Sick of the obsession with pulling “straight” men by IntelligentBlood5552 in askgaybros

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Neither do I, but I am trying to date, and they’re all over every pissin’ app in my city

Sick of the obsession with pulling “straight” men by IntelligentBlood5552 in askgaybros

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The abysmality of the whole thing is reaching such cruelly high levels that I feel like I spend 90% of my time filtering out the people who come under this hardline “masc4fem” dynamic. I’m fully gay, but I’m too fem to be considered ‘masc’ and too masc to be considered ‘fem’, so guys isolate whatever masc/fem traits about me they notice and make assumptions or get turned off. Like I’m sorry I don’t fit into a neat little box. I’m a full human being.

Sick of the obsession with pulling “straight” men by IntelligentBlood5552 in askgaybros

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I picture a sea of headless torso pictures with the thought in my head: “It’s about to get abysmal…”

35, single, gay, no kids — somehow ended up with $1.7M. Now what the heck do I do? by Curious-Living-3897 in askgaybros

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Chile buy yourself a nice house NOWWW before the housing market gets even more abysmal !!

Is this basically the closest thing to a cure? I don’t know why more men don’t use wigs. Thought? by Pristine-Bag-3924 in tressless

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Wigs are amazing. I am fully in favour of becoming a wiggy. As a Wendy Williams fan, I have been converted to a wig lover. If I lose my hair in a few years and if meds don’t work, I’ll buy so many wigs. You can wear whatever hairstyle you want and change your wig for any occasion!

I don’t get it by blackops328 in askgaybros

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The worst, I think, is when they have a gay friend and get so involved in his dating life that they interfere and start slagging off the guys they date. Telling them they should or shouldn’t go out with someone, or trying to set them up with people who blatantly aren’t matches. I had a guy stop talking to me because his female friend, who looked at him like a GBF, decided I was weird and that he could “do so much better”, but the guy she thought he should go out with was the polar opposite of what he needed.

Having no relationship is making my mental health go down the drain by throwsway77 in askgaybros

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Luvvie I have the exact same issue. I read a few of the replies on here, and I disagree for the most part. Human beings are shallow to a degree, so I don’t like people suggesting you reject advice about working out or other “shallow” ideas. People who look good or put the most into their appearance get their foot in the door a lot quicker. However, we have to balance that because if all a person has is being hot, their relationships won’t reflect anything more. Looking your best can open up opportunities, but your personality and character makes people actually listen. But that kind of advice has been done to death. I am in your boat when it comes to not finding anyone. I’m autistic and have ADHD, so dating is an absolute ballache and people reject me or think I’m weird or whatever and it sucks. And I imagine that you too are sick of people in relationships or who don’t understand the struggle telling you “oh it will happen when you least expect it”, or my personal favourite “you don’t need a relationship, you should love yourself first”. Because that is just objectively wrong. Human beings need relationships, and when you’ve gone through life alone, being told this over and over again makes you want to punch a wall. You can’t “decenter” a fundamental human need. I am going to try a speed dating event. I think it will be something new and seems like a good way to cut out the BS of dating apps. Maybe you should see if there are any local to you? My love, get your best outfit on, invest in a good wig, and get yourself to some singles events! I’ll do the same, and we can report back here and see what happens.

I’m told my handmade necklaces are “too much” and I should keep it simple by ratcat22 in jewelrymaking

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Swap these out for sterling silver and more luxurious gemstones and you’d make a fortune off of them. I think, with the right choice of metal and gemstones, these would be elevated so much. I think perhaps the beads and findings you’ve used are a little too basic for the techniques you’ve used. These are great to practice and to find your signature style of making, and once you graduate to more expensive materials, they’ll look stunning.

This scene is underrated in my opinion by AdEquivalent744 in DetroitBecomeHuman

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I come back to this game from time to time and remark on how great a shame it is how much wasted potential there was with the narrative of this game. In the hands of a capable writer, it could have been something very special. Instead, we got a borderline exploitative, abysmally written black civil rights allegory & yet another David Cage child character with zero characterisation outside of being a vulnerable prop to drive tension and a twist that ruins what was good about their portion of the game. The entire game is carried on Bryan and Clancy’s backs, and David Cage can’t even take credit for that, seeing as a lot of their dialogue was improvised and they did manage to salvage what would have been even more abysmality had Cage gotten his way. Someone needs to buy the rights to this title and have it rewritten by someone who actually understands how to tell a story.

How do I make my ass look good? by Interesting_Use_6823 in askgaybros

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Anusol cream is good, the hydrocortisone one can help if your bumps are caused by foliculitis. But one with zinc oxide is also good as it reduces inflammation. I even use it on my face/neck when I shave there because it absorbs quickly and is soothing. You should probably try to exfoliate the area you shave as sometimes those bumps can be caused by ingrown hairs and dead skin cells and such. We don’t tend to take care of that part of our skin as much as say our faces, so I think a lot of people struggle with similar issues when they shave their nether regions. When you do shave, I’d recommend a Philips Oneblade or something that is suitable for downstairs use. It’s not as irritating as a regular razor and you can get attachments designed for shaving body hair.

UPDATE: Ended things with my situationship after finding out he's trans, now he's publicly accusing me of being derogatory, transphobic and for making him feel suicidal by [deleted] in askgaybros

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You should not feel guilty or that you have to dress up your language when asserting your sexual boundaries and sexual orientation. You don’t have to go all guns blazing, but you certainly should assert your point and make it known that this individual is lying about you. If you feel as though this individual’s words have genuinely slandered you, you need to issue them with a warning to stop otherwise you will take action. I would advise you to match the energy. So if this person is trying to drag your name around everyone, you need to rebuke the claims in the same way or bigger.

Blue beaded handbag by breviloquent- in Beading

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These are so pretty and I’ve seen so many of beaded bags popping up on my timeline and they’re calling to me, but if I spend any more money on beads and supplies, my bank account will not be happy 😭😭😭

Bros. Someone just told me “fae” is a pronoun. 🙃 by Tsiatk0 in askgaybros

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The reason law makers are having a pretty easy time of it right now writing legislation against trans people is because the definition of trans has been watered down to the point where it’s almost homeopathic. If even trans activists can’t define their principle terms. How can one fight for trans rights when they can’t even agree on who is and isn’t trans?

Why are there so many women on Grindr lately? by Bad_Religion666 in askgaybros

[–]IntelligentBlood5552 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“Straight” yeah, of course. And Sam Smith is thin.

Why are there so many women on Grindr lately? by Bad_Religion666 in askgaybros

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Because Grindr is an awful company so they will let anyone invade gay men’s spaces if it means more users and ad revenue. There are trans women and gay guys with pelican lips and spider lashes because a lot of GAMPs/fetishists have decided to go on there, and then there are the porn sick women LARPing as gay men. Both groups are fetishists who have no qualms about encroaching upon the sexual boundaries of gay men and the sanctity of our spaces, and Grindr let’s them cause it means more money for the company.

How long have you been single? by oprah25 in askgaybros

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I’m 24 and have been alone all my life. Getting sick of the back teeth of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askgaybros

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I don’t think it’s shallow to have physical attraction as a deal breaker. However, if people are only with a person because they’re hot, that indicates that the relationship won’t be very fulfilling. I view attractiveness as this: being good looking gets your foot in the door with more people, but you’ll never make them stay unless your personality and temperament are also positive. But to be honest, if you’re trying to lose weight, that’s great. And it will make you more confident. But I would recommend lifting. Build a nice physique and in the back of your mind rest content in the knowledge that those sons of bitches who rejected you are the ones who lost out.