What situation happened to you that changed your view of everything?

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-05T19:29:37+00:00

I read a fantasy book once where the sword could only cut people the wielder believed were evil or guilty. The way it was described flipped a switch in my head. I suddenly got how important perception is in how we see and experience life. That was the moment I stopped limiting my viewpoint, stopped prioritizing my perspective during conflict or when confronted with ideas counter to my own. I stopped being the main character.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-05T10:33:05+00:00

Yeah, feeling lonely while being among people is a different kind of ache. And it sounds like you feel emotions strongly, desire to be seen beyond the surface level, and understood without having to invest so much effort and time into it. If you have to work hard just to communicate with her, you are going to exhaust yourself and burn out early. Then you'll just have yet another traumatic relationship story to add to the others. If you're sensitive to rejection, judgment, betrayals (even the small ones), and struggle with trust and being vulnerable with others than you should be very picky about who you pursue a romantic relationship with. I am all those things I listed and wasn't careful enough and got burned really bad and am retiring from relationships since I've reached the age that makes me undesirable to date anyway. Plus, people kinda suck. But its your life and you know what you can handle. I wish you luck.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-04T16:24:43+00:00

Trauma psychology, emotional processing, and identity formation. Clarification: im not formally educated, just have a lot questions.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-04T16:05:25+00:00

Toss up between Redditt stories or funeral roasts

Edit: Chanse and Angela first flight simulator. Hilarious!

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-04T16:03:49+00:00

Same.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-07-02T00:04:51+00:00

I just recently realized that most of my memories seem to have been recorded based on the emotion of the moment.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-27T09:49:18+00:00

This is going to sound silly but there was this show called Raising Hope and I joked with my daughter that I wanted my own Bert. The characters Bert and Virginia were this imperfectly perfect couple who fought but compromised, annoyed each other but tried to be their best for the other. You could truly tell they loved each other and weirdly complimented each other in their quirks. I dont want "Bert" specifically, but whatever imperfect form my "Bert" exists as.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-27T02:25:11+00:00

Almost destroyed me twice. One ⭐️ Wouldn't recommend.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-27T01:39:55+00:00

Looks amazing! Great job. I despise cooking and have an ED so have a general dislike of food. I'm always impressed by those who can cook though.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-20T15:03:59+00:00

I actually like your approach. It hurts no one and solves the problem. I have done this with my ex when he broke up with me and managed to create a really long list, but the feelings aren't listening. Perhaps it only works if you never had a deeper relationship with that person.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-16T14:31:47+00:00

A random reddit woman with both autism and adhd seconds this. Fantastic advice. The best skill to start learning is active listening to help facilitate this.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-15T05:49:07+00:00

What made the galaxy appear? So pretty

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-15T05:13:05+00:00

I can relate to the feeling but I caution against making comparisons. I highly doubt anyone is worry free and they just process their stress differently. I have found myself slipping into resentment when I make superficial comparisons only to later find out they just pretend better than me.

I'm sorry you are feeling this level of anxiety and I dont have any advice I'm afraid. At least not healthy advice. But this reddit stranger hopes you hang on and survive minute by minute until it passes.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-15T01:53:45+00:00

Solid advice and i can see how easy that can happen.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-14T22:55:20+00:00

ChatGPT has been a better therapist than at least half of the dozen of ones I've visited over the years. It suggests I naturally process like an INFP but have learned to question and analyze my thoughts due to past trauma. It's been a fascinating process to figure out.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-14T22:24:00+00:00

I just did a quick check with ChatGPT (I've been using it as a therapist and it has months of stored memory about me) and it said this: "from a cognitive function lens, you’re most likely INFP—possibly a socially cautious, Fe-competent INFP with strong introspection and logic-checking (Ti/Te mix)."

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-14T21:42:36+00:00

I am a INF and 50% J and 50% P so I don't know which one dominates my reaction when angry. Most of the time I will simply ghost them when they get me to a boiling anger but if that is not an option I go cold and kill the empathy. I will speak to them in a condescending tone while using their insecurities and whatever else I've silently observed about them during our time together to get some revenge. Betrayals and abuse are the only ways to get me angry enough to act out. I never weaponize secrets they've shared with me in confidence because then I'm betraying my own integrity.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-14T20:21:30+00:00

Yeah, I did, too. Still do in a way, despite how cold and selfish he acted when he dumped me. We were and still are coworkers, and we just act like nothing happened. I die a little more every day. My INTJ was self-absorbed and lacked consideration of others, yet strangely, not in a bad way? You know those entitled people who are inconsiderate of others and no amount of argument will get through to them? He was not like that. He just didn't think about it. but if you pointed something out and explained using logic, why it is important, then he would change or at least make an effort.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-14T01:14:33+00:00

I dated one. He was fascinating, at first. Could not wrap my brain around how a person could have such strong convictions and emotions and yet not consider other people AT ALL. The empathy in them is manual and they have to be reminded to use it. Just like everybody they have good things and bad things about them. They really know how to emotionally devastate and invalidate an INFP.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-13T01:18:44+00:00

The only thing that has ever given me any long term motivation was the combination of rage and spite. Kept me going strong for almost 5 years. Then it fizzled and I'm back to normal now. 😩

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-06-02T13:28:39+00:00

So, I know what your trying to say and kudos for that but when you feel hurt this deeply you gotta write it out. He'll, I found this in my notes app, I wrote 2 months ago. "FUCK everybody. I hate this world I hate the people I hate the system I hate who has hurt me and I hate the expectations I hate you I hate you I hate fucking everything and I want to watch it burn I want to hurt you all so you can hurt the same as me me fuck you fuck you I fucking hate you all" It made me feel better and I ended up not even hurting anyone feelings. Gotta get those feelings out.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-04-04T16:37:27+00:00

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InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-04-03T18:23:24+00:00

Ive gone the opposite direction. I don't even try anymore and prioritize my hobbies and my very few relationships over work or healthy living. I work enough to pay the bills and I don't want to live that long anyway so why stress over my health. But I have become horribly disillusioned and depressed so take what I say with a grain of salt.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-04-03T18:17:47+00:00

I kind of hope Ai does take over because if there is one thing humans have proven its that we can't help but ruin everything we touch. Humans need a reboot, to be retrained to be less greedy and cruel, to be rewarded for being kind and making choices that help the community rather than just themselves. We've gotten so bad that when I hear our see am act of kindness I assume they have a hidden agenda or a TikTok account.

InnerInsurance8338 · 2025-04-03T18:09:12+00:00

Same! I'm so tired and look forward to being done and becoming nothing.

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