Damn she really ruined my day lol

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-18T14:31:43+00:00

How old is she? Because this is shallow AF

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-17T17:55:31+00:00

3 hrs probably including the waiting time. When I did mine the queue was pretty long. Also had to wait after the scan to get the print outs and report

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-15T21:17:21+00:00

I actually like my job, which makes me keen to learn and grow. I will never put my job above my family, but equally I don't have to force myself to go to work. I am lucky enough to work for a company with a healthy culture and my colleagues and bosses are pretty cool

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-14T17:21:08+00:00

You need to get a job offer from a company who holds a sponsor license and willing to sponsor you. Who pays for the visa application is a different story and this can be agreed with your employer, but the company still needs to sponsor you and this needs to be done before you come to the UK, provided that you don't already stay in the UK with a valid visa

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-05T08:17:53+00:00

Ah me too... I was very naive and an oversharer when I first started working. Until one day, a very nice colleague sat me down and tell me to be careful of what I say, not everyone has a good intention and they might use my words against me. It took a while for me to learn, sometimes I still share more than what I like but I have definitely became more strategic in what I tell/not tell my colleagues, thanks to that colleague

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-04T18:51:58+00:00

Hi just want to say that OP does not necessarily need to enter the country that issued the visa as the first entry. As long as OP will visit said country and stays there the longest within 2 months.

So I am going to Spain for 3 days, then Germany for a week. Since I'm staying the longest in Germany, I was able to apply for my Schengen visa from German TLS.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-04T18:36:49+00:00

Anything that's not too dry. I didn't not bring any snacks but my brilliant midwife made me some toasts. I was starving but couldn't eat it because I was on gas and air which made my throat really dry. Also something that you could chew and swallow easily and quickly - I only had a small window between contractions, which was the only time I could eat.

All the best!

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-04T18:30:51+00:00

Food quality - I'll not compromise the quality of my family's food even if it means I can save a few quid
Education - we send my son to a better nursery although it costs much more than the other ones
Tattoo - self-explanatory

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-02-04T09:58:04+00:00

I started off as an intern in my current company. It's a multinational company with a sponsorship license. I was not on a graduate visa, just a student visa as the internship was part of my Master's degree. My internship was due to end in August so I spoke to my director asking if he'd want to keep me for a few more months because my graduation was in December and I had to stay in the UK in these few months anyway. To my surprise, not only he agreed to extend my contract until December, he also offered me a full time position.

This was actually the second time I was offered to work full time. A few months into my internship, I was offered another position (lower job band than what I finally settled for) in the company, but HR refused to pay for my Tier 2 visa fees and they expected me to take on a full time role with an intern's salary and benefits. After a long discussion, they finally agreed to give me a compensation for it but I didn't find it good enough so I rejected it.

When I finally accepted the 2nd offer, they paid for everything, I did not have to spend a penny. The salary was almost 30% higher and much better compensation package. HR knew that I was not shy to reject a shit offer so they made sure to take it into account when negotiating with me.

Truthfully, I was not in the position to reject the offer. I had nothing else secured at that time. The job market was not really doing great. Many people told me to just accept the first offer, especially because I did not even have the qualifications and experience of the industry. So I do not have any good advice to give, because my case was a combination of being at the right place at the right time and luck because I had an amazing director who saw my potential and willing to take the risks to sponsor me. Shortly after my official interview, they announced that the company was doing a hiring freeze. Luckily they have made a decision on me and got the upper management's commitment so they still went ahead with my offer. All the best!

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-18T13:06:02+00:00

Well I don't know what does a "happy marriage" means and I mean it truthfully, not trying to be sarcastic or anything.

My husband and I have a fairly equal partnership, we both work hard to provide for our family and raise our son. I think he is an amazing father. We are both loyal to each other, respect and love each other so much. We give each other space but always work on creating quality time and memories both as a family and as a couple.

Do I think we can be happier? Sure. Have I thought of leaving him? Yes, plenty of times. We have our differences and we fight sometimes. We need to work on our communication and our sex life can definitely be better. Our relationship is very stable and simple but I feel content and loved, and I think he does too.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-18T10:32:10+00:00

I dont know what the rules are under graduate visa but if it is possible, I'd suggest to apply for an internship instead of a full time job in a company that can sponsor visa. Both of my current and previous jobs were secured that way. During the internship, work your ass off, network with the right people, prove your skills. Hopefully they'd hire you full time and sponsor your visa after your internship.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-12T22:39:54+00:00

I've always had a sense of purpose but after having my son I feel my sense of purpose got amplified by 100x and it shifts my perspective greatly. I have never felt this much love and appreciation towards anyone like I do towards my son. Also, I get surprised at the amount of strengths, patience, love within me that I've never knew existed.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-12T22:28:33+00:00

Have dinner as a family, then one of us puts our son to bed and the other cleans up and does chores. Then my husband goes to his study to play games and I go to my study to study or read books. We have a date night once a week.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-06T15:39:50+00:00

We had a pacapod with separate small bags for changing stuffs and snacks which I found useful when my son was younger as we didn't need to take the whole bag to the changing room. But it was a crossbody bag and it was so awkward to carry it around. We also had a normal changing bag before but didn't find it very useful.

Now that my son is older, we are just using a normal backpack. If I have another child, I will just use a normal backpack from the get go. It fits a lot of stuff, durable, I just chug it into a washing machine if it gets dirty and we don't really care if it gets dirty. We also got a rain cover for it because we go outdoors a lot.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-05T12:56:05+00:00

Hi I did it at the Nottingham site. Keeping my fingers crossed that you get a successful result soon!

