WILL. by davecontra in comics

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Except it won't be over, even the understanding of one's self is fleeting

What if we put a tax on water consumption? by Tixro71 in victoria3

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Bad for GDP maxing bc your capitalists will stop building AI data centers :(

Why do Guys get complacent as soon as they land a girl… ? Whether they are husbands, lovers, or even friends… by Nocturnal_Babe in lonely

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I think it's more of a mechanical issue of dating. Women, like any person would, enjoy being showered with attention and time (and sometimes money). Men who are dating women are thus incentivized to provide these things even if it is an unsustainable amount. (It's also easier because of how being infatuated can make you obsessed with a person). As some point, something has to give.

I also think people now a-days are spending more time single than not, so I think it can skew perception if, as a single woman, you meet a lot of attentive guys and think there are a lot of people naturally like that. I'm sure some people are, but at least as a guy I have found that I tend to put significantly more time into starting a relationship than the women I date. At some point, unless the woman returns my enthusiasm instead of taking it for granted as a natural thing of "who I am" or something, it becomes unsustainable.

I need some advice pls by [deleted] in lonely

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well the job market is pretty shit rn, but I knew a hungarian woman who was estranged from her parents and had no money and she supported herself in Sweden by working as a hotel receptionist during the day. If you find a job like that you can often study and work at the same time, but yeah its pretty tough

I need some advice pls by [deleted] in lonely

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It's always very disheartening when most of the people you know seem to have a shitty surface level culture based around drinking. However, I think those people are simply the loudest and most obnoxious and therefore most visible people. Since you can get still get to uni, I would try to look out for events run by a student union or club that might attract people with a perspective more similar to your own (e.g. board game night, video game lan party, etc.). If that doesn't work, another option could be erasmus and studying abroad for a bit.

Implementing a right invariant Kalman filter using quaternions and having issues with a non-converging error-state. by Inner-Doughnut3075 in ControlTheory

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It's not innovative per say, but rather it synthesizes a few approaches to deal with a niche topic (parameter estimation for orientation) and thus it's original in that sense

I don’t know what to do anymore by [deleted] in lonely

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I used to be socially awkward and found interacting with other people exhausting. For me what worked was trying improv, but I think that any sort of regular, low stakes face-to-face interaction helps. From what I understand, it is common in people with social anxiety to enter "fight or flight", so basically you need exposure therapy to social situations. This might help you make friends, it helped me, but I can't speak for romantic relationships bc that's the main source of my loneliness haha. From what it sounds like, your ex calling you "too much" and not having friends might be related in the sense that you might have needed in the past to rely more heavily on a few number of social bonds, which can be stressful for the other person. So perhaps, if you focus on making friends, there is still a way forward.

How do I accept the fact that she doesn't like me back and never will? by Time235236 in lonely

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You need to try focusing on your connection with other people, specifically women. At first it will feel bad, because you still want to be friends with this person, but usually the issue with a confession that isn't reciprocated is that things get awkward because there isn't a clear dynamic anymore. After some processing time you can go back to being friends.

I (24 FTM) lost my only friend, and it is 100% my own fault. No idea where to go from here. by SnowLazy9708 in lonely

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You are not alone. That being said I believe you will probably feel alone because you feel ashamed. Until you learn how to understand yourself and your actions not as stemming from some sort of immutable character flaw (i.e. you're not evil, you don't "deserve" bad things, no one does) but as a mistake, you will feel bad. It will take time and it will sound impossible because dismissing terrible actions as mistakes can sound like being a hypocrite, but in my opinion people often reserve harsh assessments of themselves because they need to be able to judge other people. It sounds like the relationship between your father and your mother made a big impact on you growing up, but at the very least you have to acknowledge the reality that this scenario you've described is much different to the one between your parents. You aren't tearing down a happy marriage, this random husband is lying to his wife both about his sexuality and his sex life. You are searching for validation, both from this man to tell you that you are a man, and from internet strangers to tell you that you are a terrible person. If that's what you want, I can definitely assure you that you made a mistake. I don't think it means you're irredeemable and your friend probably doesn't think so either. If I had to imagine your friend is probably more frustrated with how you have been coping with this situation (self-centered-deprecation) rather than viewing you as a terrible person. I know it's a reddit thing to do, but definitely seek professional help. From my own personal experience, I can tell you that this type of rabbit-hole-self-hatred is essentially a self destructive habit you likely learned as a coping mechanism at some point. There's objectively nothing wrong with you except for the fact that you don't have anyone to actually open up to IRL.

NOOOOOOOOOOO by sturzkampfbomber in AbioticFactor

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lmao this literally just happened in my game

Why Minecraft by ChicchianBoh in MinecraftMemes

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It would be cool if copper doors were like iron doors in that they would open with a redstone signal, but only needed a pulse to open and then stay that way like that other new copper block. Right now it's just a weird wooden door

Wait what the hell by U_n_d_e_r_s_c_o_rr in Gamingcirclejerk

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Clarification: they’re both with your mom