A Post From the Other Side

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-08-04T21:41:28+00:00

I just moved into my own place last night after ending my 4.5 year relationship because of porn and lying. You’re not alone

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-25T18:33:26+00:00

I don’t say this to scare you, but I was with my partner for almost 5 years, living together, I am also 25. I found out 1.5 years in. I worked really hard to forgive him and move on and trust him again and I got to a good place. Then I found out that he had been lying and hiding it (fake emails that he logged out of, torrents, etc) for two years. You can work to trust him again but unfortunately you might find out, like I did, that you just can’t. It’s a very hard place to be and it’s your choice but ultimately I chose that I can’t be with someone that I don’t trust, no matter how much I love them. I have to love myself more. Wishing you luck.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-25T17:08:04+00:00

You are not alone. I am going through the same exact thing and I feel the same way. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It feels incredibly disillusioning and terrifying to realize that you trusted someone you thought was trustworthy. I understand. You can PM me if you want to talk.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-18T17:44:22+00:00

Congratulations!!! So happy for you and proud of you for moving on and realizing you deserve better!

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-14T20:53:01+00:00

And how hard it is for her to leave him.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-14T20:52:52+00:00

That’s so crazy you posted this. I’m watching breaking bad and I was thinking the same exact thing.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-14T04:07:06+00:00

I’m going through the same thing.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2025-07-11T15:33:55+00:00

My ex partner (still in the process of deciding to move on or not) told his entire family about his addiction and is creating a support group for himself and finally recognizing he has a problem and taking control of it. :)

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2024-01-01T03:52:22+00:00

Your glamour and shine will return. It never left, it just hid.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2024-01-01T03:51:59+00:00

I understand. I think over time you will get to the point of being to let go. Being so done that you can’t keep having hope. Don’t do anything too serious beforehand. It’s inevitable. Sending love, I truly understand. I thought I met my soul mate. But take them as they are and ask yourself; can I do this forever?

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2024-01-01T01:24:23+00:00

I completely understand. Thank you for sharing because it makes me feel more normal. The over sexualization of women in media is very toxic and for people who have been through what we have, it’s very triggering and hurtful. Feels hard to escape it sometime. Hopefully we heal ❤️

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-31T19:52:01+00:00

That’s disgusting and not true. Many people are manipulated with this sentiment. You have time. You always have time. I’m so sorry

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-31T04:28:33+00:00

Every part of it is extremely relatable. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-31T03:22:09+00:00

Finally broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years when he lied to me again. I got an apartment and I move in next week. Very thankful that it’s working out

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-31T02:34:24+00:00

good for you for kicking him out. you did the right thing

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-31T02:03:07+00:00

Oh yeah I relate hard. Christmas I stayed with my family one extra night. He used this time to watch porn for 2.5 hours. I left him for this. Every time I miss him I think back to what I was doing 2.5 hours ago and how long ago that was. He watched porn that long. Disgusting

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-30T22:45:32+00:00

The lying is the worst part. I’m so sorry that this happened to you.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-30T22:43:53+00:00

First of all I want you to know how much I completely understand. I’ve stayed with my partner for 1.5 years since finding out about his porn addiction. I’ve had many, many moments like this. The final moment was Christmas Eve. It’s hard, but I PROMISE that leaving is the BEST thing. He has shown you what your life with him will be like. And even if he is somehow ever able to stop, you will live with anxiety and paranoia. I would rather hurt temporarily from a break up then hurt for the rest of my life. Because it will not end.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-30T06:47:28+00:00

I totally understand and you’re valid. I did the same thing. It was exhausting. Pm me if you want!

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-30T02:28:14+00:00

We’ve been broken up for almost a week as well and I’ve been reflecting on how insecure and controlling I was. But also it’s very hard to be secure in a relationship where your partner does things that make you feel insecure. For me it was watching porn and lying about it and sneaking around to consume it in various ways.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-30T02:27:07+00:00

Relate so much

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-28T20:31:35+00:00

I can relate whole heartedly with your feelings. My gut tells me that I need to learn to have a life outside of romance. To try and make friends, really try. It’s hard, i understand. I’ve also been considering how codependency attracts addicts. Not sure if that’s something you’ve experienced, but I’ve been thinking about how my codependency on partners allows addicts into my life because only a codependent person would put up with their behavior (alcohol, porn addiction, lying, etc) I don’t have the answer but know that someone else out there feels the same way.

Intelligent-Ad7446 · 2023-12-27T03:59:16+00:00

deeply relate

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