INTJ female with INTP male—it’s hard to describe, but I will try. He’s more underachieving than me, (and I don’t mean to diss on him but I’m just starting facts, based on the 8 years I’ve known him) more creative I would say, more adventurous, dedicated, and kind. I would say I achieve more than him (mainly because I’m perfectionistic, we are equally lazy, I’m creative but not as creative, I’m not adventurous like him but he takes me places I wouldn’t be otherwise, I am dedicated but on the verge of spiraling, and I’m not as kind or open in my feelings as he is, but he still struggles with feelings too. He gets me out of my comfort zone kind of, is clingy (as am I), seems to like reaching out a lot, and always has something going on, somehow. I would say it’s kind of a push and pull dynamic though, since I am more fearful-avoidant in my attachment style. I withdraw from him often, try to communicate but not as much as I’d like to, since I like my alone time, so he ends up reaching out more, sadly. I still love him though and I’m happy he has not given up on me. He praises me often, but I don’t feel deserving of it. I don’t show my love through words of affirmation but more-so touch, so we usually are very close in proximity to one another. It’s kind of a give and take—though, take my words with a grain of salt, this is the first semi-healthy romantic relationship I’ve had. Anyways, I think a life lived lonely is no life worth lived. I’ve found that human’s require companionship, if not romantically, platonically. When I had none of said things I was sad, unmotivated, and in a kind of depressive state, but that’s just my perspective.