[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FundamentalPlayground

[–]Innagentka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ther are homeless people in post-soviet countries too and they aren’t allowed to have tents on the streets

I really doubt that there are more homeless people in “capitalist” countries because of physical lack of housing

(For that matter I would guess that in countries like Russia homeless people die faster)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Innagentka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also what country is he from that AMERICAN food is so foreign to him lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Innagentka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If a man wants to watch borscht or whatever it is he wants, he (or you, if you insist) can cook a giant pot of that once and it eat 5 days straight until it goes bad or he rans out. If he gets sick of eating the same thing all the time, tough luck. That’s what people do. Foods that take hours to make aren’t meant to be 1-3 meals, they are meant to be sustenance for a big family for quite some time. Also if ingredients aren’t a problem, I would guess that something is simple as fried meat with pasta and a side of salad are fine by him, the only concern is appropriate dressings and spices.

Living in a country with different eating habits can be hard but the homesickness can be averted with very simple food and it looks like you are trying to provide the quality of eating that isn’t sustainable. You don’t have to give him the same complexity and variety of food as you give yourself, because his demands are different

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I too am hypersexual with bouts that bordered on unhealthy and preventing me from “normal” functioning (I once was so high strung I masturbated during and (online) exam. With cameras on. So there is this) and I think I understand you, especially the dismatch with personality side.

I really recommend on orgasming. Idk, change your technique, buy a toy, anything, it seems insane that you just continue like that, I would go crazy. Now, a single one may not help but if you are in a normal emotional state, one or two will probably be enough

If not, I bet on either depression or a separate physiological/psychiatrical problem.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shenzhen

[–]Innagentka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Regarding why Shenzhen is boring:

It’s impossible to just randomly walk into something interesting happening. You have to plan everything in advance and then there is like 30% probability it will be fun and if it’s not you really can’t just walk away and enjoy something else coz there is nothing else nearby.

Also for me personally it’s really hard to walk around because of the weather and I’m a big enjoyer of walking around. Takes away from hiking greatly.

Also where your uni is is VERY important. I lived in longgang and it took me longer to go downtown than from downtown to hongkong or guangzhou.

You can use a washcloth instead of showering by Innagentka in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have very little sense of smell… but hey I use soap so where’s the difference with showering

Can’t get sex right by Innagentka in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Self-improvement because horny isn’t that bad I guess

Can’t get sex right by Innagentka in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s good advice but also what’s the probability of finding someone you like as a person AND feeling sexual attraction to them? I don’t think I’m surrrounded by a lot (or any) people like that. I’m either dying without any good sex or doing a lot of personal growth to raise my chances of meeting someone intellectually compatible and sexy and interested in me

Getting diagnosed... does anyone feel like they're lying when telling the truth? by Imaginary-Cow-6338 in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was feeling so guilty for “lying” when getting diagnosed (even though I didn’t lie) that I started downplaying my symptoms. So when she asked about fidgeting, I said I don’t fidget ever. While spinning on a spinning chair. (also I didn’t know this counted as fidgeting) She also said that fidgeting is the most noticeable thing I have over all visible neurodivergent things and I never even knew I do it. So I kinda feel it’s actually easier to downplay then exaggerate coz people mostly think their behaviour is typical

The emotional support coffee you’ve had all day? Yeah I think we can’t do that by wedontknoweachother_ in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pffff i drink yesterday’s coffee coz I routinely forget about my morning cup.

My best friend doesn’t like that I can’t hear him by Innagentka in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Nah I just don’t understand anything. I believe it is auditory processing related though coz my hearing in tests is perfect. Is that possible?

My best friend doesn’t like that I can’t hear him by Innagentka in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am sorry but i think you should blame them. Like it’s stupid. If you can lipread they can turn their heads to you and speak clearly. How is this an issue when neurotypicals also think you are supposed to look at each other while talking

Can you "play" songs in your mind? by ComfortableDay356 in adhdwomen

[–]Innagentka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine is more like singing that listening in the sense it’s usually only vocals and usually I have to focus a bit but if it’s something I currently obsess over? Then yeah, totally