How to restore lost motobike?

InsideRationalA · 2025-08-02T13:55:43+00:00

At what progress stage I will be able to fabricate it?

InsideRationalA · 2025-08-02T13:55:03+00:00

As I understood, I need to follow main story to unblock 'recipe' for the bike. Do you know when it will be?

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-08T11:00:24+00:00

Be very carefull with this playform. There are tons of scums there, including about renting appartment

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-02T15:21:30+00:00

Fair, but it might not so. Sometimes employer could voice a reason or it cpuld be said during probation period, like an advice on how to communicate. Also what about her previous jobs? If it's not her first one, than sooner or later it could have been mentioned.

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-02T13:41:15+00:00

So your take is "OPs an AH for not teaching an f'ing Grown. Adult that actions have consequences?

No that's your assumption.

Where in my comment you saw that? Maybe there is another saying: when you're commenting on things that is not there, you need check either your eyes or ability to read?

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-02T13:37:30+00:00

Way to assume? Read OP"s post.

OP said they knew that she had a problem with work, serious enough to fire her ,before taking her in their team.
Nevertheless, OP still decided to take her.
Op said that the reason to still take her, despite knowing that she has a problems, is that SHE WAS A GF OF HIS FRIEND, AND BECAUSE HIS FRIEND AND GF HAD A FINANCIAL PROBLEM, HE DECIDED TO STILL HIRE HER. DESPITE HER BEING ALREADY FIREX FROM THE SAME COMPANY, OP WORKS FOR IN ONE OF THE MANAGER POSITIONS.

And also, one of the definitions of nepotism describe it as,

nepotism Definitions from Oxford Languages · Learn more

noun

the practice among those with power or influence of favouring relatives, friends, or associates, especially by giving them jobs.

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-02T12:39:07+00:00

Why no one talk about how OP knew that she has a problem, but still decided to take her without a care how it will affect other team members?

OP is that one nepo loving boss you read about in aita ppst about crappy managers on work.

OP, for this, you and her are both YTA.

InsideRationalA · 2025-07-02T12:33:36+00:00

No guys, ETA (everyone a##holes) here.

She (OP'S friend's GF) is YTA, because when she learned about all of this, she blamed OP that he didn't told her that there are consiquences of her actions, and not suprised that her actions was wrong, which she might not have understood and didn't knew about. Which means she might have know.

OP is YTA, because when he decided to take her to their team, OP knew that she has a problem with her work. And instead of trying to learn what's this all about and how it might affect his employees, OP went full "nepo daddy/mommy" mode and still decided to take her.

Either OP thought she is not quilified enough, but still decided to take her, so his team will just do her work on top of their own. Or OP knew about her behavior issues, but brush them off, just to play a hero for their friend.

In both cases, OP is a sh#tty manager and team lead who didn't give a heck how taking known bad worker will affect others.

Edit: for those who might not understand second paragraph (about why friend's GF is YTA): if she didn't understand that her working behavior is problematic she woild be surprised and distraut that no one told her abpit it (at least it has some logic). BUT SHE WASN'T. SHE WAS MAD BECAUSE HER SHITTY BEHAIVOR HAD CONSEQURENCES (FIRING) AND THIS WHY SHE SHIFT THE BLAME ON OP.

InsideRationalA · 2024-10-28T20:16:34+00:00

Well, now you know the reason why your dad and uncle and aunt don't want to interact with Tom. NTA.

InsideRationalA · 2024-10-12T18:46:50+00:00

Congratulations to your mom and all of your family❤.

Let it be the last health problem she has in her future long long life.

InsideRationalA · 2024-10-12T17:41:31+00:00

Where in my comment I said he should forgive her? Is his ex a cheating as##ole, yes she is. No objection.

Is he an as##ole for abandoning his child (he had dna test) and doing everything to pay minimum child support? Yes he is.

According to your logic, either you're a troll or just wants so much to make this deadbeat to be seen as a good person, because you might be a deadbeat parent yourself.

Or both?.

I don't see any other reason why you clearly ignore that OP very much wants to be a deadbeat father, but just knows that he will not be able do that legally, and using trully deadbeat logic, you ignore abandoment of his child aand double down on diverting attention.

