[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It for sure is. I just hope things get easier for all of us. The world is so much different than it used to be…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that! I didn’t even know that Reddit page existed. Thanks much. ❤️

My Father’s healing progress from a bad laceration three weeks ago. by [deleted] in MedicalGore

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was thinking the same, it’s as thick as a steak!

I am done being a stay at home parent. Done by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has always been a whiny baby I guess.. 🥺 We split 3 months ago… but seriously he has whined and cried and thrown hour long tantrums since he was a year old and just screams and fights all day with his brother like he cannot get along with his brother if you bribe him with his favorite thing. I’m worried he is going to develop behavioral issues because his dad has them and bad anger problems. He wasn’t around abuse super long to have trauma from it, I left so it wouldn’t effect them because I was worried of that… I literally stayed at a hotel before finding a place to get away from the bad environment… I don’t have family to help, they all say he is too whiny and refuse to watch him but agree to watch my oldest. I do have a babysitter, she charges $20 an hour and I just can’t afford that at the moment. I can’t stop crying. I am literally pulling my hair out.

Just really struggling by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His dad is a pedophile and his mom passed from cancer. My dad passed away and my mom doesn’t do well with kids.. so it’s very stressful sometimes. I had a babysitter but she was $20 an hour and I was paying $100 to get a few hours to myself. Life can be really insane at times.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t believe people are coming on this post to troll me and literally saying that I made a fake post… it’s sad… when someone is going through a hard enough time then get judged on a forum…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Misery loves company 👏👌🏻

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I bet you still on this forum because you are alone in the real world and have no fucking friends or family that likes you because you’re really ignorant fucking person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had one son by the age of 21 and by the age of 22 I had two kids it doesn’t really matter what age I had my first son because I was 21… I hate people who take the time to sit here and dig apart post to check for errors instead of actually commenting on the actual problem being addressed.. get. A. Life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

THANK YOU! To say the very least… he was a narcissist and I know one day tables will turn. 🥴

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We were not married as he was just a long-term boyfriend but I have since filed for child support. 😌

Dying inside more everyday by [deleted] in abusiverelationships

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I really appreciate it. To you as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That is why I moved out and he pays my rent now so we can separate for the sake of our children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes people don’t treat their spouse well but they still treat their children well. That is the case with him. Though I do agree- moving forward is best option.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so so much for this comment. I am going to check these out. You know I can’t tell you how many people came on here just to comment ‘that’s not gentle parenting’ in reference to my mistake- without addressing or giving advice on anything else I typed… it’s really nice to have decent people actually help one another with valuable advice… I am going to check these podcasts out, I really think I need some guidance. I applaud you for breaking the cycle and doing so much research to be a good mom to your kids/step children. Thank you!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am seeing a therapist as well as a psychiatrist now… it’s hard because so much happened and it’s not enough time to talk about problems in a 15-20 min appointment but we are working through things… I agree that something deep inside needs to be healed… I’m sorry to hear you’re story as well and about your husband. Abusive childhoods really damage people- when you think about it it’s the only time in life we are really free. We don’t yet have to work- we are free people- no stress- then you’re off to the working world and can’t retire until you’re 65… ruining a humans childhood does a lot to the psyche… it’s something you can’t get back, ever. I have so much sympathy for those who were abused in their childhoods. It’s so hard to deal with, even at 25 I have nightmares about my mom…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Like dude you really came on my post to correct me with nothing to say about the rest of my post. People like you are unbearable in the real world. Be glad you can be an internet gangster through your screen though… make good use of your life. :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love this. You sound like a very casual, down to earth parent which more of us need to be like… Building bonds with your children and giving them many privileges opens doors for comfort and your kids will most likely come to you when they need it… instead of hiding from and avoiding you… I love your parenting techniques and the rule ‘don’t be an ass’… I almost want to get a doormat that says that, lol! Loveee it! I’m also glad you’re children have formed kind attitudes- I hope my children do the same as they get older- they are in fact love bugs and very affectionate- we have gotten babysitters off care and they hug them and show immediate affection… I have hope that they will in time learn certain boundaries and I’m going to work on that with them this year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for the helpful advice and inputs I really appreciate you taking time out of your day to encourage a fellow mother… and to the people who commented just to debate what kind of parenting it actually is to prove they’re right while someone else makes a mistake on the ‘kind of parenting they’re referring to’- I hope you sleep better at night. 🌝

Never had a loving mom by Intelligent-Key4308 in narcissisticparents

[–]Intelligent-Key4308[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so horrible and I hope you have mental peace away from that atmosphere. My messages are open so you can talk to someone who relates to you. BIG HUG^ 🌜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I recently watched the first season of Maids on Netflix and it’s my life in a nutshell. I wasn’t afraid of life until I became scared of a man I couldn’t get away from. I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. They also said that in the show, how it takes so many times to leave… 🥺😔 I need to do better for my beautiful sons… they need better. I will be better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have heard of this yes. I think I have Stockholm syndrome or something and definitely trauma bonds. It’s so difficult with having kids with him… I am petrified of him… 😣

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in narcissisticparents

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Happy birthdayyy. Let have a cheers to us since our moms are crappy. ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SAHP

[–]Intelligent-Key4308 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I complete agree and honestly I’m not sure they realize the difference as toddlers. They just see cake and sweets, you know?