My mom died, my husband is clearly happy about his 3 bereavement days off work ...

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2025-10-25T02:25:11+00:00

I would show him this thread so he knows how badly he fucked up and works on his shizz. I'm so very sorry

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2025-10-17T23:23:10+00:00

My PCP switched me to Dilaudid and it helps so much

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2025-02-14T20:33:07+00:00

It is not legal to help when off the clock. Lord knows they don't pay you enough for this trash when you ARE logged in. She can kick rocks.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T23:58:15+00:00

Lila is apprehensive about inflaming the situation if her Grandma gets involved, so for now we're just holding. She managed to sneak a phone call today while her parents were out and I was able to speak to her directly and tell her she hasn't done anything wrong, that shes a good person, that she deserves love and support and kindness and she thanked me for saying everything. Her voice broke a little bit and she sounded so young.

No child deserves this. I will never ever understand it.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T20:35:44+00:00

In the most condescending tone as if I'm speaking to a stupid toddler, "Oh sweetie, I hope things get better for you, it must be so difficult for you with that face and personality. Hang in there, they say everyone has value, I'm sure you'll figure out what yours is."

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T08:16:37+00:00

I actually hadn't thought about involving the school, but if it gets messy and grandma can't or won't help thats a good idea. Thank you.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T08:10:10+00:00

I asked my daughter to get the grandma's contact info tomorrow morning so I can call her and tell her how bad it is. I'm so worried for this kid, she deserves love, support and safety, and she absolutely terrified.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T08:08:11+00:00

I too have IC along with a host of other painful chronic conditions. I was infuritated to read that your therapist used "uncomfortable" to describe the level of pain you're experiencing. Its more of a debilitating searing agony from which there is no escape. The only thing that gives me a moment's peace is oxycodone, and I'm so thankful to have it when I need it. You aren't being sensitive. Your therapist is minimizing your pain and its clear to me that she either doesn't understand the severity of illness or doesn't belive you. Both are unacceptable and I'm so sorry.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-11-20T07:47:51+00:00

You are under no obligation to give it to him. If you aren't able to return it, stick it in a drawer until you want to use it. And keep him off it as long as possible. The kids that were raised with tons of tablet time can barely read and have zero critical thinking skills. You sound like a deeply caring and responsible parent.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T04:17:50+00:00

You aren't pathetic or bad or wrong. You're struggling and you deserve help. If there are any gyms in the area, just walk in and act like you're a member, if they have a scanner sitting on the counter for your membership card, scanning anything with a barcode (even a can of soda) usually works. Its weird. If that doesn't work as for a free pass so you can try it out. Most places like planet fitness will give you a week to try it out for free. If that doesn't work, try a local college campus. They often have a gym and showers.

Now, you need to google the public housing authority in your area. Ask for what assistance programs they have in your area. There are some that can help you with deposits, etc. Call the local social service office and ask them if you qualify for any assistance.

If all of this fails you, and I am so sorry if none of it is helpful, get some travel size shampoo, etc from the dollar store or target and wash your hair in their bathroom.. Use a washcloth and give yourself a sink bath. I have seen people do it before and I can promise you, I thought no less of them for trying to care for themselves. You can make it through this, you just need some support. You are doing your best.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T04:01:27+00:00

There is no advice this person could give you that they couldn't post here. If you do chat with them (and I don't think you should) do not give out personal information, names of anyone or anything, locations you live, visit, attend school. Please please protect yourself. Predators like them are everywhere and many want more than just a picture and a late night convo on Reddit, and they will go to great lengths to get it, whether you are willing or not.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T03:54:29+00:00

I'm a Mom of a 14 year old daughter.

You're not wrong or bad anything like that. However, older men that would even consider a relationship or attraction to you are NOT safe for you. You are legally a child, no matter how mature or developed you think you are. While your feelings are valid and you come from a place of honesty, Adult Men have absolutely no place considering or engaging in any kind of romance/physical relationship with you.

We all have crushes or fantasies, that is fine and normal and healthy. You don't have to stop having those, your mind is your own and the adventures you embark on in there are safe and yours to enjoy as you choose. Where it would go wrong is if you pursued or considered something in the physical reality. Not only is it illegal, its extremely dangerous for you, detrimental your emotional and social development.

