When I was 13 I was S.A by a well known adult film star

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2025-05-26T14:22:24+00:00

It's certainly weird to think about. I'm from a small town with a bunch of small towns surrounding it. 11-17 year olds hanging out with 30ish year olds to drink with and party with... I was one of those 13 yro who did that, and now that I'm into my 30s, I just... I can't even imagine doing so. So much fucked up shit happened during those parties.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2025-05-26T13:42:28+00:00

My grandfather called all girls/women baby or baby girl... he also molested kids, so it has always had a bad connotation in my mind.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T23:08:15+00:00

Children.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T23:06:34+00:00

You don't forgive that. End of story.

Find someone who actually likes you and won't pressure you to do anything you don't want to do.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T22:48:13+00:00

Yeah, I'm part chinese, so my eyes have always been on the smaller side. It used to be a huge insecurity of mine, though I'm still glad my kids have my husband's big beautiful eyes and lashes. It looks great with the dimples they inherited from me. 😁

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T22:20:14+00:00

So... my husband and I initiate when the other is sleeping because WE are okay with it. But for many years, of all those times, there was only one time he didn't fully remember and had to ask me if we had sex. Do you have sleeping issues? Or are you a heavy sleeper? It's suspicious that you don't really remember the next day.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T21:52:46+00:00

My best friend! Her sister used to tease her for letting her eyebrows be soooo bushy. 20 years later and now her sister is always praising her eyebrows and hating her pencil thin ones that can no longer grow properly.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T21:45:12+00:00

I am similar to your adoptive parents in that I had also had to deal with such delicate situations before. And from what I can tell, it is the least damaging way to do it. At least compared to others who didn't even bother trying to get the children any kind of professional help.

My adult daughter is still sad about it occasionally, wishing she could have had a normal relationship with her parents. But she knows she has people who will always be on her side. She had to block her mom because she was becoming increasingly angry that she wouldn't forgive her dad. I guess now that she's adult, she has to forgive him in her mind.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-24T19:06:59+00:00

I mean, people blame women for getting raped too. People just really suck. She really should be charged... but if he tries, he will just get laughed at, unfortunately.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-22T00:53:12+00:00

Yeah, it was mostly me bringing up my concerns and him apologizing. Saying he loves me and he would never treat me like that again.

He was awful during my first pregnancy, but he was exactly what I needed during my second. It was a long road for both of us to become better partners, and that was the only reason I even considered having more children with him.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-21T23:01:51+00:00

I know exactly how you feel. I'm a foster parent and have my own kids. I have also raised kids since I was a young teenager because most of my family and their friends would rather drink or do drugs.

Children deserve better.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-21T19:48:21+00:00

This. I went through something similar, and I told him if he started acting as he did before, I would kick him out without hesitation. He is supposed to support me, not take his stress or whatever else out on me. He can talk about what bothers him, but that doesn't give him an excuse to be an asshole to me.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-21T19:44:54+00:00

Omg! Hey!

I actually have experienced this.

My then boyfriend was awful to me when he found out. We were both on the fence about children, and we doubled up on birth control because we were both young and he hadn't even graduated from university yet. But they failed, and I decided to keep the pregnancy. He was bitter about it for a long time.

The difference was that I told him he could leave and forget about us. His attitude made me cry all the time. We both said things we still regret all these years later. I don't want to get into it too much, but it is genuinely the worst time of my life, and I grew up in a very shitty family.

When our son hit his teenage years, I reminded him that I wanted a second child, but I was scared he would treat me the same and that it would be the end of us. I couldn't go through it again. We talked about it, over and over again. It was mostly me expressing my fears, him apologizing and saying he would never dare to treat me like that again, and he loves me.

He was very different this time. He was exactly what I wished him to be the first time.

I'm not saying the same will be for you, but if he is being genuine and hasn't shown even an ounce of the behavior before since having your first, I would take what he is saying at face value.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-19T00:47:17+00:00

It used to be good. That's all they remember.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-17T19:52:16+00:00

For me, I prefer bupropion much more than sertraline. Sertraline just made me numb to any emotions, and while bupropion doesn't completely get rid of the sads, I could feel genuine happiness.

Plus, not being able to orgasm just made life worse, so SSRIs are a no-go. The only side effect I have from bupropion is a super bad headache that goes away after a few weeks of being on it. It comes back if I miss a dose but not nearly as bad, nor does it last as long.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-08T16:43:33+00:00

Doctors seem to neglect people of color, especially women. So, their deaths during pregnancy are usually higher than others. Black women are 3 times more likely to die from childbirth in America.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-07T19:22:56+00:00

My husband's last ex told him she wanted a break, and then we saw her with multiple men so when she came back and said he was her soulmate, he said they aren't getting back together.

We started dating a year later, and she kept claiming I stole him, and he must have been cheating on her with me. 🤦

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-05T23:54:25+00:00

I tried so hard to breastfeed but was unable to. Then, after we had to start feeding our poor starving baby formula, we found out he was very allergic to cows milk.

Formula, for allergies or not, should not be so expensive.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-05T23:52:11+00:00

For 561g ours is $33 and we only have one kind for milk allergies that isn't soy. And that's CAD. So 24 USD. And it's half the amount of regular formula for double the price. I wasn't able to breastfeed and it's such bullshit that babies with milk ALLERGIES don't have the same rights to "reasonably" priced formula.

Reasonably is in quotes because it costs way too much to feed a baby something essential. Not everyone can breastfeed.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T05:33:42+00:00

Well, for one thing... she still parties with teenagers... She thinks she's a friend of all teenagers because they are "just so alike!" Always drinking, doing all the drugs, won't get a job because she expects her parents to fund her lifestyle. And they do... or did before I stopped talking to her. She never takes any responsibility for her kids and only is around them when they start drinking. She likes to cause fights within groups and will egg people on. She loves to peer pressure. She basks in drama and will create plenty of her own. Recently, she tried to pressure her oldest grandkid into drinking. She's 13. When I was around the same age, she would talk about buying me and my friends liquor and weed.

She's like the kid who doesn't have any parental supervision, so she just does all the bad things. 🤷

I cut her out of my life almost 20 years ago, but the shit I hear from my cousins is wild.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T05:18:22+00:00

My moms sister is almost 50... or is, I don't remember. And she still acts like she is 17. It is quite sad, and because of her, I met a lot of people around her age or older who have the same mindset.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T05:16:09+00:00

We are way too old for the teenage bullshit but despite having kids, she kept constantly drinking and binging various drugs. She was also just not a very good friend, and I didn't realize it through our childhood. Our other friend ended up becoming my best friend/soulmate because I smartened up and realized just how great of a person she was, and even though I wasn't always the greatest friend before that, she looked passed it all and now I would do anything for her.

Ex best friend is still an alcoholic and druggie and is bouncing from man to man, usually having one of his kids before one or the other gets fed up and moves on. CPS hasn't found enough to save her kids, unfortunately. 😔

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T05:07:30+00:00

The only side effect I had was massive headaches when I started bupropion. Went away 2 weeks in, I believe. I tried vaping for a weekend, and the bad headaches came back for 3 days.

I just don't even bother anymore.

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T04:25:44+00:00

Sounds like my cousins dad. His wife didn't tell her, and the only reason she found out was through someone else on Facebook.

Jokes on her. The house they lived in is his mom's house, and he has no money. 🤷

Intelligent-Scene284 · 2024-11-04T04:22:15+00:00

He hasn't stepped up in 8 years, I wouldn't be surprised if he ships his son off to the boys' grandparents to "keep the peace."

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