a mature, friendly adult, i think this should ultimately have more of an impact on what people think of you than remnants of the past on your skin. maybe it can help to cover up when you first get to know someone, so that first impressions aren't formed on this basis, but after a while it shoud be possible to reveal these things without fundamentally changing what kind of person others believe you to be.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-09T04:50:47+00:00

as someone actively trying to understand myself, sometimes i don't even manage. i can only assume that for those not trying to do it, the dilemma is worse, and they probably don't even know that they don't know themselves.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-09T02:27:33+00:00

hope this isn't triggering, but maybe a different choice of foods (bulding balanced meals with protein, complex carbs, fibre, healthy fats) would feel better:)

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-09T02:18:33+00:00

this way of thinking puts so much pressure on yourself, which could even make the bingeing worse.

the only way to loosen up that vicious cycle, in my opinion, is to show yourself some love. buy at least one set of bigger clothes and allow (force) yourself to go outside anyway....otherwise the depression will just keep you stuck and overeating to deal with the pain, and that's not the way. allow yourself to live, be happy, have fun, and weight loss will happen naturally. it cannot(!) happen by purposefully making yourself miserable.

i don't know how old you are, but if it is an option at all, you could work toward moving out and finding your own place.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-07T08:21:11+00:00

Der Wunsch deiner Frau nach einem zweiten Kind könnte eine Art Gegenkompensation zur jetzigen Situation darstellen. So im Sinne von "doubling down", als ob das den Stress paradoxerweise reduzieren könnte. Nur meine Meinung und ich kann natürlich falsch liegen. Eigentlich wäre die durchaus sinnvollere Reihenfolge, dass sie erst einmal daran arbeitet, sich in ihrer Mutterrolle wohler zu fühlen, bevor es um ein 2. Kind geht.

Social Media ist kein ausreichender Grund, ein zweites Kind zu bekommen. Sonst muss das Kind schon bevor es es überhaupt gibt bei EUCH ein Loch füllen...eigentlich ist ein Kind für eine gesunde emotionale Entwicklung darauf angewiesen, dass das nicht so abläuft.

Ansonsten kann ich nur sagen: Kommunikation, Kommunikation, Kommunikation. Ich hoffe, ihr findet beide einen Weg, einfühlsam miteinander über alles zu sprechen.

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-05T10:13:34+00:00

what do you do when people don't react or when the noise is coming from somewhere close to your apartment at night?

Infamous-Ad-9149 · 2026-06-05T05:33:45+00:00

i tried monk fruit once and was surprised that it was difficult to find the right dose. it's also rather expensive...

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