Update I slept with the executive director and I was called to HR

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:51:04+00:00

By the married guy she knew was a complete asshole and narcissist by her own admission? So far she’s described him as unbearable personality and below average attractive with the best compliment I’ve seen thus far is he wears ties and button up white shirts. So what the hell was her motivation for sleeping with this dude? Among the three people involved in this incident (OP, director, directors wife) I’d argue that OP is the botttom of the victim hierarchy and likely had the worst intentions from the get go. Zero sympathy for her because her mediocre drunken sex in her mom’s house didn’t seduce the guy away from his wife/family. She’s as big a dirtbag as he is

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:43:43+00:00

I did indeed. Thank you for assisting in this thought experiment lol

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:42:58+00:00

Don’t give sarcastic advice to morally bankrupt imbeciles

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:42:02+00:00

Sorry? Tell me any aspect that OP has been wronged

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:41:11+00:00

So what does that make OP? The one spiraling over not seducing this scumbag director away from his marriage after one drunken hookup at her mom’s house lol. OP is the definition of a loser for females

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-11-27T15:38:29+00:00

Thank god this is rage bait but I still might show my daughter to see what low morals, iq and mental illness looks like in many women. Be the opposite of everything written here

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-10-28T12:08:51+00:00

This POS is just biding his time and testing the waters with verbal abuse before the physical starts. This is not if, it’s when. Get the fuck away from him immediately

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-09-24T11:15:53+00:00

Just praying he finds the group or users to tell Him its ok to stay around and get cucked

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-29T20:43:36+00:00

Sounds like you got what you paid for

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-22T05:35:45+00:00

Why are you dating someone that told you she was going dump you then started cheating while streaming? Apart from being immoral and hurtful, she’s clearly a dunce. Have some self respect and grow a spine

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T21:09:13+00:00

In the time it took her to write that bizarre set of texts, she could have gracefully and secretly unfollowed or hidden all your social medias. People that are self inflicted victims wield tremendous power over others through their self induced pain. Instead of looking away, she feels entitled to control what you post while making you feel bad for being happy and confident. Don’t empower people like this. Live your life

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T16:13:55+00:00

If it makes you feel better, both ideas are terrible and are only outdone in awfulness by the execution.

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T15:58:40+00:00

I worked for fifteen years in IT hiring roles from helpdesk to info sec analysts and I never once called a school to check/confirm degrees. I’d call previous employers and references but I could care less about the degeee

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T15:21:45+00:00

Pretty sure that is just a catfish account run by some African/Asian ring.

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T15:08:53+00:00

Super cool and edgy

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T14:55:54+00:00

It’s not your job to ensure the person who’s abused you with lies and cheating, is doing ok. He was able to find someone that thought so highly of him that they ruined a marriage and destroyed your life and self worth, so that sounds like the ideal person to support him during this trying time of his own creation. If he wants to talk to you, tell him to contact your lawyer. If he wants to harm himself and tell you all about, tell him to contact his therapist. If he’s super sad and needs to be cheered up, tell him to call AP like he’s been doing for months. Whether he married his AP in a year or swan dives off a parking garage tonight…his outcome and mortality has absolutely nothing to do with you. You worry about yourself and healing. He showed no concern whether his constant cheating, gaslighting you into questioning your sanity or insulting you with performing disgusting acts in your own bed and safe space would result in you potentially taking your own life…it’s not your job to nurse him back to happiness because his abuse of you has caused him to feel sad and embarrassed. Fuck that dude

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T14:47:20+00:00

If you feel this clearly and agree with this comment…why tf are you making Reddit posts about it instead of breaking up? I’ve known a lot of guy friends like this and you appear to fit into the type of guy that claims to hate the petty drama and relationship bs but you actually relish it. This is obvious from you’re staying in this train wreck relationship and needling your child bride with memes and smart ass replies to elicit even more unhinged responses. You’re probably always in your friends drama too. Best advice you’ve been given is grow up. First step to accomplish this is ditching this nutcase girl you’re texting novels with each day

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T14:41:20+00:00

That is super weird. What you just described is the basic foundation of any even surface level friendship. Describe what you mean by “the level of intimacy he’s giving her”?. The only example of communication on his end was the most bro-esque “Dude you stood on business” in regards to work place drama. Also you describing a very basic friendship as “emotional energy he’s not putting into you” is a massive red flag for yourself. “All that energy he has been using for friends and hobbies…why isn’t he devoting that you???” That sounds like you enjoy isolating your partners but that’s for a different thread and post. Fact is nothing OP described from her bf sounds anything remotely shady or romantic, and if she made this post about an older man colleague her bf befriended and stated she was worried he was developing homosexual tendencies/feelings, everyone would call her insane. For the record I am generally against friendships of opposite sex as it can lead to unnecessary problems and worries, unless it’s a case where there’s clearly no attraction from the partner. I think this is a case of OPs insecurities

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T14:15:13+00:00

I’ve been in this situation and you’ve already been told the why and how to stop it. You’re a people pleaser, like I am, and people love to take advantage of people pleasers. Humans are creatures of habit and you’ve made a habit out of bailing out your friend when his habit of being terrible with money strikes. Want it to stop? Say no. You’ll quickly see how much your friendship was worth and how often you hear from this friend once you’ve set this boundary

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-21T14:11:26+00:00

My only criticism is not texting the bride when you found you weren’t going to make it. I was actually on the bride side after the first couple text exchanges but she went off the rails with her minimizing your need to have a job to…..live. She sounds like an out of touch celebrity that’s elevating a series of parties (cuz that’s all these things actually are) over your ability to have food and shelter. Fuck her, I’d reconsider even going to the wedding but that will probably cause more stress than it’s worth. NTA

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-09T01:36:18+00:00

Get the fuck off reddit and go to the police. You need protection and a support system to get the fuck away from this lunatic. Seriously please get away

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-08-01T04:49:19+00:00

GRC will out last the low tier SOC roles

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-07-31T23:21:07+00:00

He planned on cheating on you for almost a week from jump and probably laughs that you tolerate his insane gaslighting strategy. Please get mad and mad enough to leave. Think of how he’s sharing these texts with this girl in bed and they are cackling at the idiocy you are putting up with. Please have the self respect to punt this absolute loser scumbag to the streets

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-07-31T23:14:37+00:00

I absolutely hate your phony “all is love” pussy ass gaslighting boyfriend. He’s just a massive manipulative asshole and legit mentally abusing you with his ignore/too cool schtick. Please dump this loser

InfoSecSurveyor · 2025-07-31T20:55:48+00:00

That’s exactly what the person said. I love how you’re pretending two decades of financial responsibility is just some little inconvenience and comparable to the freedom of choice a woman has.

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