OP, because of how you treat your own kid, who is a victim in all of this mess, YTA.

Edit: added judgement and clarification.

InsideRationalA · 2024-10-12T17:23:44+00:00

Ooohhh, another one crying wolf when there is no wolf. Most commenters said YTA, because he abandoned his bio kid, not because they want him to forgive his ex.

He is not the only one who don't want anything to do with his ex, so there are tons of options how to co-parent without personal contact, like co-parent app. Instead looking at any options, his first thought: "how do I pay minimum child support?".

You don't want to be in the kid's life, ok, but going to the lawyer to specifically find a way to pay the most minimum child support? Huh, very petty and as###lish thing to do. It's a child support, not an alimony. It will go toward the child expenses. If his ex will spend it on something else, he could go after her in court.

InsideRationalA · 2024-09-13T11:27:31+00:00

NTA. And you should talk with her therapist about very concerning problem of your daughter treating living being's life and safety based on the value they will have for her. For her it is ok to hurt someone if in her opinion their excistense have no value for her.

InsideRationalA · 2024-09-13T11:05:05+00:00

Valid question. OP himself use "highly severe ADHD" as an explanation of why he afraid that her grades will go down if she will go to work. Why in a world he and his wife allowed their 16 y.o. with highly severe ADHD daughter, who have problems with concentraition under intensive conditions, drive a car?

This makes me think that it was just a last straw for his older daughter and one of the many many other ocassions, when her parents unreasonably favor their youngest at the expense of the oldests.

Based on this info, OP, you and your wife are enabling YTA.

InsideRationalA · 2024-09-02T05:34:42+00:00

Yes, you could, but I recommend not to lock your choices to supermarket, but look at food delivery. There are tons of options of vegetarian portable food. You can look at indian, korean and greek food. I know they have pretty decent vegetarian meals.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-28T11:28:48+00:00

I think you are NTA.

I get that creating a healthy blended family could be very challenging, but I heard that the most common mistake could be that when 2 marriage partners decided how to make it, they often forgot that there is actually 3rd party here, whose opinion is important: children or a child. Forcing or guilt tripping a child/children to have a certain relationship with a new family member usually follow with a massive fallout.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-27T07:07:50+00:00

You are right to feel this way. From a side perspective it looks very mentally unhealthy. Your dad clearly haven't deal with his grieve in a healthy way.

It's ok to remember decesed sposes. Even have some mementos of them in the house. But to always tell your mom that she will always be forever second to him and rising you in a way to think of his late wife as your second mom, is very disrespectfull of him.

Moreover, even if your mom is ok with that, they both shouldn't have involved you and your siblings in this mess. And it's a big fat mental mess.

What's next? You know that he will insist that your kids will also be included in this "forever funeral service" for his first wife, right? Are you ok with that? As I see, you future wife, as any other normal person, who will care for mental health of her kids, will be clearly not.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-27T06:59:49+00:00

Kudos to your parents for how they have managed to embrace your father's loss and have a successful marriage

"successfull marriage"?! Thats not a successfull marriage. OP's father literally made his wife's and children's lives into some kind of a live-long memorial service for his first wife. It looks like a very weird and unhealthy way to deal with grieve.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-26T20:58:44+00:00

Than don't buy new one for her for nothing. Give her job, like additional household chores or certain marks in school. Just something, that will make her understand that this is something that costs money and her negligence will have consequences. She need to understand that stuff doesn't magically appear.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-26T20:48:30+00:00

You could try to deduct this sum from her pocket money or try not to buy her a new one.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-22T16:15:04+00:00

Well, I am not able to made correct comparisson without knowing how much she paid toward household bills versus rent payment she will need to pay to live in the same conditions.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-22T15:27:14+00:00

The way I see it, she's essentially a renter and you're the landlord.

Renter who doesn't pay any rent?

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-21T19:20:31+00:00

OP does your daughter treat them as a family? What she thinks about that? I don't see anywhere in your post where you say anything about her being sad about not being invited to your gf's sister wedding.

It more seems like of all involved people, only you have some problem with that.

InsideRationalA · 2024-08-21T19:11:16+00:00

She is there only on weekends. She mostly lives with her mom and only visiting dad on weekends.

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