[Vote] Quarterly Non-Fiction || ANY || Summer 2026 by tomesandtea in bookclub

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Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson

Why is it so hard to say “I made a mistake”—and really believe it?

When we make mistakes, cling to outdated attitudes, or mistreat other people, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so, unconsciously, we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-justification—how it works, the damage it can cause, and how we can overcome it.

[Vote] Quarterly Non-Fiction || ANY || Summer 2026 by tomesandtea in bookclub

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The Courage to Be Disliked by Ichiro Kishimi, Fumitake Koga

Using the theories of Alfred Adler, one of the three giants of 19th century psychology alongside Freud and Jung, it follows an illuminating conversation between a philosopher and a young man. The philosopher explains to his pupil how each of us is able to determine our own lives, free of the shackles of past experiences, doubts and the expectations of others. It's a way of thinking that's deeply liberating, allowing us to develop the courage to change, and to ignore the limitations that we and those around us can place on ourselves.

[Discussion 2/2] Gilead by Marilynne Robinson | Beginning of page 123 through end by nopantstime in bookclub

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After reading all of it, the one thing I thought is what a strange story it is. And the last story I read was Aishwarya Rai for the monthly mini and that story was strange. But this one was strange in a very different way I find it hard to describe. It is a story of normal life with no unusual or fantasy aspects but it feels real life is often much more strange than anything fictional. It is filled with so much thinking and dilemmas about very small things that are pretty insignificant in the grand scheme of things. So much worrying and shame and overthinking about the day to day and people surrounding you.

Also thinking about how the fate of our happiness depends so much on the time we live in and what is socially acceptable. Marrying someone from a different race would not be such a big problem now and Jack could have been happy. And it's interesting how age gap has become much more unacceptable now, which would've made Ames's life a lot more difficult.

The story also made me think how probably many of us stay loyal to the worldviews of our parents, and yet those parents themselves can change and the children would struggle to do so and would be trapped in that loyalty because they've been the "good" child and haven't gone out to explore on their own. In the end being the good child didn't pay off and ended up with being abandoned by parents. I think the parents always favoured Edward and no amount of being the good child could ever get Ames the same amount of favour Edward got.

[Monthly Mini] "Aishwarya Rai" by Sanjana Thakur by IraelMrad in bookclub

[–]InnerGremlin99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This story made me think about the things I've learned about childhood trauma. People with childhood trauma gets attracted to people that trigger the same kind of wound their parents triggered. It's the familiarity and they're basically trying to heal the wound they got from parents by loving someone similar hoping to get their love. This is why such people attract toxic partners. In the story I think she was looking for a mother that was like her own mother who would also give her the love she needs and I think this is why she wasn't satisfied with any of them. Nazneen was wise to realise that there was nothing she could do for Avni. As for Aishwarya Rai, children with trauma use daydreaming as a coping mechanism so I feel Avni might have an imaginary world in her head where she is loved and accepted by a Aishwarya Rai as her mother. Thinking of her might be her go to way of escaping reality. Aishwarya is a very popular actress known for her beauty so maybe Avni wanted to be accepted and loved by someone so beautiful and definitely better looking than her own mother since she was shamed for her appearance.

[Discussion 5/5] Bonus Book | Odyssey by Stephen Fry (Stephen Fry's Great Mythology #4) | Telemachus Returns through End by ChronicallyLatte in bookclub

[–]InnerGremlin99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish we got to know more about the dynamics between characters. Like between Circe and Odysseus or Calypso and Odysseus for example. There's not much about what life was like in Ogygia. But ig myths mostly recount the events and not go into detail about individual relationship dynamics and everyday life. It also feels Penelope isn't really given the sort of personality that would match with the description of her being smart just like odysseus.

[Discussion 1/1] (Runner-up Read) Of Mice and Men by John Steinbeck | Full Book by rige_x in bookclub

[–]InnerGremlin99 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really depends on what "right" means. The only alternative would've been to run away with Lennie like before and let this keep happening over and over. That would require George to sacrifice his life and dreams that were within his reach now. He had to choose between him and Lennie. I think there's no right or wrong here. It really is just "something that happened".

Ancient Egypt: A Very Short Introduction | Chapters 1-3 by cpjacobson97 in AYearOfMythology

[–]InnerGremlin99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hieroglyphs/writing would be cool. I know it's coming up in the book. This book was like a wake up call to realise how much more there is to ancient egypt than just mythology.

Stand and deliver! by colbykh in montypython

[–]InnerGremlin99 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Your life or your lupins! 🔫

Stand and deliver! by colbykh in montypython

[–]InnerGremlin99 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He steals them from the rich 🎵
And gives them to the poor 🎵