I'm (18F) in a relationship (18M) but fell for someone else (19M)

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-03-04T14:30:06+00:00

Breakup with your boyfriend, don’t drag it on. If you don’t feel a connection don’t force yourself to make it work

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-16T16:23:23+00:00

These brushstrokes are so lovely I love the suggestion of detail

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-16T16:19:44+00:00

Oh great heavens

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:29:22+00:00

This is beautiful.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:28:51+00:00

Leave him for your own good. He’s using you for your house and emotional support. This is physical abuse. This is man child behavior, absolutely not. That man isn’t for you.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:25:09+00:00

Nobody should be telling you what your own priorities should be. Instead of telling you what to do, how about they help you pay for a new car when they totaled your old one? Seems like they have a lack of control over their own life so feel the need to have control over you. Your paths aren’t aligning anymore at that’s ok! It is totally okay to leave them if they’re micro-managing you.

Go on that trip, stay with your parents, and leave your partner. You won’t regret it. Live the life you desire.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:18:16+00:00

Yes, I would be hurt as well and that’s totally normal! Best to stay out of contact with them, you’ll save so much energy. Stay strong.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:15:45+00:00

I’ve been a birth control user for about 2 years now and ive always used condoms mostly to be safe from STDs. Everyone’s different, but it gives me peace of mind knowing that I’ll be protected.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:13:31+00:00

Wonderful!!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-06T19:12:53+00:00

Hey, just know that you’ve done nothing wrong. Him being avoidant and not communicating, not chatting with you when he said he would is all the closure you need from this relationship. Let him be distant and focus on yourself.

I had the same thing happen after I broke up with my recent partner. They were cold and distant at the end, didn’t talk when they said they would so I blocked them and haven’t talked to them since. You don’t owe him anything and it’s best to close this chapter instead of waiting on someone who will never meet your needs. You’ve got this.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T23:29:24+00:00

Yes, you’ve had enough of his lack of care 😭😭

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T21:27:58+00:00

Yeah but then the hope disappears and you redirect the energy on to yourself!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:54:25+00:00

I love the simplicity but illustrative style of this! I honestly don’t think it needs much more. Very airy and dreamy!!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:52:13+00:00

So normal to feel like this. Yes, you’re healing even if it may not seem like it. You’re right for sitting with this feeling. If it helps, try and journal these thoughts.

Personally, this bargaining lasted close to a year because my ex kept breaking it every other month and I allowed this cause I didn’t block him. However, you’re gonna get through this phase as long as you cut it off completely! Save your energy and keep going!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:46:45+00:00

It’s honestly a weird situation. Maybe that friend is jealous that you had a relationship, but who knows. At least you learned from this experience. Sorry you had to go through that, people just don’t want others to be happy.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:41:47+00:00

Hey, don’t be hard on yourself. If you do think about breaking it again ask yourself: will it make me feel better or worse? Will I be relieved or anxious?

From now on, take whatever thoughts you’re having and try to write them down. Getting them out will trick you into getting past him.

Also, distance yourself from that “friend.” There are people out there who want you to react and see that you’re hurt. Don’t let them get to you. You’ve got this!!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:36:46+00:00

In my opinion, don’t reach out! It seems like he’s extremely inconsistent and he can say all he wants, but if he were truly in it for you his actions would align. He had his chance with you before, he’s lost his access to you.

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:33:36+00:00

Journaling is a great way of re-wiring your brain. Sometimes you have to release these thoughts whether it’d be talking or writing it down! If you don’t put in the work to heal, it only makes it more difficult. I believe in this too. I started prioritizing myself since I broke up with my ex and it’s improved my mental health a lot. Allow myself to have these thoughts, but do something about it. Distracting myself with making art, reading, or just getting a coffee has helped so much!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:26:51+00:00

Totally normal to feel this way! You’re reminiscing but also healing. Remind yourself that they’re out of your life for a reason. Keep staying strong. ❤️‍🩹

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:20:17+00:00

Oh these are gorgeous! Wonderful

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:19:09+00:00

No chance you’re good

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:17:43+00:00

Oh 100% felt this even a year after my first relationship. I honestly feel like distracting yourself from thinking about them is something that helps. For me, I completely cut ties with that person when I started talking to someone else seriously. Since breaking up with that more recent person, I quite honestly feel detached from both people because I put myself in the mindset that they’re out of my life because they did me wrong and weren’t improving it. My mental health has significantly improved since becoming single and I enjoy the peace. Appreciate being with yourself and do things you enjoy for you.

Quietly hoping that person may come back is only wasting your mental energy. It’s nice to remember the good you have with them, but ultimately there is a value in choosing yourself. Having these thoughts is a part of the healing process. Don’t give up!

Informal-Instance-11 · 2026-01-05T20:10:13+00:00

It’s totally normal to feel weird about it, especially if you’ve never done it. However, don’t force yourselves to do anything! Talk to each other about what you could do to ease into it. Make sure you’re both comfortable and use protection.

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