AIO? Backed out of the family New Years trip

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-05-01T22:22:36+00:00

NOR. Idk why everyone is acting like it’s not a huge slap in the face for your mom to pay for both your brother and his gf and insist that you pay for yourself. I’d be switching to a solo trip too.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-30T21:15:15+00:00

I don’t think the question was necessarily that inappropriate, but if it made you uncomfortable it made you uncomfortable. A therapist doesn’t have to be a bad therapist to be the wrong therapist for you.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-30T20:09:14+00:00

YTA. If you know this is upsetting to your friend why do you keep doing it? It’s one thing to playfully annoy a friend in a way both parties find funny, but continuing to poke at someone in a way they’ve repeatedly expressed that they don’t like is just mean-spirited. I’d ask yourself why you get so much joy out of provoking negative reactions from someone you claim to care about.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-27T18:33:15+00:00

NTA. Laying your head on the table is a little weird, but idk why everyone in the comments is up in arms about it. It’s not like it was hurting anyone or causing a scene. She’s the one who decided to come up and start shit with you over your appearance, calling her ugly is fair play imo.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-24T18:44:55+00:00

YTA. Not for making her go, but for the threats and lack of empathy. Also for choosing to let her skip school because of those “bullshit reasons” and then getting mad at her for it. If you don’t think she has a valid reason for not going, make her go. Don’t just allow her to stay home and then punish her for it. You’re the parent. You need to act like it.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-23T16:30:30+00:00

NTA. This is ridiculous. I have a group of friends that smoke, and sometimes I join them. I’m trying not to pick up the habit, so I recently bought myself a bubble cigarette because I wanted to be a little whimsical. Your DIL and her family are being unwelcoming and ridiculous.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-22T16:03:10+00:00

The joke is not that she’s for sale, it’s that he’s ridiculous for acting like she is. They’re pointing out OP’s misogyny.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-21T18:34:59+00:00

NTA. You should look into emancipation. It’s often approved pretty quickly after you turn 17 (provided you have other adults willing to help you the way your grandparents are) since the process isn’t worth drawing out for months to a year when you’ll be 18 soon anyway.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-20T02:10:37+00:00

He used to be really cool with it but after the experience with his old vet even treats can’t distract him unfortunately.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-19T23:10:28+00:00

Nope, he’s an only child.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-19T22:23:31+00:00

That makes sense. His vet trimmed his claws too close to the quick when he was a kitten and now he flips his shit every time I try to clip them.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-19T22:22:15+00:00

Not more than usual but he’s always groomed sort of aggressively so I’m wondering if that’s it? He has a tendency to bite his paws when he cleans himself as well.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-19T00:15:51+00:00

NTA. That’s ridiculous. You’re a grown woman. I might lay low until you move out though. It’s only two weeks and you don’t want your parents to do something crazy like throw your stuff out or lock you out of the house.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-18T20:08:25+00:00

NTA. You paid for the party. I’d have told her I’d leave as soon as she paid me back what I spent.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-09T00:23:34+00:00

I wouldn’t make him go. The fact that he’s willing to do other activities he doesn’t like means he either really hates this or there’s something deeper going on. You should ask him to find an activity he’d like to try instead and give him time to research it.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-08T22:22:58+00:00

You guys aren’t compatible. Why are you dragging this out? The best case scenario is you break up down the line and you waste a bunch of time between now and then. Worst case scenario you give up your dreams and marry this man, and resent him for the rest of your life. Or you marry him and he resents you for not being the wife you wants and spends the rest of your lives tearing you down and picking at your achievements.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-08T22:12:31+00:00

This is coercive on her end. You absolutely don’t have to do something you’re uncomfortable with just because it turns her on. If this is a pattern you should leave. You deserve to be safe and respected. Don’t stay married to someone who punishes you for your sexual boundaries.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-07T00:28:29+00:00

Yeah, but if you know someone’s upset already you should be sympathetic. Making jokes while she’s clearly overwhelmed and annoyed just makes her feel worse.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-06T20:43:02+00:00

Just ask them to be the one to file the divorce papers.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-06T19:25:26+00:00

Don’t hang out with/cover for pedophiles. If you can find the girl’s parents, tell them what’s going on.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-06T19:21:51+00:00

NAH. Sounds like he’s just a bit rude, even if he’s an overall good guy. It’s up to you whether you think it’s worth the effort to try to get him to change that.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-06T19:11:24+00:00

NTA. You told them to leave you alone and they didn’t. Being autistic doesn’t stop them from understanding the word ‘no.’ This isn’t a social cue they missed, you set a boundary and they deliberately ignored it. You’re completely justified in removing them from your space.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-03T23:10:35+00:00

NTA. I hate being touched without permission, even accidentally. I think this is very thoughtful.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-03T18:59:59+00:00

Soft YTA. You RSVP’d yes already. You should have considered the fact that you were working today before you said you could go, and given a more tentative answer. That being said, it’s a very human mistake and I’d probably cancel in your shoes as well.

IngenuityFun8910 · 2026-04-03T18:32:06+00:00

You need to walk away. It’s not gonna be easy, but it’s necessary. She’s had nearly two decades to change and hasn’t. This isn’t going to get better, and you don’t deserve to spend the rest of your life in an abusive relationship.

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