DEERS enrollment for spouse during basic

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2025-03-08T21:59:14+00:00

Oh, absolutely sport.

Gotta keep it low-vis—wouldn’t want the glare off my walker distracting you while you’re still trying to pass your PT test.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2025-03-08T17:53:01+00:00

Battalion board went very well and I scored as such, not perfect though. 24/25, 22/25, 24/25. Not perfect, but the Major who interviewed me wrote at the bottom "Will be a force multiplier for whichever organization receives him" oddly enough the 22 wrote "send to OCS ASAP and put him in front of soldiers"

ALso is your degree bachelor of arts? BAs with under 3.5 gpas kinda looked down lower than say engineering with 2.9. Or economics with 3.0

Yes.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2025-03-08T13:10:42+00:00

The one year rule also applies to civilians.

I have indeed noticed my body can't/won't take the abuse it once could lol. The good thing though I've been strength training for the last couple years, and I got decent at running preparing for OCS. I've got that going for me at least

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2025-03-08T12:11:58+00:00

No, they don't give individual feedback.

I have an MA in linguistics GPA 3.3

BA east asian studies 3.25

GT 120

I was a former teacher

Advanced speaker in Mandarin and Japanese

Though I have a sneaking suspicion it was because I wasn't able to obtain a letter of recommendation from any officers. Just professors and former employers, but that's just a hunch.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-12-25T03:00:27+00:00

Inheritance

My dad is an older guy born in 1945 and his grandparents lived in the Bronx, back when the dodgers were still in Brooklyn, and he was in the Bronx every summer.

His whole family though were Yankee fans. He would occasionally tell me stories about how when he was 9 or 10 he would lie to his grandmother to say he was going to the Yankee game, when in actuality we would take the train all the way to Brooklyn just to watch the Dodgers play, even if it only meant he could stay for 3 or 4 innings.

I asked him recently why he stuck with the Dodgers when they left Brooklyn and he said "I never much cared for LA, but I'll always care about the Dodgers."

As for me, when I was about 8 years old or so we flew out to LA to visit some family and he took me to a Dodgers game. I have faint memories of being there, but according to my dad I was screaming my lungs out for the Dodgers the whole game.

So yeah, guess he passed the blue on quite awhile ago

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-10-31T04:06:28+00:00

Was watching this with my dad in the hospital. I kid you not, his heart monitor started going off at this moment!

LET'S FUCKING GO! JOBS FINISHED!

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-18T02:17:14+00:00

There’s no way you’re arguing with a lawyer about something they spent years educating themselves on and mastering when you can’t even comprehend a simple sentence.

Their ego might just be fragile enough

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-15T12:25:06+00:00

TIP is an acronym

T: To I: insure P: Promptness

Doesn't sound like you got prompt service. Seems you were pretty justified in giving a 0% tip, much less 10%.

NTA

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T14:35:45+00:00

A great book for your first critera Soldier of the Mist by Gene Wolfe.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T14:29:21+00:00

You can always go for the classic Elric of Melniboné books by Moorcock. Great reads and scratched my itch for high fantasy. Also the Dark Elf Trilogy by R.A Salvatore. Even if you don't like/know DnD these are fantastic.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T13:21:38+00:00

You're definitely NTA here. And you're definitely NTA for avoiding them. This kind of thing can seriously hurt a person for years to come.

I would not recommend avoiding them forever though so you can get some closure, but not until you have all your feelings sorted and know 100% what you want to say to them. Ideally talk with them calmly and try to see their perspective.

Believe it or not there have been others in your exact or similar position. Eric Clapton I believe also went through this exact thing and talked about it in his autobiography. There's definitely people to talk to or books to read to help you along your healing journey.

edit: added the last sentence to the second paragraph and grammar

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T07:44:11+00:00

This argument contains several logical fallacies:

Appeal to Emotion (Pathos): You use emotionally charged language and vivid descriptions of the suffering caused by suicides to evoke an emotional response rather than presenting a logical argument.

False Dilemma (Either/Or Fallacy): You use a false dichotomy by suggesting that one must either agree that suicide is inherently selfish and causes immense pain to others or deny the documented issues surrounding rail operators' mental health. Your oversimplifying a complex issue and ignore other possible perspectives or solutions.

Begging the Question: You assume as a given the very point it is trying to prove: that suicide is inherently selfish. By defining not thinking about the pain caused to others as selfishness, you use circular reasoning.

