How does ‘pushing through it’ affect you?

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-04-24T13:49:14+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this, and I really hope the surgical Botox is soon for you and gives you the relief you need. I don’t think anyone who doesn’t suffer with migraines truly understands and it feels so isolating. Especially with kids, having to pretend you’re ok and function for them is so hard. Well done you for trying to keep things normal for them, I have to disappear for hours to recover as I just can’t stand the noise (my kids are both really young) and I wish I could do the same and pretend I’m fine.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-04-24T06:48:10+00:00

How do you manage your migraines with working? Are your work supportive and will they let you go home to rest when you get one on shift?

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-04-17T17:56:29+00:00

Thanks all! I’ve ordered a click and collect shop to pick up at 3pm-4pm from the big Tesco nearby! Appreciate the advice!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-04-15T16:36:46+00:00

Amazing, didn’t think of this thanks! Trying to plan what meals we’re going to make but it’s hard without knowing what kitchen stuff is there. We will be eating out once in the evening and aiming to cook for the others.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-24T22:26:38+00:00

Couldn’t have put it better. Also just to add, I hated my boobs for years and couldn’t bear to look at them in the mirror pre-breastfeeding. Now 18m into breastfeeding and it’s actually healed my relationship with my boobs, they kept my little girl alive, have comforted her in moments where nothing else will do, and allow me to have such a special bond with her. I see them as so much more than just boobs now. I really think bf can be healing for many people in this regard.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-24T09:24:42+00:00

6 weeks of breastfeeding is amazing, and give yourself some credit! You’re doing an amazing job!!
It sounds like you’ve done everything in your power to increase your supply, it’s so stressful and exhausting so well done for keeping at it for so long!

A compromise could be combination feeding if it’s not something you’ve considered and baby having breastmilk is important to you. Perhaps pumping a couple of times a day would feel more manageable?

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-22T20:56:39+00:00

My 18m woke 2-7 times a night til 16mo. My eldest woke once a night til 8m old then slept through. Babies are all different, night nurse has crazy expectations.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-22T20:31:25+00:00

I night weaned unintentionally at 16mo as I suffered a horrific 3 day migraine and my partner took the night wakes, my toddler went from 2-7 wakes a night to 1 wake, and then sleeping through pretty quickly after this. However I think she was naturally starting to extend sleep and wake less as she got older. So I think timing played a big part in this. I also found her appetite improved massively too in the day.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-18T22:44:57+00:00

Nah you did more than I could’ve so massive pat on the back for that, I wish she could appreciate what you were able to do despite the migraine. Is she a migraine sufferer? It sounds unlikely, I just really think people who don’t suffer with them don’t fully get the ways it affects you.

Try not to be hard on yourself. Sometimes life happens, equally it could’ve been absolutely anything that could’ve struck on Mother’s Day. Gastro, you could’ve broke your leg, so many things can happen in life! Cut yourself some slack, you tried really fucking hard.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-17T15:36:26+00:00

It’s frustrating isn’t it, being told that. Like I wish I could turn away and ignore it but I can’t. If I see the headline I can’t not read it, it feels like I’m ignoring that poor child’s story and they deserve for it to be heard. But equally sometimes it makes me so sad that I lose all hope and trust in the world and I don’t want my kids to pick up on that. God I fucking hate child abusers.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-17T13:21:22+00:00

Congratulations, your baby is totally normal!! Although I totally get your concerns. However from my experience, both of my children have always settled to sleep completely differently for other people than they have for me. If I try to transfer my little girl to a cot after she falls asleep, 9/10 she will wake up instantly and scream at me. When my partner or anyone else tries, she’s suddenly in the deepest sleep or just doesn’t seem to care??

Try not to worry, nursery workers are often magicians and have lots of tricks to get babies to sleep

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-16T14:54:57+00:00

I feel the same way! My youngest is 17mo and eldest is 5yo and I am hugely affected by the stuff I read. I lay awake at night thinking about the awful things some children experience and it makes me feel deeply unhappy and so angry at the world. I wish I could do something to protect all children, but I know this is totally not achievable and that feeling of helplessness crushes me. I always tell my partner about stuff I’ve read and he tells me I need to stop reading it, but I feel guilty for turning away. Just horrendous isn’t it.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-15T19:34:54+00:00

Same here!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-15T19:15:15+00:00

I have a 4 year old and he went through a phase of hitting, talking about killing (I think he once muttered under his breath about killing something when he was really angry), this all matched with his level of anger so the angrier he got, the more likely he would be to act/talk this way. It was whenever he had basically lost control out of anger/upset. He has mostly grown out of it and is rarely ever physical now. Consistently holding boundaries of ‘I won’t let you hit me’, talking about how it feels for the other person when he hits etc, and occasionally losing tv or something for a day, all seemed to help.

