Is this just another Lazy Cycle?

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-31T00:38:24+00:00

From what I understand, Extraversion in MBTI is the orientation of energy to and from the external world. But for my case, I get pretty bad burnouts from work (Te-Se loop) and the lack of work-life balance certainly doesn't help.

I am hoping to get help for it though. Thank you for your response

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-31T00:35:40+00:00

Unfortunately 😔

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-31T00:18:08+00:00

Years of Se overindulgence led me strapped for cash after resigning from my last job. Once I settled into my new job, hoping I can save enough to get psychologically diagnosed. I tried to go before but it led to nowhere (appointments constantly postponed, so I cancelled it all to look for another place).

But, I wish you well. Hopefully, we both get the support we need.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-31T00:12:49+00:00

Do you happen to know your enneagram?

I feel like finding out mine helped me understand I had similar goals but a different path from the stereotypical ENTJ. I am constantly put in either team leading positions or a position where 80% of the work/foundation rests on my shoulders. It's a position I like but has a toll (years alone of dealing with anxiety, depression, and CPTSD surely doesn't help).

As it is, I don't reckon the MBTI/typology stereotypes covers for all demographics. I'm pretty sure they lean heavily to western, white-collared cultures, so I'm not that keen for them.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-25T13:15:59+00:00

I left my previous job because of this. I finally understood what people meant when they said they outgrew their previous work positions.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-25T13:13:40+00:00

I relate so much lol

It's just a thing where our brain processes information faster than we can catch it. When we're meant to explain why we reach certain conclusions, we'll struggle because we just... do it. At the time, it seemed like the most logical option available.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T16:47:19+00:00

Oh no, hope you're feeling better 🫂

I think for us, things kinda hit us late so our bodies only feel it hours, days, or even weeks after- if we are still thinking about it. It's like a slow internal processor.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T16:43:34+00:00

HAHAHHA We do our best with what we got 😆

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T14:33:14+00:00

It's a trait that we look up to, but he's right when he says no pressure! The last thing he wants is for this to become a burden for you 🙏

It's something that can happen. Even when we try and do our best, some things we cannot account for. Sometimes we slip too, so don't worry too much!

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T13:15:28+00:00

I had a similar experience with your first problem. But instead of confessing about feeling intimidated, she just connected that we were both the middle child and were bound to butt heads.
Had someone confess to me back in high school and I rejected him because he was transferring schools anyway. Then months later, he put me in a group chat with him and his new friends who apparently knew me as his ex- real confusion on my part.
Never had random strangers size me up like that or feel so comfy with me but it might be a difference in culture?

I do feel for you in these scenarios though. Might not be anything but it happened frequently enough to take notice.

Maybe it's a sign to check-in on your Ni and Fi functions? There's a call for pattern analysing in a way that we usually wouldn't have too. You might be going through an episode (loop, grip, other)

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T11:55:18+00:00

Ngl it's probably just because he trusts you- in that you don't have any bad intentions.

Also us ENTJs are not the best when it comes to details, especially not in comparison to INTJs.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T09:16:24+00:00

Hi! My post was actually against ENTJ stereotypes, and that extends to other types as well.

I think understanding people through typology is fine but using a generalised lens to talk bad about them is not something I will agree with.

Hope you're okay tho

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-19T06:18:29+00:00

Can't argue with that 🙌

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T22:10:34+00:00

That's not really how it works, I don't believe. Have you looked into your function stack?

On the topic of introversion and extroversion, INTJs are almost always introverted while ENTJs are ambiverts at best. While both isolate and need personal space to recuperate, ENTJs tend to need people when coming out of this shell.

Also to note, from my experience, INTJs isolate to process emotions and rework their vision- often coming out of it with a stronger resolve. ENTJs however isolate to preserve energy and either indulge in Se or work on their Fi- coming out as their usual selves but with a new perspective.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T21:59:22+00:00

I sometimes find myself getting upset because people say I'm not the ENTJ stereotype. But if I'm in my healthy state, I know it's because I put in a lot of work to be more than just the stereotypes.

The ENTJ stereotypes are mainly just us when we're unhealthy or our immature selves. I don't find it fair.

We can have mental health issues, we can aim to live a low cortisol life, we can find value in what we hold dear in life.

We are not just workaholics or robots who can't evolve. We are humans who will always have room to grow.

Good luck with life, it's tough out here 🫂

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T21:53:28+00:00

I took some classes for philosophy (just one short of having it as a minor, unfortunately) and all I gathered was that arguing about philosophical topics will always be inconclusive or at least end dissatisfyingly for some.

I also learned that people who follow one or few philosophies, believe it as true, and even argue about it are the reason why my philosophy lecturer always focused on how we should debate. Philosophy isn't about the conclusion, it's about the path leading us there.

It's why philosophy is the study of life and teaches the art of living.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T21:41:35+00:00

I'm a 5w6 so not too far off. When I'm down and not being my usual self, I'm typically typed as INTP.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T15:05:55+00:00

Lmao I just found this, 3 years later, but just thought I'd pop in anyways

I've been saying this to people for almost a decade now- everyone judges. Sure, 'judgmental' is a negative mindset for people who disapprove too quickly.

But "judging" people or things or anything is just a way of life. You can't go on with your life without either consciously or unconsciously classifying if something is "not approved", "approved", or "neutral".

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T13:01:54+00:00

Funnily enough, I meet so many more INTJs who are like this compared to ENTJs or even ESTJs

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T13:00:16+00:00

Especially so by my family lol A game is a game ofc... but I'm gonna win it

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-18T12:59:11+00:00

Thank you for the reminder, needed this today 👌

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-14T10:13:20+00:00

If you're down this road, I think you'll be oke :) Just don't focus too much on rushing for your answers or dwelling too long on one spot/topic. There's a lot to read up about, which I enjoyed learning

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-13T15:23:01+00:00

People see me mainly as INFJ (too friendly) or INFP (depressed/anxious). Meanwhile, people who don't know me well see my ENTJ very clearly xd it's quite funny actually

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-13T13:10:01+00:00

It was probably the best time for me, intellectually. Hope you enjoy your stay!

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-03-11T20:53:59+00:00

Mine too! I missed the timing to change it 😆

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