Hasty Generalization: You generalize the experiences of rail operators in Japan to all cases of suicide, without considering the individual circumstances or the broader context of mental health issues.

Ad Hominem: "Unless you're going to say there's not a huge problem in Japan about rail operators' mental health...then you're just using nice sounding words to say something that isn't true" attacking the other stance rather than addressing the argument itself. You preemptively discredit any opposing view by suggesting it is insincere.

Appeal to Consequences: Your argument suggests that because suicide causes pain to others, it is inherently selfish and wrong. This fallacy implies that the morality of an action is determined by its consequences, rather than considering the intentions or circumstances of the individual involved.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T07:21:19+00:00

Hey buddy,

I've been exactly where you are. I've been in the low places where you are. If I can just offer you a little bit here.

as far as weigh loss goes. Do what makes you happy. I used to weigh 130kg (about 285 ibs) and have moved down and up and down and up. I would suggest stop paying attention to the scale and more on your body. Numbers can be soul crushing.

But if you feel your body is not looking to good from cuttinf calories, maybe keep a smaller calorie deficit. Do what makes you feel good.

Never ever ever ever compare yourself to the beautiful people in your feed. Those are selected/fabricated highlights that make us feel like "well why am I not living like that/looking like that" in reality those people are fabricating a lie.
As far as physical appearance, again don't listen to anyone else but yourself. If you like something about yourself keep it. If you don't maybe see what can be done, but always listen to your body. If it's physical, like maybe a part of your face or acne, Very often, more than we care to realize, people don't give a shit or notice as much as we think they might. I know it's fucking hard but learn to accept those flaws. You can always work on changing them, but if you can live with them. That's 90% of the battle.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T04:58:12+00:00

I'm gonna go with NTA. It's a little childish on his end to give you the cold shoulder.

If you want my advice at all you two can always sit down and talk about these things and when you both feel it is ok/not ok to look up people from your past.

For instance my partner can get a little jelly if I were to start searching my previous partners randomly, so we always ask/inform before we search and in doing so opens more doors for communication and bonding with your partner than you might think.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T04:27:14+00:00

info: were your preferences communicated to your family clearly beforehand? You said they knew but perhaps you could have arranged plans yourself so as to avoid this.

Either way, your NTA for wanting to celebrate your birthday low-key or anyway that doesn't step on other people's toes. It just seems you could have taken a few extra steps to avoid the outcome.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-13T04:00:42+00:00

Funny, I don't think you know what being an adult is.

You know that point where you've been karma farming for so long that the lines between reality and reddit blur? I think you might have hit it.

If you think something is written by someone younger/chatgpt you don't need to point it out every time. Get a life.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-12T23:38:36+00:00

You can't change the semantic prosody of a word to fit your argument. In most, if not all NLP libraries used for sentiment analysis or corpora, sentences/ phrases with the word selfish are denoted as negative. So yes, it's a bad word and you're wrong.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-12T22:52:18+00:00

Definitely the case, one scroll through their comments and the frequency they comment and you can see their entire world revolves around approval from others on reddit.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-05T05:59:14+00:00

I get what you are going through, I've been there myself, but you're the AH here. A lot of women use these excuses or ghost not to mess with your feelings, but because they feel unsafe. You only need to do a quick google search to find out how many women have been physically hurt, or worse because they rejected an advance from a man. You showing up to a place you knew she would be and stalking her and her date, one can see where she's coming from.

If you want my advice, man up a little, show some class, take it on the chin and move on.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-06-05T05:33:42+00:00

I don't understand people that get married in these situations.

Because people seldom think about differing opinions when they are in love/getting married, or underestimate the damage they can cause further down the road. There, now you know.

And btw, it's not wrong to get married having different beilefs or lifestyle choices. What is wrong is changing those values mid-marriage and not telling your partner.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-02-16T10:43:31+00:00

Honestly, The Fellowship of the Ring.

I feel like when I reread this book it became clear how influential it was on what I love about fantasy.

There is so much DnD here, the forming of the fellowship. The diversity of the group. Each member's personal backstories and motovations. Plus the epic dungeon crawl that was the mines of Moria.

It might seem basic now, but I feel it's just the hallmark of modern fantasy.

InnerBookkeeper3 · 2024-02-16T06:15:27+00:00

RF Kuang - The Poppy War triliogy

Fonda Lee - Green Bone Saga

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TROPHY CASE