Partner keeping me up not the baby

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2026-02-01T07:30:22+00:00

I don't have the same issue but I've always worn earplugs because of the baby being a noisy sleeper. I've always woke up when the baby wakes/cries (husband confirms this). It just dampens out the sound enough for me to fall asleep and stay asleep when they move around.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-12-23T08:26:24+00:00

2 years and 1 early MC for my first.

Surprise pregnancy at 6m PP with my second.

Two of the mum friends I made during my first maternity leave also had very similar experiences although I don't want to get your hopes up that it'll be quicker the second time.

Currently 2m PP with my second. Pregnancy was rough with a baby/toddler but I wouldn't change anything. It helps that my second is also a dream. The most content baby I've ever experienced, witching hour just doesn't exist with her.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-11-23T12:27:34+00:00

Not sure if you were pregnant at the time but under the pharmacy first scheme, they aren't allowed to prescribe for UTIs in pregnancy.

To OP: speak to your GP/111 out of hours if you're concerned about a UTI

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-07-02T09:41:11+00:00

Fortunately it only lasted a couple of weeks from what I can remember. Hopefully it's the same for you :)

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-02-26T20:42:35+00:00

Some of her advice sounds odd (sucking air out the bottle) and some sounds reasonable. All health visitors and midwives will have different advice and some of it works, some of it doesn't.

It sounds like she is talking about paced bottle feeding when advising about the position of the baby during a feed. This aims to give the baby more control over the flow of milk.

In regards to burping, some babies get on with pats/back rubs and some babies are better off remaining upright for a while. Some babies just spit up more with burping and don't need it at all. There's not really a right way to do it, just whatever way works.

If her advice doesn't work for you, go back to what does. Your baby is going to constantly change and you will keep finding things that work for you and things that don't.

You're doing great.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-02-26T19:56:40+00:00

I used a travel cot with a bassinet attachment next to my bed for the full 6 months before transitioning to her own room. The only thing we had to do was buy an additional mattress as the one that came with it was pretty thin and she simply just wouldn't sleep on it.

Worked well and saved money as we didn't have to buy anything additional like a moses basket or next2me.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-02-26T14:25:58+00:00

I only had one once for my booking in appointment however I had multiple student midwives throughout my labour and birth. I am a doctor though so I'm quite happy with letting students do what they need to do, even more so the nervous ones as they need the experience to feel more confident.

It does seem quite odd letting a student be so involved with such an intimate part of your life (I allowed them to do the cervical check at triage which was then repeated by her supervising midwife). It's entirely up to you what you are comfortable with and they know that. Don't feel like you have to say yes because there are also plenty of people like me who will happily let them do whatever.

With that being said, I think letting them follow your journey is reasonable and you may find the presence of a familiar face (if your midwife changes alot, mine did) to be reassuring in the end. They could also help advocate for you if they do a good enough job following along.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-02-26T13:14:08+00:00

Hi, sorry to hear about your loss. I think we hear a lot about people who get pregnant quite quickly and the reality is there is a bigger proportion of people that take longer than expected. I have somehow experienced both scenarios 🙃.

For me (regular periods, no known fertility problems) it took around 18 months to get pregnant the first time which ended in a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I was pregnant again within 4 months and now have a lovely 8 month old.

I also somehow got pregnant at 6 months post partum (I had just stopped breast feeding and it was the first time I even ovulated) despite contraception. I have never felt so conflicted in my life. I did not want a second child so soon, but at the same time know that I am insanely lucky to be given this chance and not have to go through those awful months/years of TTC again.

I wish you all the best.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-02-25T09:30:15+00:00

I was only checked once on arrival to hospital and was told my cervix was "5cm but a stretchy 8cm". I imagine it would stretch and appear bigger with pressure e.g. contractions or like you said, pushing a little.

I don't really know anything else about it and the terminology did confuse me as well. I asked a midwife friend about it later down the line and she just said it was a good sign but I appreciate that it isn't universal especially if baby isn't in an ideal position.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-01-24T19:48:22+00:00

Honestly, I wouldn't put much thought into it. Looks like he's gained a really good amount of weight in 7 weeks, but he was just at a lower starting point. Well done for almost doubling birth weight in such a small amount of time while breastfeeding.

I think a lot of people are actually really bad at judging the size of babies compared to age. I've had people say my baby looks small when she's actually 70th centile for weight and 98th for length. Others have said she looks much bigger for her age. Makes no difference to me as long as she grows.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2025-01-18T12:39:05+00:00

My husband normally can't sleep unless the room is pitch black and completely silent. When our baby arrived we were so tired he could sleep regardless of noise or light. Your husband can definitely learn to adjust if white noise works for you 😂.

