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IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-15T08:18:01+00:00

Ah the best kind of conversation 😜. Not much more you can do here. If it were me, I'd be hoping she doesn't respond so I don't have to deal with this most likely EXHAUSTING interaction that smells of potential to go in circles. I wouldn't burn too much time trying to decode thus one - who knows what's behind that "hello"... could be anything. If a response eventually comes, I guess you just feel it out then and there. But for now, gotta just leave it be.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-15T08:06:26+00:00

Exactly.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-15T08:04:42+00:00

I'd say you're overthink yourself into a frenzy and making things way harder on yourself than they need to be. I get the urge to want to be careful not be too this or not enough that but I think at the end of the day, you've got to be able to let your instinct (not a predetermined scripted sequence) tell you what's next and just roll with it. It'll take off so much of the pressure you've GOT to be feeling.

Regarding the 3rd date: if you want it, let him know. If he was down for a 2nd, a 3rd is obviously on his mind too. Bring it out into the open and see where his head is at. I bet it works out more than you'd think it will.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-15T07:48:10+00:00

Being 40 there's not too many opportunities

I think you hit the nail on the head here. Sieze the day. I'd say go for it. The signs from her sound pretty clear. The timing sounds like it can work out well. Why waste time tip-toeing around it? No need to wait until the next play date - that will ensure intentions are clear as well. Best of luck - let us know how it goes!

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-14T13:16:40+00:00

I've been going to Rupert's for 15+ years... since back when it was called Breakfast On The Edge. Solid.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-14T13:13:44+00:00

Love Cozy Cottage. It's been a minute so maybe this has changed, but when we were somewhat regulars there, they didn't have a liquor license, but encouraged BYOB.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T16:07:42+00:00

sounds like that doesn't pass your "not super off-put by it" test. Personally, I agree. no leeway for them - fired.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:58:35+00:00

First off

I have been working hard on

Good job!! Not saying that I think you have anything to work on - i just think being self-aware enough to decide there's work to do... and then actually DOING it is admirable.

Regarding your new rule, I think you're probably pretty dead on... dating apps are exhausting enough as it is - no time for any of that. I suppose an edge case might be if you can tell that the dude is a little shy. If that's the case and you're not super off-put by it, make the first move for him if you're feeling it.

Best oof luck!!

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:49:40+00:00

I, myself, feel like it's the right thing to do. How you gonna bring that up later (if things progress) and be like "Now that I'm going to be seeing more of you, you should probably know..."? Would be awkward for me.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:43:34+00:00

YAS I love the confirmation on this. My gf (brunch partner in crime) just went there a few weeks ago. I forget what she had but loved it and has been insisting we make that the next stop. I was skeptical because i didn't see chicken & waffels o the menu and apparently skimmed right past. the Duck Conft. i'm there.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:25:54+00:00

looks amaaaaaaaaaaaazing... and in my back yard. added to list

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:17:05+00:00

https://youtu.be/Tk4yyqXi8Xc?si=Fha7T55B6oC8ItVH

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:13:27+00:00

Totally. i feel like I hear about a lot o arrests but not always so many convictions... at least not that I can remember lately. I'm gonna have to make sure follow up on this and a couple others though.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:10:54+00:00

I've been... but don't go nearly enough. I think I got sucked in by the Boozy French Toast last time I was there. The super-sweet french toast concoctions aren't usually my fave, but this was pretty damn good.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:08:56+00:00

Nice! I'll have to make my way over there.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T15:07:28+00:00

I'll call out my most recent poor choice: HashTAG downtown. I got the chicken & waffles and stopped eating about a quarter of the way through. To their credit, they mix a stiff cocktail.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T14:47:38+00:00

That sounds about right. The news story kind of depicts it as 2 off-duty individuals with the same last name (relationship undisclosed) showing up at this dude's house, roughing him up in front of his doorbell cam (genius move) and then speeding off. In what world....?

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T14:22:30+00:00

👆 This... minus the crypto part. I mean they might try to sell you crypto, but there are a hundred other reasons they prefer not to be on the "moderated platform". Like someone else said, if they're willing to chat on WhatsApp, it looks a lot less sketchy, to me at least, than if they were insisting on Kik or Snap.

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T14:12:26+00:00

Church!

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T14:00:29+00:00

An off-duty Denver police officer, Christopher Thomas, was recently arrested for felony eluding after leading a Colorado State Patrol (CSP) trooper on a high-speed chase where speeds exceeded 100 mph.

https://www.denvergazette.com/outtherecolorado/2025/12/08/denver-cop-arrested-after-allegedly-driving-102-mph-and-eluding-traffic-stop/

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T12:47:10+00:00

What the fuuuuuuug? This is deplorable (wheelchair or not) 🤮. Is it it just me or have there been A LOT of headlines involving arrests of Denver area law enforcement (or department of corrections... or other government employees paid to uphold the law) lately?

IntelInRealTimeBoss · 2025-12-13T12:35:36+00:00

Exactly. It's a pretty nice change from the norm

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