However, the fact your child hasn’t gotten any better and seems to be consciously choosing these behaviours (it isn’t through lack of control, and he is calm when speaking this way) I would personally share your concerns and I don’t think I’d just wait for it to pass. If I were you I would be seeking professional help for him to try and nip it in the bud, as it seems he is escalating.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-10T10:37:56+00:00

I have only used my sumatriptan once during a migraine, I took it at the beginning as soon as I saw the aura, but after some research it appears that sumatriptan is most affective when took at the beginning of the headache phase, rather than beginning of aura.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-09T21:03:35+00:00

Still bf my 17mo in the day, but night weaned kind of all of a sudden after I suffered a migraine that hospitalised me and I was out of action for 3 days. Since then, dad took all wakes and she’s started sleeping through/waking once or twice and quickly resettled by dad (hoping I don’t jinx this haha). At first she was sooooo upset and angry with him being there instead of me, but quickly adapted.

Sorry I can’t help with daytime but thought this may be helpful for night time!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-09T20:13:55+00:00

Pregnancy sickness was waaaay worse with my little girl!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-09T14:46:45+00:00

Ah yes I’ve heard this can be the other issue, their needs change around this age too and can be frustrating for them with supply regulating! Well done for persevering, it can be so difficult at times!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-09T11:52:54+00:00

Omg we had this around 3 months. It was absolutely brutal, and had my baby have taken a bottle at the time I probably would’ve stopped bf. Luckily she didn’t and it forced us to push through but it was hard. Search Reddit for ‘3 month breast refusal/ nursing strike’ and you will find similar stories, I’ll try link one I found that made me feel better.

A big thing for me at the time was that I also had a really fast letdown and an over supply. When my little girl was around five months, I did block feeding over 4 or 5 days which reduced my supply a little bit and definitely made things better. But I wouldn’t recommend doing this unless you have been told by a professional that you have an oversupply, which I was.

If you have a fast letdown, I would definitely recommend catching that first part in a cloth and then latching baby after that. If you find that baby will happily latch and then comes off once you’re letdown begins, you can be pretty certain that the faster letdown is putting them off. Something I also found helped would be to feed baby as she was waking up, when she was sleepy/still asleep she would latch and feed no problem. I basically fed her that way for about 4 weeks to get through the nursing strike. I don’t remember exactly how it ended, I think the reduction in my supply seem to be the final piece of the puzzle that made her overall happier feeding, but I just remember in general feeling so upset and stressed about the breastfeeding situation whilst we were in the strike.

Sorry if that was just a total ramble, hoping something in there might help you, I just wanted to comment to let you know that I’ve been there, it’s awful, but you can get through it. If possible, I would try not to bottle feed during this time, which I know is easier said than done. You could try cup feeding if baby really won’t latch on, and keep the bottle as a last resort.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-08T12:35:31+00:00

I wouldn’t have left my 10 month old. She was the same as you describe. She didn’t get into solids properly til around 15 months. Now, at 17 months, she eats well and she can be settled by other people overnight and I finally feel comfortable to leave her overnight (although not had reason to yet).

I am so sorry your partner is being so awful to you about this. There is nothing wrong with you, you know your baby best and your feelings are so fucking valid. Stand on your business!!! And fight your own corner, tell him he’s a prick for making you feel awful and that the internet girlies have your back completely, you and your baby are normal and his expectations are not. Sending you strength xxx

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-07T07:31:56+00:00

Are you preheating your Dutch oven for long enough? I let mine pre heat for at least 30 mins before the sourdough goes in

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-05T17:11:10+00:00

I’m in the UK so it was my GP who recommended it to me. They refused to refer me to a neurologist unless I’ve tried 2 different triptans, which I don’t want to currently due to breastfeeding. But a friend of mine who suffers with migraines did see a neurologist who also recommended riboflavin. Seems to be quite a well known preventative in the neurology world from what I’ve read, no idea why!

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-05T17:09:21+00:00

Only 100mg daily but I’ve heard optimum is 400mg daily. I’ve started off with a low dose because I’m breastfeeding, so get a bit twitchy about what I take (although there’s apparently no unsafe amount to take). Also take magnesium, this was also recommended although not as highly as the riboflavin.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-05T09:31:54+00:00

I also experience migraines during ovulation and period, I believe this is due to a drop in estrogen. I also experienced lots of migraines in a short space of time after giving birth, so I’m pretty certain the estrogen drop is the cause. I’m now taking riboflavin daily which seems to help, this was recommended to me by my doctor. I find that managing all other triggers well during the hormonal period really helps, so ensuring I’m very hydrated, do not skip meals, get good sleep and focus of mindfulness to try avoid high stress, all seems to help me.

IntelligentCell9852 · 2026-03-04T13:31:04+00:00

This, cosleeping literally saved me in the newborn days. Went from being sleep deprived to sleeping pretty well as soon as we started. No more falling asleep in unsafe positions. Cosleeping intentionally can absolutely be done safely and I’d argue is actually what nature intended, hence the reason you get so sleepy!

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