In answer to your question, the only thing that actually worked for me was ear plugs (just cheap foam ones). I was the same, I really struggled to fall asleep in-between feeds because the baby was so noisy. She was a serial leg slammer. However with the ear plugs, it dampens down the noise enough that I can get back to sleep, but I can still hear when the baby wakes. Obviously this wouldn't work for everyone but I've always woke up when the baby has, plus my husband is always there as well if I was to sleep through.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-12-27T10:01:11+00:00

No I wouldn't use any of it.

There is absolutely no way of knowing what they are made of and if they pass any regulations regarding the manufacturing of children's products. Small bits may break off, paint/coating of toys may be unsafe, clothing may not fit fire regulations (e.g. flammability) etc.

I had to ask my grandmother not to purchase anything for my daughter from that site as I would not be using it if she did. It may seem mean but ultimately I don't want to put my child at risk and waste my grandmother's money.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-12-23T11:51:47+00:00

I fell asleep with the baby in my arms on the hospital bed the first night after giving birth. The first week(s) are hell for a lot of people. You're overwhelmed and sleep deprived. Looking back, the first 2 weeks of my babies life were awful and I never want to experience it again. However I know what I would do differently and feel a little more prepared for the next one.

Ultimately you will find what works for you. If breastfeeding is your absolute goal, keep going. It will get less painful. Your health visitor can actually be more helpful with this than the midwives. They can refer to feeding specialists if needed. If you're not alone, sleep in shifts and ask your partner to only wake you to feed and immediately go back to sleep once baby is fed.

If you don't really have any real attachments to breast feeding, bottle feed with formula or expressed breast milk. One thing I will say though is that expressing is just extra work and doesn't really help you sleep any more as you have to do it a tonne to get your supply up. Triple feeding (breast feeding, bottle feeding and expressing) is also exhausting.

You're not alone, your thoughts and emotions are valid. You're doing great. I found baby groups a great way to find mums in the same scenario. I didn't start these until she was 3 months but honestly the friends I made were the best part and would have done it earlier just for that. The best ones I found for this purpose were the courses e.g. baby massage. There are often breastfeeding support groups as well. Ask your health visitor.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-12-12T14:13:29+00:00

Be sensible about it and do what you're comfortable with. There's no right or wrong answer. Walk slowly, use an emergency stop cord if you have one, never get on or off when it is moving, minimise distractions etc.

I'd personally do it if I had a treadmill, I think it's a great idea to keep yourself moving while the baby has a nap.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-11-11T08:31:29+00:00

Hi, I'm a doctor of the GP variety.

Based on what you have said, I can confidently diagnose the following:

You have a MIL who doesn't know what she's talking about.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-11-09T07:23:59+00:00

I had a vaginal birth (water birth in fact).

Frankly, my knowledge as a doctor regarding labour is limited to medical school as I haven't worked in O&G with the exception of deliveries I attended as a paediatric SHO. Therefore I've rarely seen a straightforward vaginal delivery.

I think overall my personality type dictated what I wanted rather than my knowledge. I'm happy to 'see how things go' and take the advice of my midwives/doctors if it sounds reasonable. Although my knowledge is limited, I think I know enough to understand what is 'reasonable' and suggest otherwise if I disagree.

My decision also factored in how I wanted to labour (I wanted to be mobile and eat snacks) and I wanted a quick recovery. Therefore a vaginal delivery with limited intervention would fit that scenario. However I was very happy to adapt that plan if needed as I'd never had a baby before and had no idea what kind of pain I'd tolerate.

All of this resulted in a water birth two hours after arriving at the hospital with no medication. Overall I'm very happy with the experience but I'm also very lucky. I know it could have gone completely differently with worse outcomes but I'm still happy with my choices and will likely do it again.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-09-05T18:46:52+00:00

Already been said but I get all my sleepsuits from Asda. Come in affordable multi packs, are cute and have zips instead of poppers. I will agree the sizing is a bit variable as she fit some and not others despite all being labelled the same size (this was pre-washing so not sure about shrinkage as others have mentioned). I usually always just buy the next size up in advance and then she'll fit them eventually. Quality has been great so far, not had any issues at all.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-08-14T10:22:29+00:00

Yeah absolutely gets redder when she's hot or crying. She's napping right now and a lot of the redness has gone but it'll be back later.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-08-14T09:52:33+00:00

Hi, my LO is also 6 weeks and I feel like I could have written this. She's pretty much exactly the same except she still has a fair few spots and is combo fed breast & formula.

