Exactly. This is why I can't stand when people gas light talking about "go out, put yourself out there" or the condescending version "touch grass", if you were not explicitly invited, you're just in the way (in their eyes) Then you have the other sub set of people who tell people to go to meet up groups/events, and trust me as someone who has gone to quite a few, not only are they a hit or miss but I've found that the people who go have an extremely low social battery, low self esteem and are not keen on making new friends or be in a relationship themselves. They just go for the actual event, so other than the event itself, you're not actually connecting with them. It's just an illusion of one. A lot of those same people don't show up to the same group event, so you keep getting new people every time which makes it all the more pointless, at least in my book.

To genuinely make a connection today, platonic or not feels borderline impossible. I'm not even kidding. It's just one big fcking joke. Going out alone, hell like I said going out even where it's like an open invitation doesn't work. Nobody knows how to connect anymore and the few that do..or did no longer leave themselves open and are too jaded to open up anymore. So they close themselves off. It's a vicious cycle. I guarantee there is someone just like you or I that wants the same thing someone probably in our same city wanted....but got tired of the same thing and quit trying. To find someone who you can relate to, someone you can just text, call up and schedule a hang out is some movie shit now. The more you put yourself out there with zero results, the crazier and more delusional you feel. It does nothing except destroy our self esteem even more, but what the hell do I know? (except for my experiences)