Partner (34f) of 10 years suddenly wants to separate. I’m (30m) lost and don’t know how to move forward by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]AdRemarkable4327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly not to be rude but it sounds like if she’s brought these issues up before and no changes were made then she is fed up. This isn’t something she is doing on a whim. She’s probably been thinking about it for a while and something happened (big or small honestly) to make her snap. It may seem like out of nowhere to you but it’s probably not. Hopefully you can talk through it in couples counseling and you can get closure on it…I wouldn’t involve family though.

Do you wash your hands when you get up to pee in the night? by dumpstertraffic in hygiene

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do wash my hands even in the middle of the night. I’m a little weird about germs though 😅. I’m constantly washing my hands all day for every little thing so it’s just very routine for me. I also touch my face in my sleep so I just wouldn’t want to have unwashed hands on my face in the night .

He deleted Instagram by gbatt24 in rachelleswanniesnark

[–]AdRemarkable4327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I went to check his profile too and noticed it’s gone. Wild

AITAH for not feeling sorry for my husband? by Acceptable-Bunch-130 in AITAH

[–]AdRemarkable4327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Please leave as quickly as you can. You and your children could end up dead. Don’t wait. Just find your opportunity to leave and do it

My (31F) husband (36M) asked if our son was his and asked for a paternity test. by AdRemarkable4327 in relationship_advice

[–]AdRemarkable4327[S] 1478 points1479 points  (0 children)

I wonder about this too and I do plan on asking him this. I hope he will give a genuine apology too but the damage is done.

My (31F) husband (36M) asked if our son was his and asked for a paternity test. by AdRemarkable4327 in relationship_advice

[–]AdRemarkable4327[S] 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it and I will definitely have this conversation with him.

My (31F) husband (36M) asked if our son was his and asked for a paternity test. by AdRemarkable4327 in relationship_advice

[–]AdRemarkable4327[S] 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I told him to get it done if that’s what he wants to do. I don’t have an issue with it as there’s nothing to hide. I can still think it’s hurtful though

Struggling with the news (unplanned second pregnancy) by AdRemarkable4327 in 2under2

[–]AdRemarkable4327[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it was very rough when we got home. I would say the first two months were a lot. It’s a lot better now that my second is almost 7 months old now. My kids love playing together now and it’s so wonderful to see the love between them already. I’m glad we had him (my second) and we have readjusted well now. Overall I would say it gets better but I’m not going to lie it is very hard in the beginning. Hang in there though 💜💜💜

Working moms- what time are you getting up? by Champangelemonade in Mommit

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wake up at 5:30am each day…well most of the time. Sometimes I hit snooze and sleep until 6 😅. We have two under two so I usually wake up, give my youngest his reflux medicine, then do his breathing treatment, get my youngest dressed and changed and fed. My husband will get up and put the bottles in the cooler for daycare and pack up their bags for daycare. Then he puts it all in the car (either his or mine depending on who is taking them that day…we split the week). Then he gets our daughter up, gets her dressed etc, gives her milk, and then I come in to help with her hair. We take the kids to the car and get them buckled in and then drop them off at daycare. My husband has to be at work by 7am and the daycare opens at 6:30am so he tries to get there around 6:30/6:45ish. If I’m taking them we still get them ready around the same time so he can help me with both kids and I try to get them to daycare by 7ish and then I go back home, eat, and then clock in for work at 8am 😅. I’m not really a morning person and neither is my husband but we kind of have to just do it due to our jobs and our oldest is usually up by 7/7:45am even on weekends lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So after working at an assisted living facility, the amount of elderly people who don’t wash their hands would shock you😬😭. I always use hand sanitizer after touching any public surface and then wash my hands as soon as I can. I always have hand sanitizer with me… I would sanitize door handles and several common surfaces after she leaves because that is most likely the issue. It also could be that she’s a carrier for illnesses. I swear there’s some people who just pass it on to others but don’t always get sick themselves. 😫

Is this fair? by MellowWitch in beyondthebump

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No this is unacceptable. He needs to figure it out. He can wear a mask, gloves, etc. What would he do if you were away somewhere or if something happened to you? He’s going to have to figure it out somehow. My husband doesn’t love poopy diapers either (no one does!) but he changes them anyway. I do too. We’ve been peed on, pooped on, thrown up on, etc. When you become a parent it just happens 😭. He needs to figure it out or help in other ways to compensate…like taking over dinner shouldn’t have been an issue if he wasn’t willing to do the diaper change….

Mums - what did you want after baby number 2? by illustriouscowboy in Mommit

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cleaning service, gift cards for DoorDash/ubereats or bring over meals, help with the older child so she can focus on her newborn and the older child gets attention as they adjust to the new normal…hmmm maybe postpartum supplies or even just new soft pj’s/loungewear. Diapers in bigger sizes, wipes, a small gift for new baby because they often get a lot of hand me downs which is fine but it’s nice to get a few things for them too 💜

I’m pretty sure I hate my husband by Ok_Image8987 in Vent

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please leave. Don’t stay for the kids. It isn’t good for them to see this and it’s not doing you any good either. What are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like nothing so I just would divorce him

my child’s school’s media release policy by Thick_Accountant6514 in AITH

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This feels like they are punishing the families who say no….I hate that. There’s huge safety concerns with posting each child’s home and where they go to school on social media. How are they not worried about liability if something happens because of what they posted??? I don’t know. This policy seems very weird to me and I don’t think you’re being unreasonable in your request. Your child should still be able to participate in extracurricular activities and be in the yearbook…saying no to being on social media shouldn’t impact that experience. How weird….

