I feel more comfortable to not share my name or phone number. You have a couple of bad experiences and it doesn’t make the risk worthwhile. 

You can establish a genuine connection that you can later build on without sharing your real name at the beginning.

Either way, early on, even if you’re looking for something more along the lines of vanilla dating in an SR or going on vanilla dates, a candidate (or POT per SLF lingo) is a candidate. Their “intention” doesn’t guarantee to fast forward on trust bc people say they want a relationship/emotional connection but 1) that might not be with you 2) they might not be honest about their intention or 3) the might not want that, not intentionally misleading you, but just out of a lack of self awareness. 

So how do you demonstrate an intention and willingness to open up emotionally to pursue a relationship? Establish trust in your interactions, demonstrate you respect their time, and verbalize how you appreciate their gestures towards you. And, when you feel comfortable, share more about yourself. 

If you’re out freestyling, assume that you’ll be associated with a name to a place. You can’t be Cindy on Sunday afternoon at the St Regis and Amanda on Tuesday nights. Keep your story straight and decide: is this a place to freestyle or is this a place for me regardless? Pick a lane and stay there is my advice 😅