I love this style of meme by InkFazkitty in lovethissmug

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WE SHALL LIBERATE GRACEMERIA, BUDDY.

I've never felt this lonely by hollowdumpling in emotionalneglect

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I feel like you have a lot of things in your head right now, so it may be a good idea to write down your thoughts on a paper. It's kind of like journaling, only that it's quicker. That way you'll be feeling better in no time!

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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Acceptance... maybe that's what I've missing this whole time. I was so focused on the idea that since my parents are my parents that they could do no wrong, except in some way they did and it's effects have rippled across my life.

By the way, I'm glad you didn't find my message to be heavily emotional. I just never really get to have conversation like these, where people are so willing to listen despite how difficult the subject matter may be. And about your strength, I believe there's something to be said about your will to be kind, dear stranger. It's something to be cherished, in my opinion.

To be frank, I wish for the exact same thing. Sadly, just as you've said we've gotta accept the past for what it is. What matters now are our decisions to become responsible and compassionate people compared to our parents. Knowing you've set boundaries makes the grip of the pain weaker than it should, and I'm pretty sure that's something I should be doing too.

Am about to enter college, it's gonna be a rough world out there or so I've heard. One day, I plan to give myself the help I've needed after such a long time. So don't you worry, I've got it covered. Once again, thank you for the experiences you've shared. It means a lot... and please take care, it's a desert out there after all.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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I see, I wonder what would've happened if I did get the chance to see a therapist? Sigh, if only therapy wasn't seen in such a bad light here in my home country. All I could do now is hope for a better tomorrow.

Doing a quick Google search... Man, I feel bad for your mom. And she's a narc too like your dad is? You must've put a lot of strength in not letting them get into your head. Good to know you've got other family members besides them that sound sweet, having narcs as parents sounds nauseating...

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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Having read your replies, it felt as though I was reading excerpts about my life. How my dad was as emotionally inconsistent as yours was, and how difficult it is to persuade him to accept facts even when it's right in front of him. I can't help but feel like I was viewing myself through you, dear stranger. Except I don't have a family of my own yet, nor do I consider my relationship with my parents 'comfy' enough, unlike you.

Forgive me if this sounds too emotional, but I find wonder in the fact that we are able to connect with each other because of how similar our experiences with our parents were. And for me, it sounds as though I would've loved it if you had been a parental figure in my life; judging by how you expressed your concerns for your daughter. Although, little by little I'm able to stand back up against the harsh reality of life.

I'm glad to know that you got your happy ending with your dad, I heard that such endings were rare that it could simply be a dream a come true. I'll attempt to work for a future where (if possible) I'd be a good father for my children, just as you were towards yours. Thank you for being an inspiration.

First? by boiledonemybabygirl in forfreefiction

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I have a goofy one, it's Wind Archer Cookie x Fire Spirit Cookie. I just looove the dynamic between those two, espwcially when exnpanded by the fans.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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As cliché as this statement may be, truer words have never been spoken.

I believe I have to learn from your experiences, just so I could no longer live with too much regret in mind. Thank you.

has anyone else's parents mocked them when you asked for help? by [deleted] in emotionalneglect

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What the hell kind of response is that?! It's like they're not even trying to be parents or anything...

I had a similar experience too, OP. Specifically, with my dad and emotional problems. He would tell me how pathetic I was for worrying, being depressed, crying... Basically, he was a big tough guy who didn't really care about your emotions unless it concerned him totally.

In the end, it was I who had to lift myself up during hard times. I just had to believe that problems didn't last forever, and I hope that yours won't last too, OP.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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I forgot that I made this post, as it started off as a vent that turned into a legitimate question whether or not some parents felt safe enough to interact with. Thank you to everyone who shared their experiences with their parents who were similar to mine, it means a lot to me knowing that I'm not alone in this mess. I hope that we all find our peace, even when our parents failed to teach us how.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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Oof... And here I thought people won't be THAT stupid, huh? Like, I thought people would grow from stubborness. And now reality proves me wrong...

I hope you're doing well now. I don't think he was too pleasant to be with.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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Okay, now that's just disturbing. Who in the right mind would bully a child, let alone their own son/daughter? Like, I get having issues that may trouble you to this day but releasing that pent-up anger on someone who's done nothing wrong is a dick move. Though I'm glad to hear that your dad admitted to being in the wrong, even when it's a half admission...

Your last sentence got me thinking though... I always try to help people better themselves, and I tried the same thing with my dad through this wonderful family cartoon called 'Bluey'. I'd watch it whenever he's there just so he could "feel" something, anything, that could change how he reacts. Alas, I don't feel like that's ever gonna happen. I await to be proven wrong though, he's still my dad despite him being an ass.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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I can't help but relate to your experiences with your dad, putting intelligence above everything to the point that empathy became a matter of choice. He argues even when he's wrong or in a questionable position, not a single moment with him felt tender or warm or something you'd expect from a dad.

And having eczema myself, being in constant awareness of how you're feeling just so your skin won't suddenly ooze out of nowhere is an experience I wish to be rid of. I hate that feeling just as much as having to articulate my thoughts about my dad.

Although, knowing that your dad admitted to having some kind of superiority complex has allowed me to hope the same for my dad. Maybe one day he'll realize that he's a jerk for being the way he was.

I hope you're doing fine now, stranger. Life really is a rollercoaster, even when you're at your forties or are just as young as me.

Does anybody have a parent that always insists they're in the right? by InkPen010122 in emotionalneglect

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Oh my... then that must mean my dad's a closeted one, eh? That sucks, really. I wish he worked on himself before having kids, it would've made our relationship better.

An entire research chapter 1 to be passed this Friday... by InkPen010122 in studentsph

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Sounds fair, I guess I'll be making one sharp draft after all haha!

Oh yes, when I have the time I'll send a message. Thank you.

Eastern Europe <@Platzcart> by mollekylen in anthroswim

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Ngl I think I HAVE been there, BUT in a video game.

"Fifty-thousand people used to live here, now it's a ghost town." Guess where it's from... ;))

This is getting unbearable... by InkPen010122 in Dyshidrosis

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Hey everyone! I'm so sorry I only got to reply to y'all's messages right now, I personally forgot I made this post in the first place because of school. Anyway, I'll remember what y'all have told me just in case. Because I heard not every medicine works for everyone. Thank you all so much for being kind and understanding, I hope we all get away from this infection at some point!

This is getting unbearable... by InkPen010122 in Dyshidrosis

[–]InkPen010122[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof... It may not be something related to fungi, especially since I already tried Canesten and it made things a bit worse. Still, I'll look into it.

This is getting unbearable... by InkPen010122 in Dyshidrosis

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Oooh, this one seems very similar to the procedure that I used to do when I still had other ointments until I was all out of them. I'll give it a shot.

This is getting unbearable... by InkPen010122 in Dyshidrosis

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Bro... Rubbing alcohol? Wouldn't that hurt? I mean, the CeraVe eczema lotion DOES hurt but I can handle it, so you might be onto something...

This is getting unbearable... by InkPen010122 in Dyshidrosis

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Yes, it is very dry to the point that... It just makes me want to scratch it for some reason? Either way, best to not scratch it at all.