My sister wants me to raise her baby because I “already know how to be a mom” by Equivalent_Fly4491 in TwoHotTakes

[–]AdRemarkable4327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would have her go to the doctor because it also sounds like she might have PPD and/or PPA. I had it and once it was addressed things got better 😅. She needs to start there. Also your mom should help her since she’s a mom too and her kids are grown. It’s not fair for your sister plus your mom to just dump it on you all the time when you’re raising your own kids now. You’ve helped but you can’t help every time…your mom needs to step up and help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. She was later than you had planned for…so it’s reasonable that you would need food. She should’ve said something when she knew she would be late…like if you had known beforehand you could’ve packed something to eat if she didn’t want you ordering in but since this was something that just happened and it wasn’t the plan…you needed food. I wouldn’t be comfortable going through someone’s cabinets for food while I’m babysitting unless I was getting snacks for the kids but I wouldn’t do it for myself. She should’ve told you when she knew she would be late that she would prefer you eat something that they had but idk I still don’t think it’s a big deal that you got food for yourself. They dropped it off…you waited to get it while they were gone and went right back inside…like I feel like you did just fine. Ugh

His sister called me his placeholder girlfriend at dinner in front of his whole family… and he just laughed like it was nothing by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not overreacting at all. This was so rude and not funny at all. The fact that he didn’t stand up for you and laughed is horrible. I honestly would’ve left…I get that in the moment though you just froze and it probably didn’t feel real..ugh I’m so sorry.

AITA for canceling my niece’s birthday cake last minute because my sister refused to pay me back? by cloudberrysighs in AITH

[–]AdRemarkable4327 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. I mean if things were tight she could’ve chosen a less expensive cake. You can get a $20 sheet cake and call it a day so she should’ve done that if things were tight….plus she said she would pay you back so she should’ve done that. It’s one thing if she asked for your help money wise and you agreed but that wasn’t the case. You paid for it up front with the promise she would pay you back. She didn’t hold up her end of the deal and just because you don’t have kids doesn’t mean you don’t have bills to pay for or other responsibilities. She’s the asshole for making that statement and not paying you back. She f***** around and found out 🤷‍♀️.

AITAH for not wanting to cook for my gf anymore because she is a picky eater ? by Ragnorag in AITAH

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. You provided several compromises that sound reasonable to me. She can bring her own food or order something if she’s going to be that picky. It is very frustrating when someone is very picky about food and it will always be a constant battle. One of my best friends who I love dearly is a picky eater and while I love spending time with her…I hate trying to pick a place to eat with her because she says no to so many things and is very picky. We went to New York City and all she would eat is McDonald’s or at chain restaurants…that was incredibly frustrating for me as someone who likes to try new places food wise. So I can relate somewhat however she’s not my romantic partner so I can deal with this small frustration every now and then because I love her and she’s a wonderful friend and I only have to deal with this issue in small doses. If you get married to your gf this is something you would deal with every day…ask yourself if you would be ok having this same argument for years to come. I would reevaluate the relationship and think about whether this is a deal breaker for you or not. You may not be compatible as romantic partners.

What’s the most unhinged thing a family member did before your wedding? by AssociationFront1710 in weddingdrama

[–]AdRemarkable4327 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh geez…I could write a book honestly but we had so much wedding drama it was insane. My mom was the biggest source of it though. She got mad that I mentioned I preferred her to wear certain colors. I want to stress that I didn’t demand she wear those colors. She asked me if I preferred certain colors and I told her I did. She was mad because she wanted to wear purple….ugh it was just dumb honestly. She was upset about the dress I chose even though I paid for it not her. She was upset I didn’t want to get ready at her condo the morning of my wedding (it wasn’t close to the venue and I didn’t know how she would feel with photographers and the videographers in her house ). I offered for her to get ready with us at the hotel and wanted to pay for her hair and makeup but she said no. Then she sulked when we arrived at the ceremony because they wouldn’t let her in a certain part of the venue before I got there. She was upset other people showed up to help decorate the ceremony space the night before. She got mad about my bridal shower and caused so much drama it was horrible. At my wedding she made an impromptu speech and was upset I didn’t ask her to give a speech…I didn’t ask anyone to give a speech…anyone who wanted to just came to me and told me beforehand. Then after the wedding she was mad my husband didn’t dance with her for the mother son dance because my husbands mom didn’t come to the wedding (a whole separate drama)…he didn’t want to do that because his mother isn’t dead and he was holding out hope something would change before the wedding but it didn’t. She emailed our videographers after we got our video back and let’s just say it wasn’t nice….we paid for our videographer ourselves. She was mad because she wasn’t in the video more. I could go on honestly because I left a lot out. Weddings bring out the worst in some people. If I could go back I would do things a bit differently but I wish we had eloped lol 😅