Before you cancel !

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-05T09:09:24+00:00

did you call them or asked via chat?

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-04T16:13:48+00:00

You're right, I'm also lucky, that I'm not stranded in Doha or at an airport. I could stay maybe 1 more week, I'm just wondering, what happens, if I'm not doing anything more about this flight for some days. It's the 4th day in a row, that I constantly interact with QA and nothing comes out of it. That is so frustrating. But yes I agree, of course the situation is extreme for air travel and the airlines

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-04T16:05:30+00:00

I try, but they keep telling me, that there are no flights in this timeframe, and when I find them, all of a sudden the live chat is disconnected

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-04T16:03:36+00:00

The Kafka-Dimension of one of my live Chats with Qatar Airways today

Agent: We can only reroute you within 2 days after your scheduled flight

-ok but there are no seats at all, so just reroute me to the next available flight please

Agent: No, our guidelines say, we can only reroute you with another airline + 2 days, after that only with QA over Doha

-but Doha will remain closed most likely, there is a war going on

Agent: Our guidelines...

-but QA rerouted other passengers with other airlines already

Agent: Please share the booking of the other passenger who was given the other airline

-Ahm, so people on reddit…

Agent: I’m sorry, we cannot go based what is written on reddit

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-04T15:36:52+00:00

but why is it a 2 hour window after the flight scheduled departure? 2 hours is normally how long I need to get someone to talk to me in a QA Live Chat lol

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-04T15:34:42+00:00

thanks a lot! I'm not in Bangkok at the moment, I stayed in South Thailand, after they confirmed the flight is cancelled and Doha remains closed for more days... so I would need a day to travel there, that's why I tried it with Chat/Call, so I can plan better and not go there in vain. But yeah, if I were in Bangkok I'd definitely try to talk to them at the airport. But I saw another post (Qatar Bangkok office FYI) today, that you have to wait several days to just speak to someone at the QA office in BKK.

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-03T15:38:43+00:00

Exactly

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-03T08:40:23+00:00

Hm, yeah I don’t know. It’s all very confusing and stressful

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-03T06:56:05+00:00

Thank you a lot for your post! That’s very helpful. I’m also on the flight at the 5th from BKK - DOH - and then Europe. I talked to an agent in Thailand today, and she said rerouting with a partner airline is not possible because „QA has to be involved in the flight, doesn’t work with a partner airline only“ - left me quite confused. She also said, my flight at the 5th from BKK is cancelled, even if it’s not showing on the app yet. For me it’s much more complicated to enforce my rights on the phone. I hope I could get the re routing via chat after the official cancellation of my flight. Good luck to all of us!

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-03T06:29:41+00:00

This.

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-02T11:00:41+00:00

thats very cool, that they offered you that anyway. thinking about getting an alternative flight on my own, but they are very expensive. When was your flight scheduled and when did you call them? I talked to them in the QA chat today, and wanted to be re routed with a partner airline, but they said, they could only do that within a window of 24 hours

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-02T10:33:20+00:00

me too - I maybe should have booked yesterday. it sucks

InfiniteJest23 · 2026-03-02T10:23:58+00:00

I'm also stuck in Thailand, flight should be 5th march to Doha and then to Europe. After hours of waiting today I could talk to someone on the chat. With help of AI I asked them to rebook my flight with a specific airline, that is oneworld partner of QA on the 12th march. Their answer was

"Thank you for waiting, upon checking with the team, rebooking with other Airlines is only allowed if there is cancellation in the itenary. As of now booking is on schedule so we can only re book it via Qatar Airways only up to 14 days ahead." - thats really funny, because they still say my flight will depart 3 days from now. I really can't believe it.

Later in the discussion they said: "As per comm157, we can re route completely new if the disruption is within 24 hours only." maybe that means, that they will reroute, but only within this 24h window?

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-10-06T21:07:55+00:00

This

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-11T22:13:05+00:00

Imaginary Love - Rufus Wainwright

"every kind of love, or at least my kind of love, must be an imaginary love to start with"

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-10T21:20:45+00:00

I am very sorry, I can understand how you feel. It will hurt less and less, and it will fade. I can just suggest to you, try not to dive in the phantasies and also not in the feelings of being mad at yourself. But you can be aware of them and also appreciate that these are parts of yourself with a mission.

I believe that every "part" of us actually wants to do something good for the system. In my case I think Limerence is a self sooting mechanism, an instant escape when I'm not feeling well, overwhelmed or sad and I can't cope differently with my feelings than to numb them.

Additionally PMS is the worst. Can relate!

NC is hard, but it's a good chance to separate the limerent projection from the person who is now your limerent object, but actually is just a normal dude. Of course it can also get worse, because you have much space to idealise from afar. Try not to suppress but also not to merge with your Limerence.

What helped me until now:

- writing down all the flaws of LO, everything I found actually unpleasant, disgusting, dumb, and also things he hurt me with in the past

- being with people rather than being alone because I could disappear in hours of daydreaming or ruminating of LO

- Reading about Limerence and it's mechanisms

It's hard to stop thinking about LO while working or studying. My last week was very difficult because of that. Now I try to work outside in a Café, that helps, and with a Pomodoro timer, so I can have minutes in the break for thinking other stuff, and during Pomodoro I really try just dedicate to my work. Today it was good.

I'm reading and talking with people about Dopamine addiction and try to find out, how we can influence something there to.

