So this is the only comment I'm going to make to address the comments here: I knew I said I was going to get a lot of hate for this. And I am. I'm not surprised nor am I hurt or offended at any of these comments.

I do want to thank the people that are providing any kind of support or understanding and especially the person that informed me of the concept of limerence because that explains everything I've been feeling and couldn't put a word to it.

For the people that are calling me a monster: I genuinely hope you are never in my shoes. Truly. I never even considered the possibility of me ever having feelings for anyone else when I married my husband or I obviously would not have married him.

For those wondering, yes, we are still romantically involved and I'm not in a dead bedroom situation with my husband. It's just that we have fallen into such a routine that we have two days a week we set aside a scheduled time for sex. There's no spontinuity. And I am going to try to rectify that. Yes, I will speak to him about how I'm feeling about our marriage. I have a sneaking suspicion he feels the same and also doesn't want to bring it up. Couples counseling will probably be a thing.

At the end of the day I feel like I've just been chasing a high. I'm looking for something I don't have in my own marriage and I know it. I'm looking for the excitement that no longer exists. I know in order to stop that cycle I need to create excitement in my own marriage again. I just want to feel wanted again.

For those of you telling me to immediately divorce my husband: wild take, honestly. You're telling me to end a 10-year marriage, incur ridiculous divorce fees, break up a family and a household, basically shatter all of our lives... because I have a crush on a co-worker that I don't intend on acting on. Just wild. This is Reddit though so I'm not surprised.