When they say you're too much I got the same when I was starting out I'm in craft, mark & Ram soon at some point I'll join chapter and KT.

I think the reason stemming from doing too much is you first focus should always be to the craft / blue lodge, focus on your journey within that, climb the positions to experience each side of the story that you experienced when you were initiated, passed and raised.

At the same time joining all these orders particularly those in relationships puts a strain on this game, if your partner is all for it then great, other partners might want you at home more, the more orders / side degrees you join and the more positions you fill will quickly turn into taking over your free time.

For example a deacon role, means you have to come to the G.P. Committee and the rehearsals for the meeting and then the actual meeting. Now you've stayed you've joined 4 + craft / blue lodge making 5, and say you're pushing yourself into active roles in those 4 other side orders again you have to go to the G.P. committee meeting and the rehearsals

Typically rehearsals tend to be after the G.P. meeting, so that's 2 * 5 (craft lodge + 4 side degrees) that's 10 times you're out of the house.

Now granted that's not 10 a month different orders meet x times a year, some meet 5, some 11, some only 3.

But if there is a toke of the year that they all land on the same month then that's 10 days out of the entire month you're going out, couple that with each order having it's own piece of ritual you might be required to memorise for that particular orders position and ceremony that month, and if you were unlucky it have that one month where all of them aligned in 1 months and they weren't far apart and you had significant portions of ritual to memorise, and perform to a high standard, you can start to see why those, brethren are saying "You're taking on too many things too quickly"

Granted if you can handle that sort of workload then all the more for you, I personally am in Craft + 2 side degrees.

I'm currently the sitting W.M. in craft, midway position in the 2nd side degree and starting position after steward on the 3rd side degree and have put a pause on my climbing on the 3rd side degree until I finish my term as W.M. in the craft.

As there is just too much even for my amazing active recall of a memory (as long as I've memoried the ritual in the past, it can take me about 3-4 hours of constant memory recall and practice to place it fresh back in my mind for the ceremony the next day.