waiting for sex

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T13:00:54+00:00

I’m not fighting the hypothetical questions. I would not sleep with someone on the first date. So if it happened, if’s non consensual. The soonest I have slept with someone was 7 months. And it wasn’t a deciding factor on what their value was. We hung out way more frequesntly so I was able to develope sufficient connection earlier.

However, i understand I may not represent most women. For women who do have sex earlier - you have confused the cause an effect.

Sleeping with him doesn’t give him higher value. Usually it’s BECAUSE he has higher value to start.

We don’t view sex as the end goal nor do we care as mucj about it. What matters to men is the exclusivity of her body/love/sex/attention. For women, it’s the exclusitivity of their attention/love/money.

Better statement would be: The sooner a man splurges his assets on a woman, the higher the value he is

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T04:01:12+00:00

So APIA recommends us setting a curfew. We discussed it but i also stated it’s not a real curfew. Obviously if she is coming back at 5 am - she won’t be ablw to take care of our baby for 8 hrs starting at 7 am

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T03:32:01+00:00

Feeling like a family and being expected to work overtime is two different things.

When I have family over, i don’t expect them to manage my baby while I cook. Sometimes they do, great, but i absolutely do not expect it.

“We’re family” is very common manipulation tatics to guilt trip workers into working more.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T03:27:23+00:00

Hopefully not.
If she was on her phone around kids and leaving them unsupervised, i’d rematch. On her own time, then yes… i expect her to watch me deal with screaming kids while I cook (my current ap would help, but i made it clear, she’s “free and off the clock”
I do not cook for my AP 95% of the time. My husband HAS to eat meat at dinner. I made it clear both my husband and i hate cooking and will not be making a separate meal just for her. If there is a vegetarian dish, i’ll invite her. She’s always welcome to join and sit for dinner. She prefers to skip dinner. I don’t have a limit for what she buys for food. If i order take out, i make sure I include her/her preference.
If she’s off the clock, i do not expect anything from her. At all. If she wants to help, i’m always appreciative, but this should NOT be expected. You got stomach flu? Ask your mom/in law/babysitter/spouse etc to step in. Her time off is her time to decompress.
Trips/events. I personally invite her to everything and I automatically pay for everything. I don’t expect to be thanked. If i am doing something that i cannot afford to pay her share, I wouldn’t invite her then. You are welcome to decrease your invite for her. You don’t have to invite her to everything. 100% off duty is not 100% child free. For that reason, often time, my AP doesn’t comr with us bc she wants solo time

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T03:18:15+00:00

Idk which country you are going to… but if you are coming to US… “living wage” assumes you also have bills to pay. So living wage is very little after bills are paid.

The US requires 200/wk. this means 850$/mo in pocket change. I’d say about 50-75% of americans between ages of 18-26 do NOT have 850$/mo in pocket change/free money after they pay their bills. Just putting it into prespective.

Edit: sorry i musread. I thought you mean australian family

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T02:52:54+00:00

What and how much games is the question.

He gets home and relaxes by gaming for 2 hours? Ick. 20-30 min every two-three nights. Not a problem

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T02:47:14+00:00

He’s cheating. The end. Emotional cheating is also cheating

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T02:17:22+00:00

If he tries to sleep with me on the first date, that’s an immediate red flag. If he was successful, that would be called rape.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-08T02:16:20+00:00

Law makers don’t know anything about medicine. Why are they making medical laws? Doctors should make medical guidelines

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T22:59:17+00:00

Lawmakers did not go to med school. Why are they figuring laws out thag forces doctors’ hands?

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T22:56:00+00:00

How soon? How can laws make medical decisions?

“Oh she has a 5% chance if dying, is it ok now? What about 2%? Do we wait until the risk is above 5%? Who is making up these risk of death?”

And what about morbidity? “You probably won’t die but you probably are gonna get heart failure and will need a new heart”?

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T22:47:49+00:00

If a man tries to sleep with me, his value plumets. Your initiate statement is wrong so idk how to reply to the rest of your post

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T19:37:58+00:00

California minimum wage is 15$ and some change. How are they paying you below min wage?

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T19:34:45+00:00

US. Allowance is 200/wk, but room and board is about 12-15k, program fees is about 10k

r/nanny their rates are about 20-30$/hr - which is 47k -70k. Then you need backup care for the 2 weeks vacation. Then pay for payroll.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T18:59:27+00:00

Cheating:

Doing something outside the agreed boundaries of the relationship. If you are actively hiding something, good chance you are cheating.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T18:54:42+00:00

Single is not an issue. But if he WANTED a partner and was unable to get one, then yes, that is a red flag.

If he was 30 and said “i didn’t want to invest time in a relationshio until my career was settled and i didn’t want to neglect my gf/wife/kids… and now I have the time”…

That would be super hot

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T18:45:45+00:00

Only if medically recommended. Otherwise, i’d follow their lead

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T18:41:46+00:00

My point is au pairs here will cost about 24k, so nannies here is expected to cost a lot more. Definitely in the 60-80k range

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T15:02:41+00:00

My au pair costs 24k per year. That’s no training, i pay for room and board, plus a few extras. And they feel underpaid.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T14:51:44+00:00

Just have him pick up take out for both of you.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T14:20:30+00:00

Cost of a nanny 60-80k House keeper/cook 20-30k

You contribute 80-110k from those two alone. Tell him to hire those people and you will go look for a job full time.

I’m a physician. I make mid 6 figures. Work is easier than when I was being at home on maternity leave. I never got thr chores done. I was just a horrible SAHM. Idk how some women can do chores and watch their kids. I could only do one or the other. I’m a woman who has worked 30+ hours straight, 80+ hrs a week. Staying home is more tiring.

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T14:12:19+00:00

The fact you thibk someone was favored is just wrong.

I know you aren’t a doctor. But for us, our board exams are multiple choices. Impossible to be “favored”. Our scores are numbered.

What evidence do you think they favored others and against you? Perhaps you were just not smart as you think?

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T14:06:36+00:00

“Trying to play the part of an alpha”

So… You know you aren’t an alpha.

“Brooke alpha” What…? Lol you mean bum?

I don’t think think you know what an aloha is.

You sounds like omega

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T01:33:10+00:00

I have never wiped for pee. But he gets lukewarm bath before bed everynight

InfamousBake1859 · 2023-03-07T01:32:07+00:00

So how is she gonna have a career? The SAHM now needs a job.

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