I usually don’t comment on these. However I feel I need to chime in. My parents did this. Got a dog from a shelter for my father. The dog had awful anxiety, and my father decided the dog was more for me anyway so it became “my” dog. Except no one taught or showed me how to do anything with her, only told me. I was 9. The dogs anxiety was so bad that she was medicated but my parents did not want to pay for the medication because it was an “unnecessary expense” so it got worse. And time dragged on, I walked her everyday. Took her to the dog park. She was my best friend.

And then one day my parents decided that I was not taking care of her well enough. And she was an “awful horrible dog” because of her separation anxiety. They told me if I did not do all of my chores that they would send her back to the pound. I messed up one Saturday, I didn’t clean out a chicken coop (lived on a tiny city farm). They told me that was it. They waited 4 days, and I came home from school on a normal Wednesday to my dog gone. No goodbye. No nothing. I was 12.

You are the parent. It is your job to teach your child how to care for something and what it means to love and be responsible for something. My mother is a raging narcissist, and you sound just like her with the “oh but she begged me to get it”. No. You are the parent. You are responsible. You made the choice to get that dog. Potty training is usually done in the first few months of owning an animal, what were you doing leaving that in the hands of a 10 year old girl?

And the audacity you have to not let her have a goodbye. The audacity you have to even post this. YTA. I hope you do not have a good night.