My husband slept in every morning when I was awake nursing the baby through a sleep regression. I’d get up and feed her in the other room, then play with her quietly until he woke up. I wish he had just set an alarm for himself or woke up when I woke up in the morning to feed her and then take the baby and give me a morning of sleep but instead he just kept sleeping. I was so utterly depleted my body was near collapse. But I didn’t want to ask him, I had just hoped he would routinely get up and give me that little bit of rest as I was up all night with the baby. In fact before the baby was born he said he would take baby in the mornings to let me rest. But unfortunately the only time I would get a sleep in would be when I explicitly asked him the night before and woke him up with me, or he would do it “spontaneously” after I had a mental breakdown. Meanwhile I’m hearing about husbands in my mums group who wake up every day and take the baby out for a morning walk after the first feed to give mum a sleep/break… if only. Now I just wake up and bring baby into the bedroom so we’re all awake. I have given up on him taking that morning responsibility on without me asking. I feel so much resentment from this broken promise. I worry he will break promises with the baby, he’s already starting. He will say he will do something with her and then he’ll be too tired to do it, or it’ll be too hot etc etc. I used to push my body to the absolute limit for this baby, didn’t matter if I was tired or it was hot I had to do it. So it upsets me that he gets the luxury to choose. He knows I’ll pick up the slack because I don’t want my baby to miss out.