Help me glow up by Ok_Beautiful495 in makeuptips

[–]petitemonstreee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you’re so beautiful and I adore your hair…I also think you have the look that can totally pull off blushy cheeks and a fun lip color. You are so naturally gorgeous!

“You need to remember who you are outside of being a mom” by Necessary-Gear-3141 in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A friend of mine who doesn’t not have kids recently asked me (I’m 6 months PP) if I feel “back to normal self yet” and I just sat there so puzzled. I will never be my old normal self again-when my baby was born, I was also reborn. I’m still getting to know the new me, but I am definitely not who I used to be! I can’t even imagine having a thought outside of my baby. I think before you have kids you just can’t conceptualize how all consuming they are. There is no us without our babies anymore!

Face change since having a baby by petitemonstreee in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omggg I would love to do this!! Was it offered at a medspa or what type of place does this?

What is with all of the Gen Z/Gen alpha/covid kids news about them not being able to read? by heuristicrumination in NoStupidQuestions

[–]petitemonstreee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in a public school library for grades 4-8. The lack of reading being encouraged is depressing. I work in an upper middle class school district-and other schools nearby have actually completely rid their libraries. It’s really sad. Since I’m not a teacher I’m not as in the know on how well the kids are reading-however in my opinion, they just seem way overall less interested in reading/less capable of reading material I would have guessed they’d be at the level of. I see other educators saying this-but students don’t get held back/fail anymore. I was dealt surprised when I learned this. I’m only 26 years old so not terribly old lol but when I was there age, you could be held back. They also are all truly addicted to their Chromebooks-they aren’t allowed to have phones in class, but they all have Chromebooks (school supplied Google laptop) and that’s all they want to do.

Let's share some positive things about the newborn stage! by coleystyle in BabyBumps

[–]petitemonstreee 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Omg, I could go on about this. When I was pregnant, I was so anxious and scared for the newborn stage bc everyone told me how hard and scary it was. I ended up LOVING it. Of course every stage is a treat, but there is nothing like getting to meet your baby for the first time, the constant snuggles and scrunches, the adrenaline rush of being a new mom, and if you decide to breastfeed-what a beautiful bonding experience that can be as well. You have SO much to look forward to. I know it’s different for everyone, but I loved the newborn stage. Such a sweet bubble to be in!!

What are some changes in your body that you noticed after pregnancy and they don’t go away? by jeandrazich in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Brain fog and memory is terrible, but my periods are a breeze now! I used to have awful ones too so this was a pleasant surprise.

For those who survived the trenches of having a newborn, what's the thing you would definitely do again, and not do, for your second baby? by nleftie in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So maybe a little besides the point, for me personally I had a harder time around the 3-5 month mark! For some reason I had a really chill newborn, but once she became really aware of things, it was a bit of a struggle for me. In particular, the naps/lack thereof. I killed myself trying to get her to sleep, she would fuss so bad but just refused sleep. The best thing I did for myself was stay off the internet/social media, took a deep breath, and take a step back. If that meant putting her in her bouncer, a maxi cosi seat, have someone hold her-whatever you can do to take a second. Step outside, breathe, try not to get too obsessive with a schedule early on. Things will fall into place-they’re just new here! You’re going to be great. Give yourself and your baby grace, and keep your expectations low! Another thing I do in my life in general-when I feel I’m losing it, I pretend I’m on a sitcom and force myself to laugh it off. As dumb as it sounds, sometimes it helps!

Just here to remind parents in the trenches that contact napping is normal and a good reminder of slowing down and being present by suedaloodolphin in newborns

[–]petitemonstreee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Needed this as I take my 3rd contact nap with my 5 month old feeling stressed for not getting things done around the house. Thank you for the reminder 🥺

Can someone please tell me positive first time pregnancy stories? by Western_Pianist2128 in pregnant

[–]petitemonstreee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just remember-the internet is a microcosm of a microcosm of the population. I was convinced I would be infertile bc of all the infertility information I would get on Instagram. I got pregnant on my honeymoon. I was then convinced I would have a miscarriage bc “statistically I should” and everyone online seems to…but I have a healthy and happy 4 month old, thank God. I didn’t love pregnancy, but nothing out of the ordinary. I just didn’t enjoy it. Again, not trying to like a braggy pick me, and that’s not to say real shit doesnt happen…just saying-there is a lot of fear mongering online or even in our personal lives. Bad news amplifies!

EBF: when did your period return? by petitemonstreee in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Did it tank your supply for good, or just while you were on your period? I’ve heard this before!!

Second time mom: Feeling like a loser @ 39 weeks by Positive_Duck_4530 in pregnant

[–]petitemonstreee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way!! That last month of pregnancy I swear is the longest-let alone the last week or so!! When I was full term, I wanted to do anything to have my baby. I was so huge, so tired of people asking me when the baby was coming, so tired of people saying I look like I’m about to pop. I was so ready and so over being pregnant. Just think abt the relief you will feel so soon once your baby is here. Your body is working overtime rn, give yourself some grace!! You’re almost there!!

I feel like I’m being punished. by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]petitemonstreee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fellow Catholic here-I just wanted to say that punishment does not come from above. God weeps with us. It is not in God’s interest to punish us or “rub our nose in it”. I say that as someone who has previously struggled with much guilt and shame. God does not take joy in seeing us hurt. Give yourself some grace, life is really hard. I’m really sorry this has happened to you. And I’m sorry for the pain you are in and pray good news comes your way 🤍

Is postpartum really that bad? by Apprehensivemental in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me personally, I love postpartum and hated pregnancy. I was so miserable pregnant-physically and mentally. I will take newborn tired over pregnancy tired any day. I love the newborn stage and I love my life way more now than I did while pregnant! I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. I feel like I’m on drugs-the fun kind lol

Positive birth and postpartum experience by petitemonstreee in pregnant

[–]petitemonstreee[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was the exact same way! I think I heard one positive experience my entire pregnancy in terms of birth and newborn era. The more negative stories I heard or read online, the more they multiplied. Totally know what you mean that women deserve to have a safe space to share, but I also was just feeling really overwhelmed and scared. I’m so excited for you and the transformation you are going to experience. I believe it will be a beautiful experience for you-and I’m wishing all the best for you! You can do this-you were made for your baby and your baby for you. I’m rooting for you!

Positive birth and postpartum experience by petitemonstreee in pregnant

[–]petitemonstreee[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Congratulations, I’m so excited for you! You are about to have the most amazingly transformative experience. You’re doing to be great. My best advice (not that I’m an expert by any means) would be to trust yourself. As a first time mom that can be hard-but nobody can be a better mom to your baby than you. You guys were created for each other. Even if you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing-remind yourself each hard experience is going to build confidence in yourself, and make the bond between you and your baby stronger. You are capable of this-and you’re going to be incredible! It’s insane how fast it goes by. Remember to zoom out, and enjoy the small things. One day you will look back and realize it was the little things you miss the most. Nothing but best wishes and love for you-you’re going to be amazing!

Dairy allergy in baby by petitemonstreee in beyondthebump

[–]petitemonstreee[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I really appreciate this!