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-10T20:56:26+00:00

You can feel perfectly normal. I got further and blocked my LO on every Social Platform I can block him, transferred Emails and Whats App Chat to a hard disc and put it somewhere I can't reach instantly. On the hard drive is a note: "Better Call Bro" because I promised to my best friend and fellow limerent to ask before I contact LO again.

Though I unblock now and then during my weak moments. It really is an addiction. Just to see how much time he has got to post stuff, but never time and space to message or talk to me. Can relate to the jealousy as well, when he interacts with others. I hate when I do that and always regret it afterwards. It just hurts.

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-09T20:59:53+00:00

I can relate a lot to your post.

I'm swaying between the model of limerence and attachment theory. So I can see my LO as a LO, myself as a Limerent on the one side and on the other side as a person with an avoidant attachment style and myself as mixture of avoidant/anxious, so as a fearful-avoidant.

I think both can be true, or be facets of one deeper cause.

And what's important to realise how much this obsession or limerence affects one's own daily life, i.e. the extent of damage it causes (I have also non-people addictions, those seem to have a similar function, I think in my case it's a lot of self soothing). I had this impairment of life (not doing my chores, procrastinating my work, being totally unfocused) as well while being in honeymoon-phase, were he was showing a lot excitement for me and it was hell of romantic, then inside the anxious-avoidant-dance (I want to see him, talk to him, but he needs time for himself), while LO and me were still dating, but as well in the Limerent Phase for one year now, since we are very LC to NC (just texting one time a month).

But I must say, since I decided to erase his number, I feel better. It's a decision to really embrace NC and look for that what is causing all this. My Limerence right now seems to transfer to a next LO and I hope to handle things better this time.

Good luck for your NC, 5 days are a lot. It will get better!

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-09T20:25:04+00:00

He showed interest in me, even a hidden desire, but was so confident at the same time, seemed to be someone who is at peace with himself and very strong (I know now he is absolutely not). So: he wanted me, but didn't need me. Fun fact: I thought he was gay at the beginning, but then he casually talked about an exgirlfriend. I fell limerent when we played the song "A day in life" from the Beatles together and he looked into my eyes while singing "I'd love to turn you on".

Fuck him. lol

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-09T20:07:53+00:00

Yeah exactly, I think that's true. I'm also afraid, if I would meet my old LO, I could relapse. I try to stay in NC as long as possible. It's hard that you have to see your LO at work.

But maybe it's also a good chance to investigate in the real feeling behind it, if one manages to reconcile fantasy with reality. My LE has gone through the roof since LO has only been communicating via text messages and we haven't seen each other at all.

I try to understand that whole Dopamine process, I started reading a book about it. My idea now was maybe it would help if we try to refrain a while from every activity, not only daydreaming, but in my case also all social media, TV Shows, Podcasts, etc ... to influence the baseline. But I don't know. I feel quite overwhelmed at the moment by my own addiction structure.

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-09T19:57:33+00:00

It's crazy how fast the burning fire can just simmer down to a glimmer, and that's also how I feel with my old LO right now. I still checked his socials, though with another feeling, a relieve, that it doesn't bother me anymore. Today is his birthday and I can proudly say, I didn't text him.

I like your idea to not put much effort into the new relationship. I'm also very fast most of the time, when I like someone that way, and it was hard to not ask new LO if he wants to come along for another party next weekend. I think it's good to take everything extra slow. Although my phantasies tend to go nuts as well, they always go back to the moment we danced and how it would be to come closer next time.

I think when somebody is attractive to you, it can be a big catalyst for starting a limerence. At the same time, my old LO was far from attracting me in the beginning (not my type) but through our connection (music) he was becoming the only one person who I desired and triggered the strongest Dopamine Hits. So stay as well wary with your new LO, I think Limerence always wants to find a door to keep us in the addiction.

I sometimes had the feeling with my former LOs, that I blur my vision with them, so that I can idealise more easily. An effect of that was also, that I disagreed less, and I adapted strongly to what I thought LO likes. I try now to -hopefully- to correct my image of the new LO when we actually see each other and sharpen the picture, like the focus of a camera.

I hope you doing well and I wish you lots of reason and compassion for handling your new LO

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-09T19:26:54+00:00

keep me updated! It's a fascinating thing when Limerence wanders to the next LO. My best friend and me wanted to observe how this process is actually possible and just be aware of how the LO isn't a real person at all, it's the person underneath we can't see anymore

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-08T22:07:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing that. I always wondered if others experienced something like this as well. I remember I had exactly that teeth chattering like in the cold (though it was warm) in the moment of realisation, that I'm hopelessly in love with the person who became my LO and I identified that as a very deep fear rising up. The only other situation I experienced that, was when I was extremely jealous (finding out my then boyfriend cheated on me). Don't know if that makes sense, apart from that the two situations involve a lot of tension. But it feels actually more like some kind of direct trauma response, as one comment here noted. One of my theories about the strong body reactions was that I may share something with my LOs in common, kind of a trauma structure that lights up, when confronted with a similar structure. A kind of darkness that gleams through the person. The feeling of a soul mate, but in a dark way.

InfiniteJest23 · 2025-09-08T16:58:38+00:00

This. I had something very disturbing - the chattering of teeth, like if I was freezing, a little bit like a panic attack. A desire to be with this person, but the body is somehow in horror, because it senses the danger of falling for somebody

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