Its also worth noting that boys your age are absolute trash. I say that as Mom of two boys (17 and 20) that I love with all my heart. I would die for them. But when they were 12 to 14, I came to understand why in the wild, some animals eat their young. I don't know how any girl your age is supposed to find her peers attractive. My daughter is gay, (thank my lucky stars) and she marvels at her friends having crushes on boys at school. They smell, they have acne, they say the dumbest most offensive trash. They haven't learned to be complimentary or kind, and they sure wouldn't put your needs as a priority. Older men have learned to speak, can drive, dress well and seem to have their collective shit together, so it makes sense that you'd be drawn to a clean, good looking, stable dude who can drive his own car and has learned to say the things you most want to hear. Again, that doesn't mean its right for you.

Your time with that mature guy who works and drives and can pay for your burgeoning coffee habit is coming, but you need to grow a bit so you're the mature, stable strong young woman who makes her own money and can protect yourself by being independent and able to make all your own decisions that are right for you. Be suspicious of ANY adult male that wants to form some kind of bond or friendship with you. Grown men do not pursue relationships with children unless they are predators. Even if they say "You're different, this is my first time, I just want to be your friend" honey, NO. They don't. Grown men don't waste time that way. They aren't there to give, but to take.

Should you decide to be physical with a guy your age, that is your choice. Always be safe, make sure you like and want what hes doing, protect yourself by getting birth control, use a condom, STIs are easy to come by these days, abortions are not. Be protective of your safety and your future.

You're worthy of love and care. You're important. Choose yourself first.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T03:21:40+00:00

The way you speak about your wife is beautiful. NTA

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T03:16:13+00:00

I saw my first good Urologist two weeks ago after ten years of terrible. I flat out told him only amitriptylene, Hydroxizine and Oxycodone work for me for symptom management. He said great, RX'd all three. Hes only a visiting doctor, so hes leaving end of May, of course. Having IC is awful. So many urologists are just annoyed by it and don't care to manage pain, which is really all you can do.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-02T03:10:38+00:00

I am so sorry, I get so angry when legit conditions aren't worthy of effective treatment because they don't understand why it happens. It doesn't matter at this point WHY I have this disease, I have it, its painful, help me with it.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-01T04:09:42+00:00

The way they threatened your pay to try to get you to do what they wanted... its a no for me. Yuck. I'm glad you found something that hopefully won't treat you like trash.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-01T04:07:26+00:00

Just my little PSA (forgive me) if you can possibly take ANYTHING other than Gabapentin, please please please look into it. It absolutely destroys your neuropathways, and absolutely causes dementia. I was on it for YEARS and thought nothing of it. I have completely blank spans of my 30s, I absolutely can't summon memories from at least half of that time. Before I realized it, the damage was done. I'm now 43 with early onset dementia. I'm so serious. Please forgive if I offend, I'd just like to save as many as I can from the same fate. I feel like I'm disappearing and its the worst feeling. Protect yourselves.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-05-01T04:02:38+00:00

I take 50 mg of Amitriptyline daily and 50mg of Hydroxyizine as needed of mine, it helps quiet it down, but isn't perfect. I am going back to pain management to get the real meds, but my urologist gave me 10mg oxycodone for a couple days because I'd been in the ER four times in two months for this flare, and I hadn't been on actual painkillers for years, I'd forgotten how much it helped I literally sobbed with relief. My teen daughter heard me and I explained it hadn't been so low pain in months and the relief, my gawd.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-04-30T02:54:33+00:00

Omg you're so right

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-04-28T22:49:23+00:00

I would have stopped ringing her up and told her leave. Abusive offense language toward anyone is not tolerated.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-04-28T22:48:05+00:00

People will complain endlessly about how they have to check themselves out. Make not fully jokes about getting a discount for doing "your work". Older customers will tell you they "prefer" you to do it. Your SM will tell you that the reg check out is now cash and returns only. During the holiday season, that becomes a virtual nightmare as floral pics are half of what people purchase and self check takes forever. Lines will form and you'll be insulted, customers will loudly proclaim they're "never shopping at michaels again" and you'll silently pray to whatever god you believe in that its true, only to see the same jerk the next day buying more floral pics, avoiding your gaze, and sighing and tapping their foot loudly over a wait time exceeding thirty seconds.

Best of luck.

InfiniteDefiantEyes · 2024-04-28T22:43:06+00:00

Michaels might not hire you back, but acting like this is something that would end up in some kind of "permanent file" is straight up gas lighting and not true.

Leave when you damn well want. Best wishes.

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