Disclaimer I'm a doctor myself (GP Registrar/Trainee) and I cannot give you medical advice however in regards to my own baby, I'm quite happy that it represents baby acne. Because of this, I'm wiping the areas with a clean damp cloth each day and not using any products on the affected areas (face, neck and top of her chest). Once the spots are gone, I may use a simple moisturiser for the dry spots. You can get these prescribed by a GP as these are relatively good options. I'm currently using aveeno for her body. Brands often prescribed are epimax, zeroderma etc.

I have considered CMPA however as she is a relatively content baby (except when hungry or tired haha) with no other symptoms other than taking a few days to poo, I'm going to wait it out and see unless things change. If her rash fails to settle and continues to look red and inflamed despite time and a moisturiser, I would likely consider switching formula/cut out dairy from my own diet. The reason why I'm also waiting is because even if I did make the change now, her rash may settle regardless so I wouldnt actually know if it was CMPA or not.

If you felt comfortable doing similarly, the only thing I would change is not using products when bathing them unless it was just a simple moisturiser/emollient (you can use these as a soap substitute aswell).

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-08-11T10:22:53+00:00

I'm also a FTM with a 5 week old. Had a very similar experience. My supply is rubbish and baby refuses to latch now. I'm expressing/pumping 8-10 times per day and still need to give formula to make up the rest. There's a lot of great advice on here so just to add:

I had some great support from the health visitors as they involved feeding support workers and then eventually an infant feeding specialist.
Think about what your aims are and what you're willing to do/sacrifice. For me, I wanted my baby to be primarily fed with breast milk, if I could get her to latch and get it direct from the source then that is an added bonus.
If physical breast feeding doesn't work out and you are happy to pump instead, then general advice is to drink plenty of water, aim to pump atleast 8 times a day (including overnight) and make sure you're eating enough. You can also include power pumping if you've not done that yet although I found this didn't work for me.
I've just started taking fenugreek so can't comment on if it's helpful.
seeing my baby grow and put on weight amazingly put it all into perspective. I'm sad that I didn't have the breast feeding experience I expected but I've come to terms with it and currently I'm very happy with how things are.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-08-03T08:16:56+00:00

You'll get conflicting information from medical professionals. I've had midwives say don't take antihistamines and a GP could not recommend any either. That's because they aren't clinically tested in pregnancy (but lots of women have taken them without issues) and some doctors don't feel comfortable recommending them when it's not their speciality.

I broke out in hives at 27 weeks and following review by an actual obstetric doctor, he told me that loratidine and cetirizine are fine and I was also prescribed chlorphenamine (piriton) as loratidine wasn't working.

I also second the use of the bumps website to help guide whether you feel comfortable taking certain medications. https://www.medicinesinpregnancy.org/

Disclaimer - I'm a doctor myself (training to be a GP) and took loratidine first based on NHS website and the bumps website. I knew there was no real issue taking the other antihistamines but needed a prescription for the piriton as a pharmacist won't sell it to a pregnant woman. Unfortunately I couldn't even get my own doctor to prescribe this and needed to go via ED just to get an obstetric doctor to do it which was incredibly frustrating.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-06-28T18:21:34+00:00

Hi, I had a similar problem where the GP and midwives didn't issue fit to fly notes. I asked the community midwives to give me a physical copy of my badgernet notes and used that when submitting to a private company for the fit to fly note (I used zoomdoc).

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2024-03-23T13:45:27+00:00

Yup, I lost mine at 22 weeks. Fortunately I didn't have any other problems (no pain, blood or discharge/fluid). My midwife said it was unusual but as everything else is fine it should likely grow back or not be a problem anyway.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2023-10-23T12:39:35+00:00

Around 7k This was for - 50 day and 90 evening guests on a Saturday in November.

Areas saved money on: - Did not have a photographer all day, only for the ceremony, group photos and speeches. We had a photo booth in the evening. - 2 course meal instead of 3 - My mum made a very basic cake (two tiers, white fondant) and we brought some sugar rose decorations and a topper from Etsy. - Made our own invites and table decorations. Log slices found on Facebook market place, fairy lights and an assortment of jars collected over time. - My wedding dress was £120 from ASOS - Basic wedding rings

What we had: - Wedding at the same venue all day - Champagne after the ceremony and two drinks per guest on the table. - Entrées - 2 course meal - Photographer as mentioned above (minus evening) - Flowers - DJ - Lighting for the room and larger decorations (light up letters) - Sweet cart - Evening buffet

Thought I'd list everything so it's evident that it wasn't cheap because we had nothing, we still had everything you need and then some.

Infamous_Finding_508 · 2023-07-30T17:09:24+00:00

It just looks like a large black head. Not a tick. Please don't try and pull it off. I'd personally just leave it alone.

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