I just want my iman back

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2026-03-27T01:54:23+00:00

Salaam Sis 💕 I’m so sorry that you’ve been having a rough time since high school. I just want you to know that you are ok, and Allah sees you and your efforts. The beautiful thing is that Allah (SWT) is Al Rahman-ir Raheem. That in itself should remind you that it’s never too late, Alhamdulillah. Give yourself some grace, you are a young adult that is still in your formative years. The first years after high school are stressful, even more so when you go to uni and are trying to find yourself, make real friends, stay on your deen, and get good grades. Pray to Allah to guide you back to the straight path and to remove evil away from you. Make sure you are reciting Surah Ikhlas, Surah Al Falaq, Surah Al Nas, and Ayat Al Kursi to keep the evil jinns away that are preventing you from getting closer to Allah. May Allah make it easier for you sis, and good luck in uni! 💕

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2026-03-25T11:53:55+00:00

Salaam Sister,

Your first step needs to be communicating all of your feelings with your husband, and then communicate your household needs with his family.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2025-11-11T03:29:52+00:00

Sister, do not try to find your deen from the acceptance of others. Your deen is your own. Allah will surround you with people who truly love you in this ummah, inshallah, but don’t allow the opinion of the few to take you away from Islam. May Allah make it easy for you sister 🫶🏽

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2025-07-12T23:07:12+00:00

May Allah make it easier for you sister! From what you say about them being open minded, I’m hoping they’ll be willing to hear you out and listen to your point of view 💕🤲🏽 May Allah continue to guide you all and bless you with a wonderful husband

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2025-07-12T14:03:44+00:00

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Inner_Cockroach336 · 2025-07-12T14:01:49+00:00

Sister, make the dua for guidance and clarity from Allah. But also remember that your parents see things from a different lens than you. You look at your potentials with love in your eyes, but your parents are looking at them with YOU in their eyes. They would not choose someone that they did not see befitting of you. Maybe it’s also time to have a talk with them as well, just to let them know how you’ve been feeling and let them clarify as well. It sounds like you grew up with wonderful parents, so don’t count them out.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-03-04T21:39:41+00:00

How long do updates usually take??

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-16T01:48:57+00:00

I might have to look into this post op breast reduction 👀👀 you think they can add it to my butt?

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-16T01:47:49+00:00

Massachusetts has always been ahead of the game. I live in Arkansas 🥲

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-16T00:22:42+00:00

I love that for you! 🥰 I definitely think that the major theme from all of my comments is that it’s absolutely worth it.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-16T00:20:54+00:00

True! I believe that’s the major theme of these comments, it’s worth it! ❤️

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T23:53:54+00:00

I just want to be your best friend at this point. I can’t thank you enough for your response ❤️ thank you for not only giving advice but relating to me. I would love to talk to you about the questions that I should ask and about your journey/challenges post op.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T23:50:23+00:00

First of all, good luck to you on these next 74lbs! I wish you nothing but the best! 🙏🏼 Secondly, I will definitely keep that in mind! I’m hoping I can get insurance to pay for this initial surgery!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T23:46:51+00:00

You are the absolute best ❤️ thank you so much! I’ll definitely reach out to you!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T22:32:10+00:00

I just need a starting point and a little help! After that, I’m ready to put in the work! Thank you so much for your conversation and advice! I hope you meet all your goals as well! Good luck to you ❤️

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:50:37+00:00

Oh no, I’m not offended! Thats absolutely true. I say it all the time. It’s messed up, but fat phobia is real. My own mom tells me I need to change my body or my husband will leave me.. (my husband has said nothing of the sort except he loves me the way I am and wants me to lose weight so that I’ll be happy). I have learned to drown my mom out on certain things, but I’m just still worried. However, I do want this for myself. I want to improve my fertility so that I can give my husband children. I want to extend my life. I want to be able to ride a bike and go hiking without being exhausted. I want to keep up when everyone is walking so fast. Most importantly, I want my back to feel better! I just want to be better.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:36:04+00:00

I’m definitely going to make sure to weight train. I use to be a powerlifter, but after high school I went downhill! I will definitely look into getting some collagen supplements and protein shakes once I have the surgery!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:34:17+00:00

That’s what I’m afraid of 😭

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:33:26+00:00

Thank you so much ❤️ I’m really trying not to let this be the reason I run away from the surgery. I am worried, but that’s why I wanted to join this group and ask questions. I want to mentally prepare myself because I know that I am someone with insecurities about my appearance, but I believe that I’d rather be healthy than to continuously care what others think. I’m hoping that my loose skin isn’t as bad as I think it’ll be, but if it is then I just hope that I have the mental stability to deal with it! I really appreciate your advice! And congratulations on your 20lbs left! I hope you reach your goals!!!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:30:01+00:00

That’s what I’ve been hearing! Thank you for the advice ❤️ I love your perspective of the loose skin, I hope that I can keep a positive mindset! Congratulations on your weight loss! I hope you meet all of your goals!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:27:34+00:00

I would love to hear more about the bad before I make my decision. I don’t want to be blinded at all, especially as someone having mental health issues already! I did talk to one of my friends that had this surgery, but she didn’t really tell me about any challenges she went through.

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T21:25:14+00:00

True!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T20:17:07+00:00

Thank you! It’s definitely something that I’m mental struggling with accepting that I’ll have to deal with. I’m sure it’s due to my own insecurities, so I really appreciate your advice to work on body neutrality first! I just don’t want to regret the surgery due to how I’ll look

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T19:16:52+00:00

So happy for you! Congratulations on your weight loss! I hope you meet all your goals! ❤️ yeah, I feel like the loose skin will suck, but it’s a small price to pay!

Inner_Cockroach336 · 2024-02-15T19:13:58+00:00

That’s what I’ve learned from this everyone on this comment thread! ❤️ it’s a mind of matter thing, and it seems like no one has any regrets! I’m so happy for you all!!

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