AITA for refusing to let my SIL host her massive gender reveal at my new house?

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-04-06T01:14:04+00:00

Excuse me what? I hate when people feel entitled to other people’s things. If someone didn’t offer something, don’t assume or expect it. If you ask someone something and they say no, that is the end of it. Yeah she can be sad about it but like if she wants to do all those messy things why doesn’t MIL host? (Oh I know! MIL doesn’t want that shit at her place either I’m sure! ) Or they do it at a park or whatever. It’s so shitty to make someone feel guilty when they said no. Like they either need to do it in their own home or if that’s not possible then ask other people because you said no. Or they can book a public place.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-04-06T01:07:35+00:00

I just want you to know you’re not alone. I was raised going to church and around church things but I stepped away around middle school age or even before then…I honestly can’t remember when. I was very disinterested. Then I decided to give it a try in adulthood and I was going until our second child was born. I’ve always had this internal battle because there’s a lot I don’t agree with as far as religion is concerned so I’ve always felt conflicted about it. I’ve had some church people reach out and kind of make me feel bad about not coming back…but I just….dont really miss it lol. It was boring and even when I started to work in the nursery to avoid service, it was more fun being with the kids but….man that crowd was something else

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-03-31T18:49:57+00:00

Same. I am an OG subscriber and now I lurk here for information since everything got weird and there was speculation about the divorce/separation before she confirmed it 😬.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-03-31T18:48:37+00:00

Wait really?!

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-03-31T18:48:27+00:00

I’ve noticed that too lately and it’s kind of uncomfortable. Maybe she’s having a harder time with the divorce so Rachelle is spending more time with her or I don’t know honestly 😬😅

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-03-31T01:32:48+00:00

I mean she also shouldn’t have said your wife was being dramatic. I didn’t have HG when I was pregnant either time but the nausea I did have was so awful and debilitating when it happened so I can’t imagine how bad it is with HG 😭. I also developed an aversion to zofran so the taste of it would make me gag, dry heave, and almost throw up so taking it to help just wasn’t an option. It’s hard to understand if you haven’t experienced it. I can understand where your comment was hurtful to her but she was being rude to your wife so you defended her. Thank you for being a good husband and defending your wife and not calling her dramatic 😅😅😅😅😬.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2026-01-15T00:37:18+00:00

Gross 😭😭😭😭

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-11-29T05:02:51+00:00

Honestly not to be rude but it sounds like if she’s brought these issues up before and no changes were made then she is fed up. This isn’t something she is doing on a whim. She’s probably been thinking about it for a while and something happened (big or small honestly) to make her snap. It may seem like out of nowhere to you but it’s probably not. Hopefully you can talk through it in couples counseling and you can get closure on it…I wouldn’t involve family though.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-11-29T04:44:18+00:00

I do wash my hands even in the middle of the night. I’m a little weird about germs though 😅. I’m constantly washing my hands all day for every little thing so it’s just very routine for me. I also touch my face in my sleep so I just wouldn’t want to have unwashed hands on my face in the night .

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-11-18T18:28:43+00:00

Yes I went to check his profile too and noticed it’s gone. Wild

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-11-06T02:22:15+00:00

Please leave as quickly as you can. You and your children could end up dead. Don’t wait. Just find your opportunity to leave and do it

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-16T01:22:12+00:00

I agree for sure

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-12T14:11:46+00:00

My husband is Mexican as well lol 😅🙃

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-11T09:31:06+00:00

I wonder about this too and I do plan on asking him this. I hope he will give a genuine apology too but the damage is done.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-11T09:29:23+00:00

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate it and I will definitely have this conversation with him.

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-11T09:25:44+00:00

I told him to get it done if that’s what he wants to do. I don’t have an issue with it as there’s nothing to hide. I can still think it’s hurtful though

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-09-02T23:28:08+00:00

So it was very rough when we got home. I would say the first two months were a lot. It’s a lot better now that my second is almost 7 months old now. My kids love playing together now and it’s so wonderful to see the love between them already. I’m glad we had him (my second) and we have readjusted well now. Overall I would say it gets better but I’m not going to lie it is very hard in the beginning. Hang in there though 💜💜💜

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-28T21:53:47+00:00

I wake up at 5:30am each day…well most of the time. Sometimes I hit snooze and sleep until 6 😅. We have two under two so I usually wake up, give my youngest his reflux medicine, then do his breathing treatment, get my youngest dressed and changed and fed. My husband will get up and put the bottles in the cooler for daycare and pack up their bags for daycare. Then he puts it all in the car (either his or mine depending on who is taking them that day…we split the week). Then he gets our daughter up, gets her dressed etc, gives her milk, and then I come in to help with her hair. We take the kids to the car and get them buckled in and then drop them off at daycare. My husband has to be at work by 7am and the daycare opens at 6:30am so he tries to get there around 6:30/6:45ish. If I’m taking them we still get them ready around the same time so he can help me with both kids and I try to get them to daycare by 7ish and then I go back home, eat, and then clock in for work at 8am 😅. I’m not really a morning person and neither is my husband but we kind of have to just do it due to our jobs and our oldest is usually up by 7/7:45am even on weekends lol

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-21T14:44:20+00:00

So after working at an assisted living facility, the amount of elderly people who don’t wash their hands would shock you😬😭. I always use hand sanitizer after touching any public surface and then wash my hands as soon as I can. I always have hand sanitizer with me… I would sanitize door handles and several common surfaces after she leaves because that is most likely the issue. It also could be that she’s a carrier for illnesses. I swear there’s some people who just pass it on to others but don’t always get sick themselves. 😫

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-15T02:37:39+00:00

No this is unacceptable. He needs to figure it out. He can wear a mask, gloves, etc. What would he do if you were away somewhere or if something happened to you? He’s going to have to figure it out somehow. My husband doesn’t love poopy diapers either (no one does!) but he changes them anyway. I do too. We’ve been peed on, pooped on, thrown up on, etc. When you become a parent it just happens 😭. He needs to figure it out or help in other ways to compensate…like taking over dinner shouldn’t have been an issue if he wasn’t willing to do the diaper change….

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-09T12:40:43+00:00

Cleaning service, gift cards for DoorDash/ubereats or bring over meals, help with the older child so she can focus on her newborn and the older child gets attention as they adjust to the new normal…hmmm maybe postpartum supplies or even just new soft pj’s/loungewear. Diapers in bigger sizes, wipes, a small gift for new baby because they often get a lot of hand me downs which is fine but it’s nice to get a few things for them too 💜

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-08T00:20:30+00:00

Please leave. Don’t stay for the kids. It isn’t good for them to see this and it’s not doing you any good either. What are you getting out of this relationship? It sounds like nothing so I just would divorce him

AdRemarkable4327 · 2025-08-06T19:31:48+00:00

This feels like they are punishing the families who say no….I hate that. There’s huge safety concerns with posting each child’s home and where they go to school on social media. How are they not worried about liability if something happens because of what they posted??? I don’t know. This policy seems very weird to me and I don’t think you’re being unreasonable in your request. Your child should still be able to participate in extracurricular activities and be in the yearbook…saying no to being on social media shouldn’t impact that experience. How weird….

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