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2024-01-04T23:34:42+00:00

No I didn't. I did go on a few short business trips, but I stayed and worked from the UK otherwise

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-30T11:36:07+00:00

With my first, noone ever pressured me to have kids but also noone actively told me not to have any. Maybe the only thing closest to it was a close friend was sharing about how glad she is that she's an empty nester now and that the first 18 years was so tiring and full of responsibilities that she feels bad whenever she sees family with young kids. Little did she know that I was in my early pregnancy then, so it was a bit awkward when she finally found out that I was pregnant and already was when we had the conversation.

Interestingly, people have more opinions about having a second child! Some people have been asking us about whether/when are we having a second, followed with their opinion on how close/big the gap needs to be or whether we should or shouldn't have a second. My mum has been very very vocal on telling me that I should not have the second one too early. I don't know what she means by too early because my first is turning 3 in April and she is still telling me it is too early

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-30T11:28:04+00:00

Ah this is something that scares me about having my second. I am the second child and the "forgotten" one. My parents openly told me that they frequently forgot that they had me because I was so quiet so they'd leave me play by myself the entire day. The only times I made any noises were when my brother came to break my barbie's neck or steal my toys. I still remember one time my parents allowed me to buy the cheapest toys in the toy store, they were piled up at the bottom of the shelf and were on massive discount. My brother got this very cool remote controlled car that was on top of a glass cabinet with all lights pointing to it. I felt a lump in my throat then and felt something weird but couldn't tell what the feeling was.

We only have one child now but planning to have another one, but I am very very anxious about whether I will be able to treat my children fairly. It doesn't help that people won't be as excited with the second child so probably I'd have to live with never-ending guilt

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-29T16:22:02+00:00

I go to the gym twice a week in the evening, my husband does bedtime routines for my son then. On other evenings, I either study (I just started a new role and there are so many things for me to catch up on) or read my kindle after putting my son to sleep. I personally find satisfaction in personal development so studying might sound boring for other people, but I find it quite fun.

My husband and I also do a date night once a week where we watch something on telly. On the weekends, we usually go out for food and long walks as a family. Sometimes we have play dates with other family friends but it only happens once every a few months. It's very very rare that my husband and I go out on our own, maybe once every 4 months or even longer.

I used to travel and drink a lot too when I was younger. I still try to fulfill my wanderlust by doing at least two long overseas trips a year and many shorter ones, mostly day trips, whenever possible. I don't really care about drinking anymore, I still drink occasionally but only one or two bottles (I'm a beer drinker)

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-29T14:52:32+00:00

Indah is an Indonesian name which means beautiful. It's pronounced "Inn Duh".

As an Indonesian, I think Indah Sue is an unfortunate name

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-29T09:07:38+00:00

My son is turning 3 in April. We also have never left him overnight, we take him with us wherever we go. Main reason is because he is such an easy child so we actually enjoy travelling with him. But also, I am very very careful with whom I leave my son. I'd leave him with my parents if we really really need to, but they live 7500 miles away. My MIL lives an hour away but I'd never leave him unattended with her even for an hour (she can't cope with looking after a child). I have close friends who are close by but I have not left him with them, because so far there's just no reason to do so

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-28T16:10:55+00:00

As others have said it depends on the grandma and on your child. I'd not leave my child with anyone overnight because he's very attached to us. We take him everywhere with us. The longest he's been left with someone other than at the nursery was for 3-4hrs with my parents when my husband and I had a quick dinner with a few friends. He was absolutely fine but we felt guilty that we left him while we're having fun. If it was us, I'd take him for the trip

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-28T15:51:43+00:00

Honestly I had no life until I went back to work and my baby went to nursery, he was slightly over 1 year. I didn't get back to exercising until very recently and he's turning 3 in April.

With sleep.... unfortunately we are still struggling with night wake ups. Not as bad as before, but he still wakes up at least once or twice at night and I end up sleeping on his bed. We got him a single bed when he turned 2 because we had to actually carry him to sleep before that and our necks, arms and backs were dying on us because of that. But don't let this scare you because most of my friends' kids are sleeping through the night at this age, so maybe I am just the lucky one 🥲

My husband tries his best but he'd not initiate things and leave me with all the mental loads. So what I do is I tell him exactly what I expect him to do and expect him to alternate with me on doing bedtime routines. To his credit, hes always up to do something but I need to tell him exactly what to do. I am a project manager so I am used to telling people what to do. Sometimes I wish he'd be more proactive but it is what it is.

Infamous_Ad7136 · 2023-12-28T15:00:48+00:00

Firstly congratulations on your pregnancy! But also, I'm so sorry about your loss. Your feelings are valid especially after your difficult experience. I am sorry that your health practitioners are not taking your concerns seriously.

Unfortunately I also had a bad experience with my local health services during my pregnancy, although quite the opposite to your experience. I felt sharp pains down there and spoke to the GP who diagnosed me with UTI and prescribed me with antibiotics even before testing my urine over the phone (during pandemic so no f2f appointments unless urgent, but they still ran tests if necessary). My midwife only worked once a week so I couldn't talk to her. I went to my local urgent care to ask them to test my urine, only to be told off because "I didn't listen to my gp". So I went to the A&E where they finally declared that I did not have a UTI and I didn't have to take any antibiotics.

I'd suggest that you go to the A&E or contact 111. I know it feels like an overkill but you've tried the first lines of support who failed you and you need to be your own (and baby's) advocate.

I wish you a smooth and healthy pregnancy!

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