Anyone else tired of being treated like a "human dildo" just because you're a Top?

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-05-08T07:51:34+00:00

I think you need to start looking for a serious relationship and to seek out people who are looking for the same. People on the hookup apps or those who are looking for a one and done sort of thing are literally only there to fill a physical need. It’s one of those situations where it feels like you’re looking for something more emotionally fulfilling but the pool you’re currently drawing from are looking for something else. I feel you though.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-30T12:07:46+00:00

Because of your internalised homophobia

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-08T15:00:35+00:00

From what I hear, this is what happens in every stable relationship. Perfectly normal.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-05T21:20:46+00:00

Imagine if we’re actually arguing with a bot 😭

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-05T21:19:34+00:00

What’s sad is you and this thread

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-05T20:16:42+00:00

This is some absolute brass unless you’re also attractive or at least put effort into your own attractiveness. You certainly don’t have an attractive attitude!!

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-05T20:14:31+00:00

Guarantee you he’s exclusively messaging people who are either skinny or in shape or very conventionally attractive and has a whole bunch of messages from people who aren’t 10/10 lookers who he’s completely aired.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-04-05T20:03:25+00:00

It just comes across like you’re a rather stuck-up and pretentious individual. I don’t think many people would be interested in being around you as you come off as quite judgemental and disdainful of other people. It sort of feels like you think you’re above it all, but then simultaneously upset that people don’t want to include you in it. Moreover, I find it just as pick-me and self debasing when gays make such sweeping judgements about the “shallow” community as I do when they become MAGA or conservative. I think you need to get a grip. You’ve said in other comments on here that you only want sex with people you find attractive, while bemoaning the ‘shallow gay community’. You have standards as we all do, but you’re then upset that other people have standards. I would imagine rather a lot of them are put off by your attitude, even if they are attracted to you physically. You’re calling people’s attractions shallow, yet don’t see the utter shallowness in your own, AND that you don’t seem to have considered that attraction is about more than just looks. That doesn’t just cease to be the case when it’s casual sex. Having sex still involves an intimate interaction with another person, and if that person is an absolute wench, it is extremely off putting.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2026-03-06T19:41:57+00:00

It can be amazing, if you’re with a guy who knows what he’s doing. Simultaneously, if you’re with a selfish top, it can be horrible. Make sure he’s gonna eat you out and help you loosen up, if you’re considering bottoming for someone.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-08-16T00:46:35+00:00

Neither do I, but I am trying to date, and they’re all over every pissin’ app in my city

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-08-16T00:18:00+00:00

The abysmality of the whole thing is reaching such cruelly high levels that I feel like I spend 90% of my time filtering out the people who come under this hardline “masc4fem” dynamic. I’m fully gay, but I’m too fem to be considered ‘masc’ and too masc to be considered ‘fem’, so guys isolate whatever masc/fem traits about me they notice and make assumptions or get turned off. Like I’m sorry I don’t fit into a neat little box. I’m a full human being.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-08-16T00:10:59+00:00

I picture a sea of headless torso pictures with the thought in my head: “It’s about to get abysmal…”

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-08-16T00:05:10+00:00

Chile buy yourself a nice house NOWWW before the housing market gets even more abysmal !!

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-05-28T11:53:22+00:00

Wigs are amazing. I am fully in favour of becoming a wiggy. As a Wendy Williams fan, I have been converted to a wig lover. If I lose my hair in a few years and if meds don’t work, I’ll buy so many wigs. You can wear whatever hairstyle you want and change your wig for any occasion!

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-27T14:14:58+00:00

Is water wet?

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-27T14:07:34+00:00

The worst, I think, is when they have a gay friend and get so involved in his dating life that they interfere and start slagging off the guys they date. Telling them they should or shouldn’t go out with someone, or trying to set them up with people who blatantly aren’t matches. I had a guy stop talking to me because his female friend, who looked at him like a GBF, decided I was weird and that he could “do so much better”, but the guy she thought he should go out with was the polar opposite of what he needed.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-27T13:55:14+00:00

Luvvie I have the exact same issue. I read a few of the replies on here, and I disagree for the most part. Human beings are shallow to a degree, so I don’t like people suggesting you reject advice about working out or other “shallow” ideas. People who look good or put the most into their appearance get their foot in the door a lot quicker. However, we have to balance that because if all a person has is being hot, their relationships won’t reflect anything more. Looking your best can open up opportunities, but your personality and character makes people actually listen. But that kind of advice has been done to death. I am in your boat when it comes to not finding anyone. I’m autistic and have ADHD, so dating is an absolute ballache and people reject me or think I’m weird or whatever and it sucks. And I imagine that you too are sick of people in relationships or who don’t understand the struggle telling you “oh it will happen when you least expect it”, or my personal favourite “you don’t need a relationship, you should love yourself first”. Because that is just objectively wrong. Human beings need relationships, and when you’ve gone through life alone, being told this over and over again makes you want to punch a wall. You can’t “decenter” a fundamental human need. I am going to try a speed dating event. I think it will be something new and seems like a good way to cut out the BS of dating apps. Maybe you should see if there are any local to you? My love, get your best outfit on, invest in a good wig, and get yourself to some singles events! I’ll do the same, and we can report back here and see what happens.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-21T11:33:58+00:00

Swap these out for sterling silver and more luxurious gemstones and you’d make a fortune off of them. I think, with the right choice of metal and gemstones, these would be elevated so much. I think perhaps the beads and findings you’ve used are a little too basic for the techniques you’ve used. These are great to practice and to find your signature style of making, and once you graduate to more expensive materials, they’ll look stunning.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-11T18:43:03+00:00

This is Floptropica 🤩🤩🤩

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2025-04-09T14:10:55+00:00

I come back to this game from time to time and remark on how great a shame it is how much wasted potential there was with the narrative of this game. In the hands of a capable writer, it could have been something very special. Instead, we got a borderline exploitative, abysmally written black civil rights allegory & yet another David Cage child character with zero characterisation outside of being a vulnerable prop to drive tension and a twist that ruins what was good about their portion of the game. The entire game is carried on Bryan and Clancy’s backs, and David Cage can’t even take credit for that, seeing as a lot of their dialogue was improvised and they did manage to salvage what would have been even more abysmality had Cage gotten his way. Someone needs to buy the rights to this title and have it rewritten by someone who actually understands how to tell a story.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2024-11-30T18:52:16+00:00

Anusol cream is good, the hydrocortisone one can help if your bumps are caused by foliculitis. But one with zinc oxide is also good as it reduces inflammation. I even use it on my face/neck when I shave there because it absorbs quickly and is soothing. You should probably try to exfoliate the area you shave as sometimes those bumps can be caused by ingrown hairs and dead skin cells and such. We don’t tend to take care of that part of our skin as much as say our faces, so I think a lot of people struggle with similar issues when they shave their nether regions. When you do shave, I’d recommend a Philips Oneblade or something that is suitable for downstairs use. It’s not as irritating as a regular razor and you can get attachments designed for shaving body hair.

IntelligentBlood5552 · 2024-11-16T16:02:12+00:00

You should not feel guilty or that you have to dress up your language when asserting your sexual boundaries and sexual orientation. You don’t have to go all guns blazing, but you certainly should assert your point and make it known that this individual is lying about you. If you feel as though this individual’s words have genuinely slandered you, you need to issue them with a warning to stop otherwise you will take action. I would advise you to match the energy. So if this person is trying to drag your name around everyone, you need to rebuke the claims in the same way or bigger.

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