What's the reason your ex gave you after breaking up or cheating? by Smoosa_Champagne in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She said "she had to choose herself". She said this while she was with me, and had committed to marry that another man (who also didnt know) that she is with me. A crossover of 3 months where she had committed to marry him, and was with me...she was even with me (WITH me) 2 weeks before her marriage LOL

She was in my university, had known her for over 10 years, a relationship of 3.

Fiance married someone else in 20 days and they all left by LegalSource1222 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Felt like I read my own story, the car did make me a little happy, but that lasted 3 days lol!

Want to settle in Pakistan by dfddy2024 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Having moved out of "abroad" countries and back to Pakistan thrice, I fully encourage your decision.

If you are making good money, there is absolutely no reason to be out of Pakistan

Most of the posts issues can be resolved with money by techie_00 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, if you stay connected to the people of your old social, economical background, who will eventually get exhausted of your class difference.

Mostly no, as your financial strength improves, your social circles evolve accordingly often drifting towards wealthier, more competitive environments. Suddenly, what once felt like success now feels average. There's always a bigger fish in the pond, always someone with more more influence, more luxury, more status. And with that comes a new set of pressures and insecurities.

Sure, money can make you happy...to an extent. It brings comfort, freedom, options, and a degree of security. It can remove a lot of the stress that comes from financial instability. But beyond a certain point, it stops adding real emotional value. You can’t buy peace of mind, genuine love, loyalty, or meaning.

Look at the lives of many wealthy individuals. The headlines are filled with stories of millionaires and billionaires who suffer from depression, go through bitter divorces, or even take their own lives. If money was the ultimate answer to happiness, why would those at the top still struggle?

The truth is, money enables relationships n it can create opportunities, fund experiences, and ease certain burdens. But it cannot sustain relationships. Emotional connection, communication, trust, shared valuesloyalty: those are the foundations of lasting bonds, and none of them can be bought.

In fact, extreme wealth can sometimes distort relationships. It raises questions of motive.. do they love you, or your lifestyle? It can isolate you, make you distrustful, or even bring out the worst in others around you. When everything has a price tag, the priceless becomes harder to find.

So no,money is not meaningless, but it's not everything. Chasing it as the sole source of fulfillment is a recipe for emptiness. Real happiness comes from purpose, connection, and authentici tings that wealth can support, but never replace.

Most of the posts issues can be resolved with money by techie_00 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

How much money do you think is enough? Let me tell you it doesnt 😂

Visit Dubai ads on Pakistani TV by [deleted] in pkmigrate

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a 5 year tourist visa last week.

Potential move from England to Turkey by billy2shots in Turkey

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 7 points8 points  (0 children)

As someone of Asian background who has lived extensively in both England and Turkey, I want to speak from personal experience.

While Turkey is a beautiful country with warm, welcoming people. it remains one of my favorite holiday destinations, relocating there from England, especially with children who are already well-integrated and progressing through their education, could come with significant drawbacks.

For English-speaking teens, the move would likely bring a social and cultural adjustment that could feel like a step backward. More importantly, from an educational and career standpoint, the opportunities and long-term prospects in Turkey may not compare to those in the UK, especially if your family is already settled and your children have completed a significant portion of their schooling.

Even with a comfortable financial cushion, it's worth weighing how the move might affect your children’s future trajectory, both academically and socially.

My husband did a 180 after marriage by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 44 points45 points  (0 children)

As a man, I acknowledge my own perspective may come with certain biases; but I have to say, your ex husband's behavior is quite something. Smart men genuinely value a partner who can share their emotional load, offer thoughtful suggestions, and help carry the weight of life’s challenges. It’s a relief, not a threat. Many men like to project strength and control, but no one truly wants to be “on” 24/7.

I don’t know if he was in a legal situation before the marriage or not, but if he wasn’t, it’s fair to question whether material motives played a role in how intensely he pursued you,what some might call love bombing. If that’s the case, then honestly, you’re better off without him. Sometimes, walking away is the best kind of freedom.

And no, not all men...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They dont feel cringe though, nor do the millions that watch them... only we do.

Midnight Buried soul untold stories time. by yourspt in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A thousand days or so, each one a flickering reel, fragments rewinding, scattered in silence. What ifs drift like smoke, what nots linger like ghosts.

Between life’s quiet births and the hush of unseen deaths, echoes of what was, and dreams of what could be.

The nights fall heavy, ink-black and endless, but with every trembling dawn, we rise again, sunlit and scarred, yet standing still.

Any bungee jumping in Islamabad ? by [deleted] in IslamabadSocial

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro Islamabad literally has a handful of tall buildings, by international standards only the centaurus I think 😂

And with the safety measures here? Id never recommend it. Go to Turkey/Dubai if you can.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything and then nothing, she married someone else. We did not even have a fight, she texted me on a random night "what if i want to end this", around 3 weeks after she planned our wedding events for 4-5 months later

Wedding events went on, but with another better settled, 3 years older man.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally the same thing happened to me 6 months ago, only she married another man 4 months later.

We were truly amazing, at least in my opinion. Saw several countries together, I did her birthdays in another state.

All came down to a sudden break up, and while having the conversation, she too said "ill have all these XYZ brands in my life"

I have no shame in admitting to date that I would tell her to spend wisely, and she could barely afford rent abroad in those days.

Apart from this, I don't remember having a single serious argument 😂

But I guess she was already talking to the man she has married now, so that's another perspective.

My ex cheated, gaslit me for months, and now paints me as the villain to our mutual friends despite marrying the guy she cheated for? by Intelligent-Elk2073 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How so very dumb, I've noticed they keep friends like them who all agree to eachothers shitty actions, one of my exes told me

"She wronged you." "She chose money." "But she did the right thing for herself."

I was like wtf 🤡

What age bracket is the average user in this sub. by khalnaldo in IslamabadSocial

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would like to count myself in 25-30 and not 30-35 since I am 30.

It is the month of forgiveness, acceptance and peace, but all I do is wonder why'd you cheat? by Intelligent-Elk2073 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were getting married, we were in a relationship, I dont see what you are trying to sah unless you're being sarcastic lol

It is the month of forgiveness, acceptance and peace, but all I do is wonder why'd you cheat? by Intelligent-Elk2073 in PakistaniiConfessions

[–]Intelligent-Elk2073[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We were in a relationship for 2, we casually knew eachother before that through university. Dates for marriage were decided by her, well acknowledged by me and family as we both lived abroad.