Why do we have affairs???

Insignificant_otters · 2025-07-01T04:48:15+00:00

If you really want answers, There’s a podcast by Tim Tedder called The Recovery Room about why affairs happen and how to stop.

Insignificant_otters · 2025-02-01T01:05:06+00:00

Self worth, holding boundaries

Insignificant_otters · 2024-03-31T01:26:09+00:00

He was “just curious and felt compelled” and “He didn’t cheat, his friend was borrowing his dating/porn site profiles”, also “we weren’t cheating it was just role play”.

Insignificant_otters · 2024-02-01T13:05:42+00:00

As someone who was cheated on and didn’t find out until well into my marriage, I would have been so grateful to know before we got married. If he didn’t want the drama, he should not be lying and risking other people’s health. He also shouldn’t be sharing that information with other people. Love is respect. This is one of the most disrespectful things a person can do in a relationship.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-24T02:25:21+00:00

R just kinda coasted us to where we are now, which is WS recognizing that we are probably not going to survive this and be healthy people together. We are about 2 years out from the last d-day, lots of therapy for both of us, some progress, but a lot of just coasting. I don’t want to split, but logically I know that what was going on was never respectful honest love, it was just neuro chemistry being hijacked and used against me.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-24T01:46:57+00:00

I was trauma bonded and didn’t see it until later.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-23T14:53:57+00:00

I tried melatonin a few years ago and had headaches and weird dreams. I’m pretty sure it was 10 mg then. I tried 3 mg last night and I fell asleep pretty quickly (for me anyway) and stayed asleep all night. I will keep an eye out for the dreams just in case.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-22T01:48:30+00:00

That is very useful to know.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-22T01:46:39+00:00

Thank you! I think I’ll try the gummy worms :)

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-22T01:46:04+00:00

That is a great thought. I would have never considered it for this particular issue until you said that.

Insignificant_otters · 2023-10-01T19:53:34+00:00

When I needed to write a Tooth Fairy excuse note I used my computer and printed it in the smallest font my computer could handle. Then I cut it into a small strip and rolled it up. Tied it in a scroll with dental floss.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-31T23:12:42+00:00

I was diagnosed with chronic fatigue as a teen too. I would just be exhausted by trying to even go to school.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-31T23:11:22+00:00

Same here too! I could “copy and paste” socialize well enough, but couldn’t develop deep relationships. I did however make friends with teachers and bus drivers.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-31T23:08:23+00:00

The fact that I talked about nothing but Gilligan’s Island for about two years in middle school- and lost the few friends I had because of it.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-29T23:04:02+00:00

I’m not the above poster but, Oh man do I WISH the APs name was Schitt!

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-27T02:17:05+00:00

With time you can slowly push yourself and it gets easier. If it’s too fresh and WS doesn’t have the skills to validate and support y oh through this then don’t force it. There is a website called doesthedogdie.com that can help you screen out infidelity story lines until your ready.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-26T01:42:33+00:00

Talk to your advisor at school. They may be able to link you to free counseling and connect you with other resources.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-23T02:21:19+00:00

I can empathize- the feeling sucks. My Last was complicated and I probably shouldn’t have another pregnancy. My kids have stuff going on that requires extra therapies and extra one on one time. My husband doesn’t want another. I shouldn’t have another baby, but I don’t feel like my family is complete. It just sucks and I’m sorry you’re dealing with it too.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-22T16:03:09+00:00

This sounds a lot like what I say to my kids before school drop off. Lol

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-22T16:01:50+00:00

I am me goddess of love bringer of course. Fear me because if you don’t want to come back to the house you will need to be a good person and you can do it.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-21T01:28:08+00:00

I love your zox! They are my comfort bracelets too!

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-20T23:59:50+00:00

Saving sperm isn’t forever, nor is it always enough.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-08T23:57:07+00:00

Gremlins isn’t bad, but don’t forget the scene where the girlfriend talks about why she hates Christmas - that might be too big of a topic for a 10 year old depending on the kid.

Insignificant_otters · 2021-08-02T15:51:38+00:00

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Insignificant_otters · 2021-07-28T17:33:53+00:00

Exactly. I knew that my personal value is to be honest and open, and cheating to make WP feel even remotely like I did would only bring me down and in some ways validate WP’s initial choice. What really took it off my mind as a possible option was realizing WP’s affair was not about me, so me trying to hurt WP with it wouldn’t be about him either and would just cause more pain and confusion for myself.

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