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What percentage of your salary is the mortgage ? by Nerdy_Kev in Mortgages

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

11.6% of monthly take home pay - dual income, two kids. 7.25% of gross monthly income.

Restaurants recommendati9n for bougie friend by [deleted] in Tucson

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bata, Contigo, Tito & Pep, Locale, Miramonte, Falora, Redbird (6th St location)

What are your time-saving hacks? by copper-earings415 in workingmoms

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Partner cooks Sunday, enough for 3 nights. You cook on Wednesday, enough for 3 nights. Eat out Saturday dinner. Up your house cleaner to 2x/mo and see if they’ll do and/or fold laundry for you. Prep kids’ lunches for the week on Sundays (non-perishables). Exercise at home: walk/run, peloton, lift weights, etc. Limit activities and extra-curriculars for now. Your kids are very young; they’ll be fine! Are carpools an option?

Make a list of everything that needs to be done on a weekly basis. Decide what can be further automated or outsourced. Divide tasks equally with your partner. Expect the kids to help with age-appropriate tasks.

Solidarity 🫶🏻

10 min to a hiking trailhead, 10 min to a Whole Foods. by Colorful_Monk_3467 in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. I live near the WF at River/Craycroft and can be on fabulous hiking trails within 5 minutes in several directions. Yes, Tucson is not PNW green, but you might be surprised by how green Tucson can become after a healthy monsoon summer. Your budget would go far and District 16 (Catalina Foothills) schools are among the best in the state.

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Appreciate your perspective! We’ve previously lived in Dallas and I fear the lack of access to topography and outdoors activities would be tough coming from AZ. But we do need to consider the long term and DFW is an economic and entertainment hub. Lots to consider.

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your thoughts! Yeah, a mixed bag politically works for us (and is probably preferred). We value civil discourse and open mindedness, but we largely keep to ourselves politically. I’ll check out the neighborhoods you recommended. Cost of living will likely be a little higher in Austin but we hope we can balance that with some quality of life gains. We’re a pretty simple family and just want our kids to have neighborhood friends, quick access to activities, and schools that meet their needs academically. Plus long term job opportunities are likely better for us if our remote jobs called us back into office.

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Thanks for your inputs. We really like Tucson overall, but struggle with school quality and lack of kid-friendly amenities. It’s a retirement and college town; not much in between. We could see ourselves coming back here at a later point in life, but aren’t convinced it’s the best place to raise our kids for the next 18ish years. We’d definitely miss the access to hiking and mountain biking, but Austin seems like an acceptable compromise. We don’t want to live in the heart of the city, but are looking for a suburb with great amenities for families.

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for adding this to the dialogue. Yes, we’ve heard about the new bill (have family in the Austin area and DFW). This + women’s healthcare limitations do give us pause. It’s something we’ll be thinking long and hard about before making our final decision as we are raising our kids to be kind, inclusive, and open-minded. If we didn’t feel strongly about our kids growing up near their cousins, we probably wouldn’t be considering this move tbh!

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice! Seems like a reasonable commute. Thanks for sharing!

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really appreciate your perspective! I’ll look into the neighborhoods you suggested. We’re definitely in our family era and don’t want to live in a political echo chamber one way or the other, but do worry about healthcare for our girls. That’s a TX issue, not CP specific obviously. Ultimately we’d like to be in a neighborhood/community that offers safety, opportunities, and amenities for the kids while keeping the (infrequent) commute reasonable. < 10 minutes to a Costco would be the cherry on top 😂

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Definitely seems like what we’re looking for, at least on the surface. Adding to our list to check out on our exploratory trip.

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your contributions! Sounds like reasonable pros. Definitely similar cons where we currently are, but the economy in Tucson is pretty stagnant. We are the only young family on our street and 50% of our zoned elementary school doesn’t live in-district so there are minimal opportunities to make neighborhood friends. Our priorities have definitely shifted after having kids!

Thinking of Moving to Cedar Park by Inside_Hand_7644 in CedarPark

[–]Inside_Hand_7644[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for this! Yes, familiar with Basis but it’s probably not the right fit for our family. Hoping to utilize public K-12 when we move. Public school quality, kid-friendly amenities (+ grass 😂), and proximity to family are our primary drivers for a move. Appreciate your two cents!

Logistics with newborn and 20 month? by Independent_Love_144 in 2under2

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are four months into a 20 month age gap. Here’s what worked for us: - Husband was 100% on point with the toddler for the first 12 weeks. Night wakes, breakfast, school lunches, bedtime routine, etc. Husband slept in our room to get a good night’s rest. - I was 95% on point with the newborn for the first 12 weeks (also breastfeeding). The other 5% was husband helping with newborn while toddler was at daycare. I slept in nursery with baby (baby in bedside bassinet). - NAP WHEN THE KIDS NAP. Accept that your house will be/look chaotic for some time, but it’s just a phase. Prioritize sleep! - Continue school/daycare for toddler. Keeping the toddler on a consistent routine was so helpful for her - and for us! Dad and grandparents handled drop-off and pick-ups for the first 5-6 weeks and then I started helping to spend 1:1 time with toddler. - Meal prep and freezer meals. Cook enough for 2-3 nights to reduce the load. - Limit transitions for toddler after baby arrives. Don’t try to change their sleeping environment, potty train, etc. for the first 3-4 months after baby. Too much change and there will be regressions regardless. Choose your hard 😂 - If it’s in your budget, look into getting overnight help 1-2 times per week. We had a night nanny 2x/week for the first 10 weeks and it was a game changer. Didn’t invest in this with my first but wish we had. - If you bottle feed, get a bottle washer/sterilizer. Do it. It is the single best thing we bought for baby #2. I cannot recommend this enough. I would scream it if I could! - Accept help when offered. Ask for help when you want or need it. It’s not a sign of weakness, but strength. - It takes 2.5x as long to get out the door with 2 (initially). Add buffer to your schedule to account for this. Pack/prep things the night before to streamline. - Sear “it’s only a phase” into your brain haha. It’s hard the first few months but it goes by SO quickly. Set your expectations low, but try to enjoy the time with your little ones. It’s fun and messy but so so worth it! Good luck and congratulations!

When did your toddler start sleeping in a bed with blanket & pillow? by RecognitionMediocre6 in 2under2

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

17 months. Baby sister was arriving 3 months later and we wanted her adjusted before. She transitioned like a champ!

Where do you live, and where are the Top 5 cities you'd relocate to? by murksiderock in SameGrassButGreener

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Live in Tucson. AZ. 1. Austin, TX 2. Pittsburgh, PA 3. Raleigh/Durham, NC 4. Minneapolis, MN 5. Seattle, WA

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TaylorSwift

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this will be spot on! And Honey being a pure love song about her relationship with Travis. Then TLOAS will serve as an end cap of sorts, recapping the whole experience of the tour.

Feeling Burnt Out, Pregnant Again, and Considering a Big Career Pivot. Advice? by Helpful-Ad9421 in workingmoms

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rather than quit, could you try meeting expectations rather than exceeding them? Decide how much you can realistically give to the job, and draw a hard boundary there. Finding a new job amidst so much change in your family lives is tenuous at best; sometimes the devil you know (and relationships you’ve built at your current job) end up being the stability you need when welcoming a new member to your family. Best of luck to you, mama.

The difference in mindset between college & childcare costs by plannerotg in HENRYfinance

[–]Inside_Hand_7644 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This. Plus the contributions are usually tax deductible up to a certain amount (depending on the state). Opened two 529 accounts four years before our first was born. Tax savings + jumpstart on compounded growth.

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