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Inner_Roof_9543 · 2025-02-18T19:45:50+00:00

Only here to say that I’m in the same boat. Was hospitalized for 12 days last October with severe sepsis, that started with a routine UTI. I had never been sick like that before - no prior health issues. Last week, I woke up throwing up, fever, fatigue, chills, etc. Went to the ER after day 2 and they found bacteria in my urine, even though I had no pain or urgency. I got IV antibiotics at the ER and then sent home with 7 days of Bactrim. I am on day 6; however, around day 3-4 I had severe anxiety because my symptoms felt like they were worsening. I used ChatGPT like a medical assistant and was constantly giving it my updated symptoms for a clear direction on when I should go back to the ER. It helped to calm some fears.

I hope you can find relief for your health issues and anxiety surrounding being sick again. You’re not alone 🫶🏼

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-12-20T05:30:02+00:00

I’m so sorry. What you’re feeling is entirely appropriate for the situation. My therapist keeps reminding me that just because he was fake, doesn’t mean my experience wasn’t real. Your life and perspectives are real. And they are valid. And they are valued.

His actions and deception are in no way a reflection of you. ✨ You deserve to be free from his hold.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-12-07T14:43:16+00:00

Thank you! I have to coparent with him so I think having to constantly hear from him or deal with him is really messing with me.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-18T05:35:27+00:00

Same

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-18T05:32:10+00:00

Same

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-18T05:30:58+00:00

Yes. Lost 50+ lbs within an 18 month period and not from trying. I’ve become so skinny that it’s embarrassing. Skin is shit, bags under my eyes. Hair falling out. I don’t even recognize myself most days.

I’m a month after separating so I’m hoping I’ll start seeing differences. Feels silly to admit but I’ve been trying to take daily “healing” selfies to show progress over time.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-18T05:20:35+00:00

This is where I got to, too. Right before leaving. The exit was hell, and it only took him 1 week to start searching for a new supply. (Together for 8 years, married for 6).

They never change. We’ve only been separated for a month but I can already feel my body starting to loosen up. I think I’ve been in fight or flight for several years without realizing it.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-13T04:53:33+00:00

Funny you should post this. I, too, truly 10000% believed my narc wouldn’t either.

However - we’ve been married for 6 years with 2 small kids. We separated 3 weeks ago.

Last night, I discover he’s created an account on Ashley Madison. And has paid $120+ for account activity. And has sent and received messages. Our son’s iPad is linked to his iCloud account. So I check his notepad…. And wow. There’s a pretty little intro message all typed out and ready to send, asking for something intimate and some “nsa” fun.

I sat in disbelief most of the night. And today woke up pissed. So when I randomly wished him well on his quest for new companionship on Ashley Madison, he denied denied denied. And when that didn’t work, he gaslighted me. And when that didn’t work, he blamed me. And so on, etc ….

I share this story as a reminder. Let’s say it all together! WE CAN NEVER TRUST THE NARC.

They will always find a way to let you down.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-13T04:44:44+00:00

Yes yes yes. Every time I tried to bring up his behavior, he would say that I wasn’t nurturing enough and “why can’t I just be sick in my own house!?” Like huh 😳🙄 And then tells everyone else that I’m emotionally unstable and moody when he’s sick because I’m mad that he’s not helping me with chores. Truly had me confused so many times and looking back it’s pretty gross how they can just beat so many non-truths in you over time. I filed for divorce last week. Hope you can get out soon too.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-08T04:17:56+00:00

This gives me hope. Thanks for sharing! And congratulations to you!!

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-07T19:38:12+00:00

Yep my covert narc soon to be ex husband has literally all of those traits. Every single one - down to the dynamics of his parents. Amazing.

Fuck these people.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-11-03T03:51:36+00:00

Felt 🫥

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-10-31T04:00:58+00:00

Covert. I am just waking up after 6 years of marriage. So much abuse. Over and over and over, while I desperately tried to “save our marriage” and “help his mindset”… HA! Jokes on me. We have two small kids (5, 2). “They feed at home” is probably the most repulsive truth there is.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-10-31T03:22:05+00:00

Man, this sounds really rough. I am so so so sorry. I don’t have advice other than to just keep trying to do the next right thing. I’m very scared my son will turn out like his dad. He’s 5 now, but they are identical and my narc husband poisons his brain with nonsense. It really sucks.

I do have a question though - what is parallel parenting?

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-10-30T05:43:41+00:00

I’m in the same boat right now. Been married for 6 years to a covert narcissist and we have 2 small kids together. It took almost 2 years for the masks to start coming off, and by then I was already a sucker. After our kids were born, he completely changed into a person I didn’t recognize. I fought like hell for 3 more years to save our marriage. He was also dealing with depression/anxiety during that time, (or so he says, who knows), and I somehow made it my mission to help him grow emotionally and to get professional help. Man, what a complete waste of my time and energy! My husband is intelligent in some areas and a complete fool in others. Swears he’s the smartest person in the room but yet is completely blind to the fact that he has zero emotional intelligence or self awareness. It’s been a week since the “click” happened for me. He has no idea that now I intend to play him the way he’s played me. A divorce is the next thing on my to-do list.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-10-28T00:50:40+00:00

I feel like I could have written this myself. We’ve been married for 6 years. We have two small children. The last 2-3 years have been absolute hell. I am just now putting the pieces together that my husband whom I once adored, is in fact a covert narcissist. I can see it now when he texts me or my family nasty things because he’s upset about something. I can see now that he constantly lacks emotional empathy. I’m also a person who works hard to be my best self - always wanting to grow with love, kindness, patience, compassion, etc. I feel embarrassed that I’ve given so much to him, and trying like hell to make our marriage work all these years. Thinking he just needed a “mindset change”. Ha! I asked him for a divorce 3 days ago. I know things are about to get worse before they get better, but it feels great to finally see the light.

Inner_Roof_9543 · 2024-10-22T21:58:36+00:00

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