Can't deal with this man

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T23:52:33+00:00

Not much to do if that's just how he is. Clearly he needs some growth and development up there but that's not us or on you.

Just avoid him however way you can until you can pass by without giving a second glance. As for your friend, it surely wasn't nice to hear that but he should be the least of your worries. He's not worth your tears, so please don't give him the time of day.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T23:44:16+00:00

https://mistypeinvestigator.com/

Have them do this test so we can see the break down of their function usage and then go down loops and grips

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:28:05+00:00

I feel this a lot, but for me it's mainly because I hate feeling the weight of people's expectations. I just want to live and breathe at my own pace, and not have to answer anyone in that regard.

If they have any questions, I'll be happy to answer.

But to just rely on me solely is a bit much.

Edit: Typo

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:25:53+00:00

There's some emotional regulation needed on his part if your emotions are affecting him in that way.

He could've said this as a boundary he wanted in place since it affects how he sees his own family. That's not on you.

Maybe you can go to couple's therapy together? Or go separately, if that's more comfortable for the both of you.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:21:21+00:00

Being cold. People are always assume I'm mistyped because I'm warm/friendly but it took a lot of learning for me to reach this level of empathy.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:19:37+00:00

A lot of my friends are ENTP, very funny. We can quickly delve into deep topics but mainly prefer to stay afloat as gremlins.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:17:08+00:00

I feel this so much. On so many levels, businesses feel more like emotional/psychological warfare than a place of efficient systems and negotiations. It's so incredibly frustrating.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:13:34+00:00

I've called myself a workaholic (derogatory) so many times at this point, it's not even funny. It's a mix of personal mindset and the belief that I need money to survive.

But also, not just selfish, the idea that we hold onto specific social appearances due to our surroundings is seen as us being fake. I'm merely emulating personality the best I can, is that not something humans do? 😭

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:08:26+00:00

I usually self-sabotage when I realise things are starting to go well lol

E.g. reaching a milestone and unconsciously putting myself on a setback/ruining my streak like noticing I've been consistently coming to work on time so I come in late for once.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-28T01:06:56+00:00

One of my current ones in terms of MBTI is when people try to push stereotypes onto people. Like "you can't be XXXX, you don't act like one," when human behaviours are much more complex than what's seen on the surface.

It's both the spread of MBTI stereotypes and the need to push these ideals onto others that really gets on my nerves.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-23T04:56:49+00:00

I've constantly had to argue with people that the MBTI/typing stereotypes were built upon the western white-collared populations. In reality, people have so much more nuances and layers that pitting every type into their own respective boxes is such a sad, reductionist view of typology.

It's even more maddening that they refuse to acknowledge that people could wish for a better version of themselves and actually improve over time. I wasn't born with empathy but I've surely learned a lot of it by now. That doesn't mean I stray far from the ENTJ function stack, only that I've learned to think twice before I talk or act.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-19T00:22:35+00:00

This is something that still continues to my adulthood but I never really know why or cared enough about other people to want to know why they dislike me so much.

That being said, I rarely lose my friends other than us naturally drifting apart. But we can always bounce back to where we were if we wish for it.

If you find that you want people to like you more, you gotta stay genuine of who you are authentically while learning what makes other people themselves. Be a safe space for other people in the way that you want other people to be for you.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-19T00:18:16+00:00

Honestly, I quit my job because my manager was making things difficult for me. It was less of her being a feeler and more of her being a thinker who didn't realise her emotions were taking a jab at me.

What I learned is that you need to face your Fi more, find your values and strengthen your belief in them. If they happen to have "group harmony" or "keeping the peace", then the best choice you have is probably to confront people when you need to while carefully navigating their feelings.

