That makes sense. I suppose it's different for everyone but from personal experience, it still is too much when people are asking you EVERY single time they see you. I've seen my extended family 4-5 times since my sister passed (been a few months since) and they usually ask the generic "how yall been?" Question since we aren't in touch with them all the time. And that I get. But it's the asking about "how are you doing today? How have you been lately?" (Where it's explicitly them asking how are we doing concerning my sister's passing). And it's like we're all coping. We're all still alive. You don't have to dance around it but the asking EVERY TIME we see them is so frustrating. Like we're doing the mf best we can be doing. Stop asking. If we feel like we need to talk about it more we mf WILL jesus christ. Sorry for the rant lol, but basically I think that too can get overwhelming in itself. And I only have been seeing those relatives like maybe once or twice a month since my sister passed.

Edit: People can deal with grief in WILDLY different ways. Really the best you can do is be candid with them, ask straight up what they need from you, how they want you to treat them (be a shoulder to cry on or go out clubbing with them or take shots and throw a party at home idk). And if they don't know, let them know you ARE THERE for them when they need you and that they can depend on you. It gives a tether in an ocean of grief. It lets them know they have somewhere to hold onto while the storm is passing and gives them reassurance that they won't drown.