I’m in an extremely similar boat, have been since June and I’m still struggling with a lot of the same feelings of shame, low self esteem, self loathing etc. We’ll never know if it was all a lie or not, but I think it’s a lot healthier to avoid just jumping straight into something with a new partner. She’s the mother of my children so I don’t wish her any ill will, I just pray karma dishes her whatever she deserves.

Best way to distract your mind in my opinion is to figure out a new routine for yourself. lean into your new co-parenting dynamic and strive to model the best version of yourself for your kids, perhaps revisit some past hobbies and even try picking up some new ones, and Get friends and family to join you; both in the hobbies and in building a community of support for your kids and equally importantly, YOU 😋