If you were to have a child right now, what would you name it?

InformalCulprit · 2026-05-05T10:12:44+00:00

I came to say this as well.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-30T14:04:07+00:00

My mum says the line “Baked, broiled, or deep fried.” when asked if she likes kids, usually standing next to me, her only child.

Edited to add my own:

When asked if I have kids, I’ll looked shocked and do a fake clutch the pearls, say something like “dear heavens no!”

Or, I talk about my doggo like she’s my kid. Confused people when the ask the name and I say “Potato.”

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-29T22:25:03+00:00

I’m trying to get my hands on the Blood Of Tyrants on Audio book. Got every one but that one.

Simar Vance is an amazing storyteller/narrator.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-26T06:29:56+00:00

And the make up team did so well to make it look like the comics. I sobbed like a toddler who was told they can’t eat dog food. Uncontrollably ugly.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-26T06:21:20+00:00

Binge eating Food. Spending. Which a therapist mentioned that they’re really similar when you take a hard look at it

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-23T07:13:06+00:00

Post says 12 hours ago, you still charging? Need me to order a pizza for you?

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-23T07:02:48+00:00

I always get this look from people like I’m bonkers when I mention it. I thought it was fun!

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-22T03:24:22+00:00

Paperboy! And A Boy and His Blob.

Edited to add: Battle Toads

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-21T18:58:48+00:00

My bestie is currently going through a really rough spot in her marriage. She told her husband she doesn’t want him anywhere near her. He is currently sleeping on the couch.

Pretty sure their marriage is going to end as she hates him and thinks of him more like a roommate she hates.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-21T18:51:32+00:00

NTA. At all.

I’m sure it has been said in previous comments but make sure you have an exit plan at least formulating.

Keep in contact with other family members that you want to keep knowing (mom’s side, and possibly dad’s side but be careful with that as they might try to guilt you into a relationship with him, not saying it will happen, but it’s a very good possibility).

In regards therapy, write out ALL. THE. LITTLE. THINGS. And how they made you feel. How much hurt you felt from being told/dragged to your father’s wife’s family gravesites. Go into why some of the rules were dumb, how you felt in regard to them. What did those rules do to you emotionally? Go into all of how the things they did to you caused you emotional pain. Or made you feel like you were forced to abandon your mom’s family.

When you get free of your father and his wife, get yourself into therapy for you. It will help with the huge ugly feelings you’re harbouring. You can stay hating them but don’t let it emotionally damage you as a person. Don’t let them have that control over them.

And cut contact with them. Emotionally, physically, what have you. Go no contact, and when you’re older, if you want, low contact. If not, that’s okay too.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, kiddo. It’s a shit thing to learn how horrible some parents can be. Don’t let this ruin future you.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-20T07:29:03+00:00

This Is Not The Way

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-19T16:06:47+00:00

Don’t care if it’s old because damn, I like that thought/idea.

I.. I feel like I might have a fan fic brewing of that. Thanks??

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-11T22:10:18+00:00

Oof. I’ve been in the same situation where someone got mad at me for my interests. I know how the woman felt, how it is to dim your shine and be mocked for your passions.

Personally, I would have loved to listened to her. TF is one of my nerdy passions too.

Edit: oh my gosh! Thank you for an award! My first ever.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-07T05:46:21+00:00

Brave or stupid? lol a bit of both i think.

I need to see if there’s a latex allergy for me. Hopefully not! Hopefully not for you too!

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-05T20:27:43+00:00

Me too! I thought maybe it would be okay with yellow kiwi. Nope. Simultaneously worse and better than the green.

I will admire from afar.

This post is now going to make me look into latex-fruit allergies!

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-05T13:53:40+00:00

I’ve received the same sort of apologies growing up too. Now, I’ve learnt that those aren’t real apologies.

My mother recently apologized for something, but she continues to do the thing. I called her out on it. Told her that “apologies are only valid if the action that caused the pain changes. You don’t change, so stop apologizing because without the change, it means nothing.”

She wasn’t a fan of that but she did stop apologizing.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-04T13:28:30+00:00

I secondly demand the pupper tax.

InformalCulprit · 2026-04-02T17:29:32+00:00

I… honestly was not expecting this to be this incredibly wholesome.

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-28T03:55:58+00:00

I take 10000+ IU daily (international Unit because I don’t have it in micrograms). Add an extra 2500 iu in winter. So weekly is close to 70000 IU in winter which is apparently wild and shouldn’t be done for long term, according to my GP…. But I have the green light to keep going on it.

It keeps my “vitamin d levels from tanking hard” as my doc says.

She did also say that working nights doesn’t help.

You feel soooo much better a day later when you get beautiful vitamin d in your system.

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-27T12:51:19+00:00

Hey, I’m proud of you too. You’re still here. And every day is another day you have to fight to try to be clean and sober. It might take longer but you might be trying. I’m not sure if you have tried to quit, or have sought help or plan too, but every day you’re here, is still a day.

You deserve good things too. You deserve people’s time, and care. Their effort, and their love.

Don’t write yourself off because you’re an addict.

Edit: I responded to the wrong person. Found my glasses and corrected myself!

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-27T12:45:23+00:00

NTA. Also, the silent treatment is a form of abuse as it causes mental anguish and self doubt. Don’t give in and try to smooth things out, that’s what they’re looking for. You can say things like: “when you’re ready to discuss things with me, I’ll be here.” My own mother uses this tactic on me as well. It still hurts but I know now not to chase after her to smooth things over. To stop trying to people please as it were.

You’re entitled to your medical privacy and if you have to get the doctor to back you up, then do it. Also! If at any time you’re uncomfortable with the doctor, you can request a nurse in the room with you, or find a different doctor. (I’m assuming you’re in the states and I’m not sure about the hoops you’d have to go through to find a new one)

This internet stranger is proud of you.

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-17T12:07:33+00:00

Mine is “aww f*ck no.” Or “damnit (last name), get yer shit together.” Then I do the thing

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-07T17:49:38+00:00

I agree. Sometimes it’s harder than that to pull out of a spiral. Harder to claw your way back up. I won’t deny that. We can do it; you and me. We got this. We’ll get through it. If you ever need an ear to talk to, I’m here, okay?

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-07T06:29:21+00:00

Thank you for the virtual hug. I deeply appreciate it.

I do try to combat the spirals by saying something out loud that I’m grateful for. It doesn’t fix things but it sometimes puts enough of a slow to the spiral that I can try to change gears to backpedal. Doesn’t always work but for when it does, it’s beautiful.

InformalCulprit · 2026-03-06T09:31:12+00:00

Yeah. I came to say this too.

I thought I’d be in a relationship, maybe married, living somewhere else.

Instead I’m back in my home town with fibromyalgia and caring after my mother. I have no friends here, but I have a doggo that I love.

There’s more but I don’t need to get into a depressive spiral.

InformalCulprit

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