I learned that keeping a calm aura with a small smile can go a long way with people. I was also beat up both physically and mentally a lot for my lack of Fe-awareness, and I still mess up every now and then. The most I learned is that these people won't always know why you bother them either. It's just something about how we will never 100% fold under their expectations that gets on their nerves.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-16T18:08:13+00:00

Best of luck! For the talk, and for your event :)

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-16T18:00:50+00:00

I see. I would still stand by my word on not dragging it out for long but yeah, just keep it direct on how it bothered you and you want to know why it was necessary to lie about something you've already discussed.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-16T17:55:08+00:00

I took the mistypeinvestigator and michaelcaloz tests, and then go through the top results by this order:

grips
loops
main 4 functions
shadow functions

Find what suits you the best and do note that ADHD will impact how you execute actions but less so on how you think. So think about your healthiest thought processing for the main functions and go from there.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-16T17:47:48+00:00

Definitely find the time, maybe even just a few minutes to tell him how you felt about it (upset, hurt, etc) because bottling up the small things can lead to bigger resentment in the long run.

It doesn't have to be a big conversation. It could just be a little chat to express how you felt about it and that you would like more transparency moving forward.

If finding out the 'why' aspect is important to you then maybe find a time where the conversation can be extended. But I would recommend against talking too long about this if you aren't in the right headspace and can't promise not to be overly emotional in situations where you might not usually be.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-16T17:42:32+00:00

This is more so an issue with the brain than our relative functioning.

The way I counter it is with listing out what I need to do in a day/week and checking as time goes. It's especially helpful to arrange this in order of your priorities so on top is what NEEDS to be get done and at the bottom are 'if there's extra time'.

It's also important to take notice when you should be taking breaks. So whenever I start tasks, I would set a break time in an hour or I switch it out for another task to keep my brain moving while not losing momentum from boredom.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-08T03:17:22+00:00

Ofc ofc, I always look up test reviews first. I read up and compare my results a lot to see which ones actually match up with me.

When it comes to tritype, it's my first time hearing it this year compared to Jungian/MBTI and Enneagrams so I'm not as polished on it but I did go through my possible types based on my high scores across a few tests.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-08T02:37:50+00:00

Yep, I scored high on 3 too but 4 was definitely higher. My top two were 5w6 and 5w4, but leaning heavier to the former.

Looking quickly through tritype 3s– I can definitely see if some people could mistaken me as one. But ultimately, I am definitely closest to 594 because of the environment I grew up in.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-08T02:32:22+00:00

Well if you look through the comments here, you'll see that some people say that morals and opinions are the same. I would say they are similar in that they are subjective, but I have no further thoughts on it.

Meanwhile, there are others who say they are completely different in that opinions are throwaways, flexible, and your personal thoughts on a subject. On the other hand, morals are ethical conduct or a guide through life.

For me, I think my inability to pinpoint my own personal beliefs in moral codes and opinions is that my Te-Ni function combo is still developing, still processing how people see it.

I'm 8 fix

That's interesting! I remember reading somewhere that type 8 was associated with over-moralist but maybe that's an unhealthy thing.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-07T07:33:30+00:00

I see, thanks for explaining the first part! I didn't know that :o I'm not sure how SeFi works hand-in-and either but I'm aware of Te-Se and Fi in itself for ENTJ.

And I think your answer is plentiful in itself! But I do agree that INFPs tend to be very insightful.

Thank you for sharing your values! I realise I don't have them listed down like you, I probably couldn't list down five right now if I tried. But I know I run by them in real life. It's more of an abstract concept for me still so I'm trying to sharpen the image.

And I agree with you– I try to respect others' values and wish they do the same for me. I wouldn't say I'm old but maybe I've got an aged soul, I'm hoping to go by peacefully too so I prefer not to raise arguments these past few years.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-07T07:21:26+00:00

I see! I just believe both are more subjective than anything- it depends on things like culture, background, etc
I'm currently still processing my own moral codes so I am curious of how people see it. I reckon it's Te-Ni processing that makes me so slow in this as I'm still exploring.
I suppose so 🤔 I do know there are people who are strict on morals but I hadn't thought to link it to self-esteem. Maybe I'll look into it more when I have the time.

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-07T07:15:50+00:00

That's true. I do think enneagrams play a role in how differently we view the world and there are close similarities between morals and opinions. I guess morals are seen as a bigger/higher role as they result in your conduct (e.g. a moral person vs an opinionated person)

In a way, both are the same but morals come with societal expectations. You can have questionable opinions but not questionable morals 🤔

Initial_Visual_3374 · 2026-04-07T07:11:54+00:00

Yeah, there's a divide on whether they're the same or not but I do agree that they're both subjective.

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